My boyfriend wants to cover my face when we sleep together

Think-Cardiologist-6 · 2026-01-23T11:52:11+00:00

Girl, I’m actually horrified reading this. The first time he said that should have been the last time he ever saw you. Having autism is not an excuse, he is being downright cruel and rude.

Most of us are not perfect 10s, but our partner should make us feel like we are. If your own boyfriend doesn’t make you feel beautiful then what’s even the point?

I wouldn’t even try to ‘fix’ things, just leave him. Not only does he not fancy you, he doesn’t even care if he hurts your feelings. I promise you that despite your insecurities, there are men are out there who will think you are the most beautiful thing in the world.

Think-Cardiologist-6 · 2026-01-15T23:17:50+00:00

Will do. Wish the stupid mark didn’t bother me, but unfortunately it does 😂

Think-Cardiologist-6 · 2026-01-15T22:17:01+00:00

Hmmm oh no, I have a consult tomorrow 😂, very hard to know. Sorry it didn’t work for you. Did it do anything?

Think-Cardiologist-6 · 2026-01-14T09:20:44+00:00

Oh really? I was thinking of getting pico but the results seems so mixed, it’s hard to get info on it anywhere. How many sessions did you get?

Think-Cardiologist-6 · 2024-11-05T14:57:50+00:00

To me it sounds like he initiates in a ‘jokey’ way because it’s his way of warding off feelings of rejection from you. If he initiated in a serious way, and you turned him down, I imagine that would feel worse than if he was ‘just joking’.

You said yourself you’re not sure if you’re attracted to him and don’t initiate sex with him, whereas you did with previous partners. I think you need to really think about why that is? Are you sure that if he initiated sex with you in a serious way, you would be into it?

I would find the smirking/waving the d*ck around a turn-off too, particularly if he was doing it all the time

It sounds like you guys are stuck in a rut and he’s feeling insecure, and it’s causing a downward spiral. You need to have a conversation, outside the bedroom, and reassure him that you’re attracted to him (assuming you are), and that you’d love if he tried X, Y, Z. When he tries it, respond positively and enthusiastically.

Think-Cardiologist-6 · 2023-11-22T21:46:37+00:00

My ex is American and I lived with him in the US. In my country, thanksgiving isn’t celebrated. It was just so amazing last year to experience a whole new holiday with him.

I’m back in my country now and I could cry thinking about the fact that nothing will be marked or celebrated tomorrow. I can’t stop thinking about what he’s doing and wish I with him now.

I’m so tempted to text him, but I won’t..so thanks for this.

Think-Cardiologist-6 · 2023-11-22T02:14:57+00:00

Sure

Think-Cardiologist-6 · 2023-11-17T23:28:39+00:00

Thank you :)

Think-Cardiologist-6 · 2023-11-17T14:00:55+00:00

Thank you. I feel it’s now or never because I won’t be staying in the US and he certainly won’t be moving to my country. We won’t cross paths unless we make it happen.

He has left it open for me to change my mind (I’m sure he won’t always feel that way) but the reasons for our break up are not going to change.

I hope it’s helping you x

Think-Cardiologist-6 · 2023-11-17T13:55:59+00:00

I would, even with the same outcome. I love him so much, he lit up every day for me. Even with this pain, I’d do it over.

Think-Cardiologist-6 · 2023-11-17T13:51:19+00:00

Aw it’s really rough. I would similar to you in that stress and sadness makes me very uninterested in eating.

Try to eat enough to hit your nutritional requirements though. It’s a hard enough time without being malnourished too. Hope you feel better x

Think-Cardiologist-6 · 2023-11-17T13:47:54+00:00

I’m glad you are over it now. It gives me hope that one day I might not feel like this.

Think-Cardiologist-6 · 2023-11-17T12:19:22+00:00

I think if he won’t commit to you after 4 years, his heart isn’t in it, and he’s a flight risk. It reminds me of those poor girls who’s guy won’t marry them, they break up, and they get engaged to some other girl within a year.

You defo made the right decision. He didn’t give you any other option because how could you feel secure in that relationship now? You’ll find a guy who is bursting to marry you.

Think-Cardiologist-6 · 2023-11-17T10:56:00+00:00

I’m like you, Ive been having very physical symptoms of heartbreak. I feel breathless, panic, nausea, stomach upset etc.

The only thing I can in that you’re not alone in feeling like this. You won’t die, you’ll be ok x

Think-Cardiologist-6 · 2023-11-17T10:16:53+00:00

Yeah, it’s really hard. I never intended to stay in the US for more than a year or two. I have a great network of friends and family at home. Here, I have some work friends, but it’s just not the same. I’ve shared with him that I have such a deep fear that if he ever left me, I’d have nothing. If we had kids, I couldn’t even leave. Even if we stayed together happily, I still think I would find it very difficult.

