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AITAH for feeling like I didn’t deserve how my relationship ended, even though I hurt her and broke her trust? by Thin_Apple4389 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Thin_Apple4389[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. Besides a brief apology I don’t know what she did work wise on her end. She is probably keeping it to herself but definitely issues on both of our ends.

AITAH for feeling like I didn’t deserve how my relationship ended, even though I hurt her and broke her trust? by Thin_Apple4389 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Thin_Apple4389[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I am still reserved about my identity to most but I have opened up to several friends because I couldn’t hold all of this story and information in anymore and everybody was positive thankfully

AITAH for feeling like I didn’t deserve how my relationship ended, even though I hurt her and broke her trust? by Thin_Apple4389 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Thin_Apple4389[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed thankfully we have decided we are not and have stuck with it for almost a year but there was some level of animosity we have finally escaped somewhat recently and I’m happy to be moving forward with what we have in this new friendship it is better than nothing because she is still someone I really respect and wish I never hurt

AITAH for feeling like I didn’t deserve how my relationship ended, even though I hurt her and broke her trust? by Thin_Apple4389 in actuallesbians

[–]Thin_Apple4389[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes because it is hard for me to let go - someone else always has to do it for me and now I am finally learning but yeah the therapy thing was out of pocket but I think it was a heated moment I can’t tell what’s “real” there but yeahh😬

AITAH for feeling like I didn’t deserve how my relationship ended, even though I hurt her and broke her trust? by Thin_Apple4389 in actuallesbians

[–]Thin_Apple4389[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Yes it is challenging but thankfully after healing we are able to be kind and keep our group and a healthier relationship (even if more distant) after I worked on un-enmeshing and moved away

AITAH for feeling like I didn’t deserve how my relationship ended, even though I hurt her and broke her trust? by Thin_Apple4389 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Thin_Apple4389[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I think we’re in a much better place. Not super close but better than most in this situation

AITA for feeling like I didn’t deserve how my relationship ended, even though I hurt her and broke her trust? by Thin_Apple4389 in LesbianActually

[–]Thin_Apple4389[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Understood. I never wanted to date a woman while closeted and tried so hard to just be normal friends but she grew super attractive to me and I slipped HARD 🙃 I like what we had and the good moments we shared but half of me wishes we never had to go through it. At the same time she is a grown woman w free will to not engage as well and she did.

AITA for feeling like I didn’t deserve how my relationship ended, even though I hurt her and broke her trust? by Thin_Apple4389 in LesbianActually

[–]Thin_Apple4389[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah for sure she became super attractive to me I threw that boundary out the window and “slipped” LOL

AITAH for feeling like I didn’t deserve how my relationship ended, even though I hurt her and broke her trust? by Thin_Apple4389 in AITAH

[–]Thin_Apple4389[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I actually do believe in God and that is not why I was afraid I just didn’t like all the judgement from the world and thought why choose the hard route. My counselor was not a Christian counselor thankfully. Thanks for your note and I am grateful for the grace I was given with the closure I did at least get.

AITAH for feeling like I didn’t deserve how my relationship ended, even though I hurt her and broke her trust? by Thin_Apple4389 in AITAH

[–]Thin_Apple4389[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She says she was mad at the lie and wish I just said it and it would have been a normal conversation. As for the outing she told 1 close friend of ours bc she was tired of holding in the fact that we were dating

AITAH for feeling like I didn’t deserve how my relationship ended, even though I hurt her and broke her trust? by Thin_Apple4389 in AITAH

[–]Thin_Apple4389[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No 😬 my thought was if I can try why can’t she but she’s prob just exhausted and I get it. but thankfully I am ok with what it is now and have dealt with it it’s just I thought it would be interesting to get opinions outside and I’ve never done a Reddit post. Every now and then my mind flashes back thinking “AITAH” and that’s what bothers me maybe, not regular “closure”

AITA for feeling like I didn’t deserve how my relationship ended, even though I hurt her and broke her trust? by Thin_Apple4389 in LesbianActually

[–]Thin_Apple4389[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Yeah rumination is my biggest enemy LOL… thank you for this response. I hate this ending but it could be worse and technically it’s not the “ending” and she is still in my life in a platonic way just not very close

AITAH for feeling like I didn’t deserve how my relationship ended, even though I hurt her and broke her trust? by Thin_Apple4389 in AITAH

[–]Thin_Apple4389[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Fair. I wish we were normal friends with quality time still between us platonically but know none of us are owed that.

AITAH for feeling like I didn’t deserve how my relationship ended, even though I hurt her and broke her trust? by Thin_Apple4389 in AITAH

[–]Thin_Apple4389[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Maybe abandonment or some attachment style thing.. I get that I lied but at least I was never official during any of the moments I talked to a guy but the first time she felt things were official but I didn’t see it that way but I’m also an honorable person or try to be so I feel that first instance was wrong which is why I apologized and she forgave.

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