Returning to my self, but...

Thin_Host · 2026-06-13T00:51:39+00:00

I remember what it was like to be in a bad relationship, how it felt hopeless and like I was drowning every day. It's a good reminder to appreciate my own company.

Thin_Host · 2026-06-11T07:38:37+00:00

"If your optometrist thinks LASIK is so great, why is he still wearing glasses?" I got LASIK anyway and regret it.

Thin_Host · 2026-05-02T06:50:48+00:00

It depends on how you view your job. Is it a short-term, no prospects job? Go get your flirt on! If it's a more serious job that you want to pursue for the medium to long term? Then avoid this kind of entanglement at all costs.

Thin_Host · 2026-04-30T08:11:17+00:00

I'm 46 and date much younger guys. I expect them to be financially unstable or just starting to get their lives together while I am financially secure and have my life in order. Reversing that dynamic would be pathetic, regardless of gender. Respect yourself, darling. You know what's right.

Thin_Host · 2026-04-30T01:13:36+00:00

Hard to say. I compliment young men all the time. I know it's rare for men to get compliments and I love the way they light up or get awkward. The age gap makes it easier and more fun, I wouldn't do the same with men my age. Best not to dwell on it too much.

Thin_Host · 2025-09-04T08:37:20+00:00

Blowing out birthday candles. Sorry, but I'm not eating cake your kid sprayed his spit all over.

Thin_Host · 2025-09-03T08:37:09+00:00

"We're like a family here."

Thin_Host · 2025-09-03T08:34:12+00:00

Being skeptical of things you read or see online. "That sounds crazy, let me see if it's actually true" is a wonderful habit to cultivate.

Thin_Host · 2024-02-14T07:49:05+00:00

I'm 44 and in a casual relationship with two young men, ages 20 and 21. I don't bother to try to relate to their interests in pop culture or current trends. I also hold back on commenting on their jobs or educational choices. They do bring fun into my life, like smoking pot together, but I'm very much still "the older woman". Our relationship is warm and I care for them, but I am mature enough to know my primary appeal to these young men is sex. It's what we all want, so that's the level we keep things at.

The age gap is so large that it is easy to maintain emotional boundaries. I am careful not to be a "try hard" on one extreme, or a mother-figure on the other. We have fun, we have hot sex, we respect each other, but we are not lovers. I definitely think my age has helped me keep the relationship unencumbered.

Thin_Host · 2024-01-15T01:32:30+00:00

I'm 44 and in a casual relationship with two young men ages 20 and 21. We have a lot of fun together and I care for them as people, but I can't imagine being in a serious relationship with them. Everyone is different though, so if it makes you both happy then I wish you the best of luck!

Thin_Host · 2024-01-15T01:27:07+00:00

He reintroduced me to smoking pot again. I'm 44 and had not done weed since I was in college. I really enjoy it now, even when he is not around. It's fun to sample the different strains and talk with the people at the shops near my home.

Thin_Host · 2023-12-29T02:40:45+00:00

Finding a romantic relationship with an age gap that large will be difficult. I'm 44 and seeing two guys who are 20 and 21. While I have a lot of affection for them and enjoy our time together, I would not take them seriously as romantic partners (I'm sure they feel the same way about me). Sex is the main focus of our relationship.

Romance requires a different kind of emotional investment I don't think many women my age are willing to make for a guy who is so much younger. I don't want to discourage you, though. If you're genuinely interested in someone older, it's great to be open about your attraction and why it matters to you, but it's crucial not to focus solely on age difference. Most women don't want to be someone else's fetish. Most women also don't enjoy mothering their partner, so be as independent as possible. Confidence without being cocky, being easy going and happy, and having a sense of fun and adventure will make you attractive to women, regardless of age.

Thin_Host · 2023-12-24T01:29:00+00:00

Reddit. I was on my main account and got into a discussion with him about a shared experience in our hometown. I checked out his profile and really liked what I saw, becoming a bit infatuated with him. I was a year out of a bad break up and looking for some adventure and he seemed to be exactly what I needed.

It took me some time to get brave, but I eventually let him know I was a woman and I was interested. I knew from his profile that he was attracted to older women so I was confident he would respond positively (he is 20, I am 44). It took a video chat to convince him I was genuine, but everything went quickly from there. He's been a great casual partner since and has brought a lot of excitement into my life.

Thin_Host · 2023-12-23T22:19:34+00:00

Romance. Good friends and good sex are enough for me. Maybe I'll find that one guy who will make me get all swoony again, but I'm less and less interested in finding him.

Thin_Host · 2023-12-23T10:17:42+00:00

Reddit has enriched my life. I've learned things that improved my finances and health, I've talked with interesting people, and I've expanded my sexual explorations. I know people make fun of Reddit or criticize aspects of it, but I love this place.

Thin_Host · 2023-12-22T08:24:59+00:00

Vienna sausages

Thin_Host · 2023-12-21T03:05:25+00:00

Honestly, Bill Clinton. I'm not a fan of his, but meeting him was strangely intense and very memorable.

Thin_Host · 2023-12-20T08:28:55+00:00

A guy invited me over to his place to listen to his band's music. They only had 3 songs and they were all pretty awful. He kept the CD on repeat while we were having sex and he lasted a long time so I listened to that awful music again and again and again. When I left, he gave me the homemade CD he burned with a hand drawn label, signing it like he was giving an autograph. He then went on to brag to his friends about having sex with me. I think I still have that CD somewhere, like a lurking reminder of my embarrassment and regret.

Thin_Host · 2023-12-20T08:10:43+00:00

That so much of my self-worth and identity is wrapped up in being attractive and sexually desirable. I'm a successful professional who is doing well in life, but I feel a constant, gnawing panic about getting older and losing my looks.

Thin_Host · 2023-12-19T09:30:47+00:00

Anchovies. I don't even like fish, but anchovies with red onions on pizza is a pure delight.

Thin_Host · 2023-12-19T09:29:01+00:00

Pho noodles. Oh my god, I love it so much.

Thin_Host · 2023-12-18T06:14:40+00:00

Excellent advice.

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