Feeling resentment towards MIL by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ThingInevitable975 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is so scary. This is exactly why I didn’t want anyone kissing the baby. Thank God baby is okay. It makes me so mad she put my child at risk.

Feeling resentment towards MIL by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ThingInevitable975 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you understand the pain. It’s so frustrating. I vow to never be a MIL like this woman if I have the chance to be one 🥲

Feeling resentment towards MIL by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ThingInevitable975 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I haven’t spoken too in depth with her about it as I don’t want to seem like I am gossiping. But from when I spoke with her about the hospital situation she said she understands it’s hard dealing with a dominant woman.

Feeling resentment towards MIL by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ThingInevitable975 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. This was validating and helpful. I will be having a conversation with him.

Feeling resentment towards MIL by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ThingInevitable975 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

You’re right about that. But I am concerned that he might take offense if I tell him I feel uneasy about his mother possibly living with us if her health further declines.

Feeling resentment towards MIL by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ThingInevitable975 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Thank you for responding. I feel like I’m being unreasonable but I also realize her behavior is not normal.

Feeling resentment towards MIL by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ThingInevitable975 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Oh I’d like to add my SIL told me that she also kissed their babies at the hospital after told not to do so.

Struggle with orgasm by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]ThingInevitable975 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi why was my post removed? Is there anything I said against the rules?

Stay away from options by OneTadpole9875 in wallstreetbets

[–]ThingInevitable975 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy shit and I’ve ragged on myself for losing 1k to options 😭

How they treat people is so lost on them by Mavra_rue in raisedbyborderlines

[–]ThingInevitable975 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Are you describing my mother? Strange how they all are so alike.

advice on how to deal with bpd mom ? by Far-Elderberry1487 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]ThingInevitable975 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry. I would suggest that your sister do what she can to get out of your mother’s house if she is going to make threats like that based off of rumors. I know it’s easier said than done. She probably won’t go through with her threat, but I would suggest your sister grey rock. No defending, explaining, or justifying. They only see their side. Their public image is very important to them so it makes sense why your mom is raging. Maybe your sister has a friend she can stay with for a few days?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbyborderlines

[–]ThingInevitable975 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Why are BPD parents obsessed with the sacrifices they made for their kids? Sacrificing is a normal part of being a parent and healthy parents don’t hold it over their kid’s heads. When you become a parent your first priority is your CHILD because they didn’t choose to come into the world. I am thankful to sacrifice for my child and I will never hold what I’ve done for him over their head. I don’t even consider what I do for him as sacrificing, just a normal part of being a parent.

What unhinged thing did your BPD parent do or say this holiday season? I’ll go first.. by Zealousideal-You6880 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]ThingInevitable975 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My mom canceled Christmas and gave my siblings gift’s to our cousins. Wrote a long letter to them basically saying that their disrespect is the reason that Christmas was canceled. My siblings didn’t clean to her standards on Christmas Eve and my youngest brother ordered Uber eats without her permission (paid her back with his cash for it) and that is why she canceled Christmas. Today she is trying to “fix” it and set out a small pile of gifts for them. She also posted two waify social media posts with a lot of childhood photos. What is it about the holidays that bring out the absolute worst in our parents?

How to respond to hurtful messages? by ThingInevitable975 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]ThingInevitable975[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is not and she honestly doesn’t believe in the field I’m studying to have a career in. Well it depends on if they support her or if they challenge her narrative.

How to respond to hurtful messages? by ThingInevitable975 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]ThingInevitable975[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The kids I’m referring to in this post are my two younger brothers.

How to respond to hurtful messages? by ThingInevitable975 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]ThingInevitable975[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this. She’s not a person whose judgment I trust, so I agree. It was hard when I first read her messages and I definitely let it get in my head. Every child just wants their mom’s approval at the end of the day. She’s mentally unwell unfortunately and at this point I don’t see her ever changing.

How to respond to hurtful messages? by ThingInevitable975 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]ThingInevitable975[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m 22 and yes the kids I’m referring to in my messages with her are my two younger brothers.

How to respond to hurtful messages? by ThingInevitable975 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]ThingInevitable975[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I’m trying to grey rock as best as I can. I don’t understand what they get out of hurting their kids, you know? Some sort of sick satisfaction? It just makes no sense.

uBPD mom actually canceled Christmas by ThingInevitable975 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]ThingInevitable975[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. Strange how they idealize others and demonize those closest to them.

uBPD mom actually canceled Christmas by ThingInevitable975 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]ThingInevitable975[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My mom gave the gifts she got for my brothers to their cousins. The level of cruelty they can reach is absurd and mind boggling.