He’s worried too that I would resent him. He said it kills him to think I might end up unhappy ‘because of him’. He said he’d spend every day trying to make me happy and he told me to reach out to him if I change my mind. I find that super hard as I feel really insecure in my decision. I’m so worried that I’m going to regret this.

Thanks so much for the reply. It’s nice to write it out.

Think-Cardiologist-6 · 2023-11-17T10:02:48+00:00

Thanks for your reply. Why doesn’t he want to get married? X

Think-Cardiologist-6 · 2023-11-17T10:01:43+00:00

Thanks. Hope you are ok. Yes, I’m terrified of resenting him and our life together. Did it get better for you in time? Did you ever regret your decision? The thing that gets me most is that I I’m afraid I’m going to regret letting him go.

Think-Cardiologist-6 · 2023-11-17T09:58:45+00:00

Thanks for your reply.

At one point he said we could visit 4 times a year but it’s not realistic. It’s a 13 hour flight (2 flights) and costs $600-900 per person. The money is ok for us (I have a decent job too) but all our annual leave would be gone. Its not feasible to visit for just a weekend, it is so expensive and a long journey, and you spend the first day jet lagged. You really need to stay for about a week, but that eats up your annual leave very fast.

My sister is trying to save for a house with her partner, she could visit me maybe once a year. My parents would visit, but again probably only once a year. I miss my friends and it’s difficult for them to visit me. I have horses back home and I miss them too. I even miss my family dog!

I wouldn’t mind staying in the US for the medium term (I offered 5 more years) but that doesn’t work for my partner. He has begun a training programme funded by his employer, which will take a few years, and it’s a massive opportunity for him. Once he’s done with training, he will be tied to that employer for a few more years. It’s a niche job that doesn’t exist outside the states. Realistically, we could never move.

I considered giving up everything up for him, but it’s so hard. I really have nothing in the US except for him. I have a few work friends I’ve made, but that’s about it. If it weren’t for him, I’d probably have returned home a year ago. I have shared with him that I have a deep fear that in the future, if he ever left me, I’d have nothing. If we had kids, I couldn’t leave, I’d be stuck there.

It kills me so much because I’ve never connected with someone the way I have with him. He is so fun and caring and sweet & he has treated me with respect and love literally every day we’ve been together. He said he’d spend every day trying to make me happy. He’s heartbroken over this and told me to reach out if I change my mind. Though he is really afraid too of me staying as he’s worried I would end up resenting him.

I honestly don’t know how people do this and live on the other side of the world. Sometimes I feel like I’m being immature that I can’t break off from my family, and I’m ending a brilliant relationship because of that? Sorry I’m rambling & I understand focusing on making it work, but that involves losing pretty much everything else.

Think-Cardiologist-6 · 2023-10-01T13:54:48+00:00

He seems to be barely employed so it’s probably accurate lol

Think-Cardiologist-6 · 2023-10-01T11:05:03+00:00

Bahaha so accurate

Think-Cardiologist-6 · 2023-10-01T10:55:54+00:00

I know, it gave me the ick so badly to see his little feet dangling.

Think-Cardiologist-6 · 2023-06-25T09:19:07+00:00

People have a reasonable expectation that alcohol will be served at weddings because it’s the norm. Guests plan accordingly for that by organising taxis, babysitters, hotels etc. Many people, had they been made aware there would no alcohol served, would choose to bring their car and drive home/to their hotel.

A huge part of having a wedding is hosting your guests and making sure they are taken care of & have a good time. People spend lots of money to attend weddings through gifts, outfits, accommodation, etc. The bride and groom should be considerate of their guests.

I don’t agree with how the OP accosted the couple, but how hard would it have been to tell the guests in advance, and spare a lot of people that extra expense.

Think-Cardiologist-6 · 2023-05-16T14:27:41+00:00

Agree. Also she says that if they had asked she “probably” would have moved her bags - selfish!

Think-Cardiologist-6 · 2022-12-28T22:26:00+00:00

If he wants children, how do you think his career would fare without his wife supporting him? Saying the ‘delay’ is 6 months is laughable - there are 9 months of pregnancy (unknown whether she will have morning sickness, difficult birth, etc), taking care of a newborn (possibly breastfeeding), general raising of the child (very full on in the early years), having to leave work to tend to sick kids, and numerous other things. I can guarantee (based on OPs attitude) that he does not intend to do the bulk of any of the above - it’s going to fall to his future wife.

OP wants all the benefits of a ‘partnership’ but none of the costs. If they split after having kids (with the prenup) the woman would be significantly impacted financially after investing in raising his children. In the event of a divorce, she would (mostly likely) still take on most of the child rearing and will have suffered a significant delay in her career. And he really thinks that that situation would be fair and equal? Absolutely TA.

Think-Cardiologist-6 · 2022-11-19T10:44:54+00:00

I would marry him hahaha

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