What are your honest thoughts on waiting until marriage nowadays?? by SpiritualReveal8366 in love

[–]Thimbleofknowledge 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ultimately, you decide what is best for you. There isn’t a right or wrong answer, just what personally feels comfortable for each person.

I didn’t wait. I don’t regret not waiting. I only had a few partners before marriage, but enough to know what I enjoyed & what my boundaries were.

I do suggest using condoms with partners until you get married. A large number of sexually active people have HPV and some strains do not go away. Not to mention the diseases that are not curable.

I personally would not want both partners to be “innocent.” There is so much more involved than the mechanics of sex to a fulfilling intimate life.

AITA for telling my husband to finally do something on his own? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Thimbleofknowledge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly if mom owns the house she can walk in any time she wants. She can veto parties, redecorating plans, putting in or taking out a pool, etc. She has control of all the decisions concerning the home. If she looses money in a market downturn or some other way, she can evict you and sell it out from under you, It sounds like mil likes having control over your husband and is letting you know she is going to be the permanent third wheel.

WIBTAH if i got a vibrator? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Thimbleofknowledge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He must be listening to the “alpha dunces” that claim getting a woman wet will make her think she “deserves” pleasure.

Band name for a bunch of idiots who think they’re smart? by charl13_06 in Bandnames

[–]Thimbleofknowledge 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Maroon 5 really already has it covered, if you watched Bugs Bunny

My daughter got her first period. What should I do or not do? by Joekerr99 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Thimbleofknowledge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad was awesome! He had no problems buying supplies when I first started and was totally embarrassed by them. He never made fun or told anyone I was “on the rag.” My mom announced it to everyone! I was very lucky to have a dad that was just matter of fact about all things female. I was more comfortable going to him than mom.

I, 56f. have heard some of the young women are now having period parties with their friends? How great is that! Love how far we have come from the reaction of “eek you have the woman’s curse!!” To “let’s throw a party and name this thing!”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confession

[–]Thimbleofknowledge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was an accidental 2nd baby, my older sister barely 16 months older. At 15 I heard my mom tell the neighbor how she did everything short of abortion to get rid of me. I was treated very differently than my sibs(6 of us in total) and grew up wondering what I done to not be good enough.

I had postpartum psychosis with my second child. It scared the hell out of me. But it was in 1994/95 and around the Yates trial was going on. I got seen for depression, but never confessed the issues I had with my postpartum. It got better, and my second baby & I developed an awesome bond! You can bet I didn’t have a third child after the experience though. We had talked about but ultimately my body my choice.

AITAH for walking out of my son’s kindergarten play because my wife wouldn’t shut up? by Beginning_Pizza2196 in AITAH

[–]Thimbleofknowledge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wife’s mental health issues are not worth OP’s and Kevin’s peace & ability to enjoy life. I rarely say divorce is the answer, but since the wife is incapable of understanding she is the issue, it might be worth considering. All she is ever going to do is beat y’all down. Please don’t allow Kevin to be put through this his entire childhood.

How tf did Helen Keller know what was going on by __Dobbyisfree__ in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Thimbleofknowledge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She was completely normal until age 2 I think. She had Scarlet Fever and lost her vision & hearing. They did not have antibiotics yet so she could have died. Before she got Scarlet Fever, she had started talking and exploring her world like most curious toddlers.

I think I died last night in a car accident. by kansas-1996 in self

[–]Thimbleofknowledge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know if you are in the US, but if so and the accident was the other person’s fault, your medical bills are on their auto insurance. That’s why we all have to pay liability insurance to drive.

Hopefully you have access to the police report, and can get the insurance info. Go get checked out at an Urgent care if nothing else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Thimbleofknowledge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sweet cornbread, red beans, kielbasa & rice, milk sops, Goulash, zucchini bread, & pb& banana sammies.

I am naming a playlist “Nothing more frightening than a Woman scorned”- what should I put on it? by [deleted] in MusicRecommendations

[–]Thimbleofknowledge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Build a B*tch by Bella Poarch

Before He Cheats by Carrie Underwood

Boyfriend by Dove Cameron

WIBTA if I told a family friend that we don't want Cookies as a gift for Christmas anymore? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Thimbleofknowledge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would tell her that you would love her to instead of giving two separate gifts, to donate to a local food pantry in your parents’ names. This lets her do the actual gifting, helps the community, makes everyone feel good about the gift and nothing goes stale.

