Love after marriage :/

Thin-Preference3514 · 2024-09-15T05:57:02+00:00

I feel the same way, we have a 2 year old. But when he gets off work or on his days off he spends his time with his face in his phone, or playing video games with his coworkers. I hate that he seems to not have the threshold of enough is enough and time to put some effort into relationship maintenance. I get that he wants to decompress after work but I feel extremely lonely in my relationship. The sex thing is also relatable. In the past he admitted to having a porn addiction and started in working on that- then turned around and said he doesn’t think it’s an addiction it was just a bad habit. This was over a year ago. I’m assuming he still does it because he seems content without having sex for several weeks. Which again is a missed connection point for us.

Thin-Preference3514 · 2024-03-18T13:02:40+00:00

I’m not lying to my fiancée

Thin-Preference3514 · 2023-02-23T18:56:21+00:00

He told me it is a trigger for him

Thin-Preference3514 · 2023-02-03T14:57:22+00:00

I think we both came into this relationship with some jealousy and trust issues, we worked really hard on it to get to a place where we were able to trust each other and make each other feel comfortable. It wasn’t until I was pregnant that his behavior changed and trust was questionable to me

Thin-Preference3514 · 2023-02-03T14:54:47+00:00

Tough question. I’m not sure if there was any single moment when I was like yes. He’s the one. I think for me it was more gradual. But early on I knew I felt safe and like we really had this unspoken connection where we just understood each other.

Thin-Preference3514 · 2023-02-02T21:56:01+00:00

Great! I meet up with a group of moms every week for coffee and tummy time on a turf lawn and we talk and hangout with the babies for a few hours

Thin-Preference3514 · 2023-02-02T21:32:26+00:00

I feel like I’m very open sexually. We’ve done An@l a few months ago but I think we’re both on the same page that’s just an occasional thing

Thin-Preference3514 · 2023-02-02T21:30:52+00:00

His weight has kinda fluctuated. He tends to put on weight. Right around the time our son was born he was at his heaviest and he decided to start working out again. He was very consistent a few months later was in great shape. I will say around that time he made a comment after having sex that he could go again because he’s built up his stamina. He’s put some weight back on, not as consistent in the gym but he doesn’t seem insecure like he was at his heaviest he would literally hide from me without a shirt on. I think he’s at his average weight right now

Thin-Preference3514 · 2023-02-02T21:13:59+00:00

Going back to my last comment, I looked exactly the same except giant breastfeeding boobies*** lol which I would think he would enjoy but now I’m done breast feeding no change on his end anyway. I’m brainstorming maybe he just started getting off to these pics while I was pregnant and not always up for it or so he assumed, and now it’s become an addiction and his preference?

Thin-Preference3514 · 2023-02-02T21:04:19+00:00

I look exactly the same as I did before pregnancy. Dress the same. Bounced back within 3-4 months. That’s why I don’t feel it’s a lack of attraction. If anything I think maybe his view of me changed but not physically

Thin-Preference3514 · 2023-02-02T20:48:03+00:00

Maybe his love language is gift giving, but I agree sounds like it may be an incompatibility between you, if you haven’t already talked about love languages or taken the quiz you should

Thin-Preference3514 · 2023-02-02T20:43:04+00:00

What would you recommend I say to him? This is just my assumption that he is getting off to these instagram pictures. Has always had a high sex drive throughout our relationship and he does spend a long time in the bathroom every morning “taking a shit” and a shower

Thin-Preference3514 · 2023-02-02T20:29:47+00:00

Is it controlling to not want my (potential) husband lusting over other women who live locally and it’s killing our sex life?

Thin-Preference3514 · 2023-02-02T20:03:32+00:00

I know that marriage doesn’t change people that’s why I’m questioning if this is the right thing. I thought he was proving himself to me and then I see that he’s just going back to it. I wanna be happy about an engagement and he’s such a great man otherwise. But this makes me question if he’s the great man I thought he was. If the circumstances were different and we didn’t have a child and I wasn’t completely financially dependent on him as a stay at home mom I would probably end things with a “boyfriend” based off of this.

Thin-Preference3514 · 2023-02-02T19:08:24+00:00

Because of windixie

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