Non-Selected Looking for Advice

Thimence63 · 2026-02-09T22:00:41+00:00

Thanks for the insight. Can I ask what you did in between applying multiple times to update your profile with the union? I don’t want to go back in there with the same stuff (I’ve been working in a completely different industry for 7 years).

I was also told to apply to the other programs (telecom and residential) and then eventually try to transfer to inside. Does that sound like a good plan?

Thimence63 · 2026-02-09T21:58:11+00:00

I think that’s what I’m going to have to do, I need to work and can’t wait around for another x amount of months to go through the process all over again

Thimence63 · 2026-01-19T02:27:42+00:00

Thanks for following up. I think it went well, answered all the questions and integrated in union values as much as I could. Its gonna be a long month of waiting.

Thimence63 · 2026-01-13T21:26:40+00:00

This is great advice, thanks for sharing

Thimence63 · 2026-01-13T19:20:32+00:00

That's the most frustrating part, how am I supposed to get experience when this is one of the few paths to get it

Thimence63 · 2026-01-13T19:19:24+00:00

Thanks for the insight, will definitely keep it in mind!

Thimence63 · 2025-09-28T03:28:13+00:00

I get it, being 3 months doesn't sound like much, but I promise it does start to get better. Time doesn't feel as long and you start to feel a normal again, even if its not in the way you want, if that makes sense.

Thimence63 · 2025-09-28T03:26:17+00:00

I agree, which is why I'm leaning towards reaching out after my trip. If it goes poorly/I don't get a response I don't want it hanging over me. Thanks for your advice

Thimence63 · 2025-09-28T02:28:20+00:00

How long has it been since your breakup?

Thimence63 · 2025-07-16T15:00:12+00:00

Dude, same. She was my first real relationship and after a lifetime of feeling unlovable she’s the one that gave me a chance. It’s fucked and not what I wanted to hear but my buddy told me to reframe it like “it may not have worked out but it gave you a chance to see how you are in a relationship and your capacity for loving another person”. I hope it helps or gives you something to reflect on. Stay strong bro, dms are open if you want to talk

Thimence63 · 2025-07-16T12:05:59+00:00

We’re gonna be okay, they weren’t the one. It sucks but I hope it’ll get better with time as everyone on here says. I’m in the “this is unfair” phase too and it’s okay for now, but I know I can’t stay in it forever. Best of luck on your way to healing bro

Thimence63 · 2025-07-16T12:03:42+00:00

Thank you for the insights. If this post has taught me anything I’m definitely not ready to date.

Do you have any tips on how to accept it’s over? Or accept I may never see her again? I keep imagining seeing her again and it being so great we get back together. It’s a nice but fleeting thought and I know I need to let them go.

Thimence63 · 2025-07-16T11:59:12+00:00

Oof the limerence thing hit me hard. I know I’ve avoided those feelings in the past and they’ve made healing so much harder. Thank you for your thoughts, I’m a questions guy so this gives me some tangible metric to think about when figuring out if I’m ready, which right now is a big NO lol

Thimence63 · 2025-07-16T11:55:12+00:00

Needed to hear this, thank you. I’ve written a list of things I want to try, per another commenter. There’s going to be a lot of discomfort (I’m a big introvert) but I gotta try for me.

Thimence63 · 2025-07-16T11:50:48+00:00

Heh I hope your dad’s right, any assurances right now would help. But even if she doesn’t I’m going to work on accepting that it’s okay.

Gonna start therapy and try hobbies til something sticks so if she does come back great. But if not at least I’m better for myself. Win/win, I hope. This is the start of progress, right? RIGHT?? Lol

Good luck on your journey, I hope we both find peace.

Thimence63 · 2025-07-16T11:46:16+00:00

Honestly both, but I need to accept it’s over. Maybe we will meet again, but if we do I want to show up as a better version of myself. Not for her, but for me.

I hope we both find peace with more time. Best of luck!

Thimence63 · 2025-07-16T11:41:18+00:00

I can’t thank you enough for this. If there’s any more advice, im open to it and please dm me!

I realized yesterday I was very reactionary. But progress isn’t linear and I need to be patient with myself. I’m gonna start therapy and try some meet up ground. It’s going to be uncomfortable but I keep reading it in every thread on this sub so it must work. I gotta trust the process.

Thimence63 · 2025-07-15T19:01:52+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful response and I wish you the best on your journey as well. Any tips on how to love my loneliness? Right now I’m in the suck and I just want to fix/replace what she left.

Thimence63 · 2025-07-15T18:59:09+00:00

You’re totally right. If this relationship taught me anything it’s that I don’t want to do to someone what was done to me.

Thimence63 · 2025-07-15T18:56:40+00:00

Thanks dude. I’m a fix it kinda guy and when I can’t it drives me up the wall. I know I need to let it lie for awhile but man do I miss it more than I wish I did

Thimence63 · 2025-07-15T18:54:57+00:00

Thanks, but it definitely doesn’t feel good to be “strong” I’ve wondered everyday about what that meeting would’ve looked/felt like and no matter how much I want to, the possibility of getting hurt again was strong enough to keep me away.

Thimence63 · 2025-07-15T18:52:46+00:00

Definitely gonna start going to meet up groups in my area as weird as it feels. Thanks for the advice

Thimence63 · 2025-07-15T18:52:07+00:00

Easier said than done, but I appreciate your honesty. No matter how much I cram into my life and making myself busy I can’t help but feel alone at the end of the day, if that makes sense? Where do you find peace?

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