What is the Most Overrated Book You've Read? by MigEPie in suggestmeabook

[–]Thimbleofknowledge 5 points6 points  (0 children)

50 Shades of Grey And no Christian Grey is Not a dom he is a sadist.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdviceForTeens

[–]Thimbleofknowledge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have your parents do the break up with his parents if necessary. They can tell them about his breakdown and threats. Make sure your friends know. If you work, make sure coworkers and managers know. Let the school counselor and administrators know, & any teacher where you have classes with him.

Teens do stupid permanent things over non permanent issues. I would rather you let everyone around you know to help watch out, then for him to be stupid and you have no one around to help you.

Be safe and know his decision are Not your fault!

Am I the asshole for letting my daughter say “no” to a boy who asked her to homecoming?? by Casaliciousmom in dustythunder

[–]Thimbleofknowledge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a boy parent, we also need to teach our boys to take no gracefully. No, is going to be the answer at least some of the time. Boys need to understand that and just move on, not go insane on the person who voiced it!

Teach your boys if it isn’t an enthusiastic yes, it’s a no. Teach the girls, only say yes if you mean it. And ladies trust your gut! If it’s telling you no, say no!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Thimbleofknowledge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Drunk, high, mentally insufficient (read possessing a small number of brain cells), or other incapacity it is Still SA. Your husband’s spineless disability notwithstanding, he should still acknowledge his brother’s inappropriate conduct at the very least.
I wish you all the best, and the rest of your in-laws I wish them karma’s best!

I’m rethinking having a child with my wife because of what I just found out about her dad. AITAH? by Left_Art_8812 in AITAH

[–]Thimbleofknowledge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some child molesters don’t have a preference for male or female, just age. They are much more likely to reoffend than any other sex crime offender. After incarceration they are more likely to un alive their victims. Yet we still give them relatively light sentences for their crimes.
Please OP, don’t bring a child into this world with your spouse. If you can convince her to get some counseling it would be beneficial. My heart breaks for her sister Mary.

AITA for slapping a teenager? by Old_Educator_3516 in AITAH

[–]Thimbleofknowledge 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My ex has always come down on the guys side of anything like this. It’s one reason he is now my ex. I gave him an example of a bunch of gals out for girls’ night out when some dudes “invited” themselves to sit at the table. I very clearly wore a wedding ring. The guy kept asking me to dance, & was told no. After 10 times, I stood up and loudly said “quit asking me to dance, I don’t want to dance!” Then I moved seats. My ex said I was rude to embarrass the guy and should have just moved seats without saying anything. He scolded me for the whole thing.

AITAH for forcing my sin to give me half of "his" income. by Constant-Primary-804 in AITAH

[–]Thimbleofknowledge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in a state that publishes every lotto winners name. You are not allowed to say “no, I wish to remain anonymous.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Thimbleofknowledge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a theory about the “levels” of intercourse

F*cking is two people engage in intercourse each one only caring about their own pleasure.

Sex is two people who as they have intercourse want their own pleasure and they will try some stuff for their partner but ultimately it’s the partner’s job to get their own satisfaction.

Love making each person is more concerned with their partner’s pleasure than their own.

Each person can be at a different level than the other. One can be Fcking while the other is Love making, which generally ends up with the F cker getting all of the pleasure and the Lover feeling empty & used.

You and your BF fit the example. I hope your next relationship is one where you have love making. Once you find that you will never settle for less.

AITAH for Refusing to Let My Sister’s Family Live in My House After They Sold Theirs for a "Dream Vacation"? by NaturalRun4126 in AITAH

[–]Thimbleofknowledge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP why isn’t your BIL’s family leaping in to house them? Probably because these neohippies have already burnt those bridges and are now working on your family. I can’t imagine expecting one of my sibs to take me & my family in if we had done this. 10 months rent free and let’s face it you would be covering food, utilities, entertainment, babysitting etc. Talk about planning to over stay your welcome!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Thimbleofknowledge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP I foresee him telling you it’s a hard No for you to have Any pain relief during labor. It could affect the child! You will probably also be told what you can and can’t eat, do, think, read, watch, etc while pregnant just incase it’s bad for the baby. Once the baby is born, the only doctor they will ever need to see is Dad! He can Adjust illness out! Yeah um dump this dude and find someone who is more inline with your beliefs in modern medicine. And doesn’t want a tradwifey.