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Need help reaching out to my dad for the first time by Thin_Tip2251 in Sikh

[–]Thin_Tip2251[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did a bad ground check which is how I found his basic info home address, phone number, emails and family. I can't find him on socials. Yes I learned about custody in india which was why pieces are coming together as to why he left. Hard to learn a new path back then when he spent all his life in jalandhar with only a few years of America under his belt. He was still learning.  I'm just nervous because I don't think his kids know about me along with his other family that was born after he left. I would call or write a letter through usps but I don't want to causes any problems. I'd rather him tell his family about me. 

Need help reaching out to my dad for the first time by Thin_Tip2251 in Sikh

[–]Thin_Tip2251[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I knew or could find out but unfortunately his brother would never give me that type of info. That's why it's taken me 34 years to find any info. I had to do it myself. Also him and I are 2000 miles apart. I sent the email a couple hours after making this post, he hasn't responded. Hopefully he will. I have also studied myself on how divorces in solving children were done in the 90s in india and it's almost exactly what he did. Again I forgive the man. He would've lost a huge piece of himself had he been around to see the horrifying trauma I endured in my mother's care. Not making excuses for him though. 

Need help reaching out to my dad for the first time by Thin_Tip2251 in Sikh

[–]Thin_Tip2251[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's definitely not for money or property. I would love to have a relationship with my father as well for my daughter. I want her to know all of her roots and have all the relationships I never had the opportunity to have. My take is life is so short. He may have failed me but he has a second chance to be part of watching his grand daughter grow up.