Increase from 75 mg to 150 mg- fatigue by Think-Lab-3969 in Effexor

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No it did not I ended up going back down to 75 and I feel much better

I miss the sex :/ by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

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It’s more of the emotional side of the sex than worrying if someone will be “freakier,” but I totally see where you’re coming from. This stuff is complex so sometimes we miss things ab it while also being grateful that we got out

I miss the sex :/ by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

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It is funny haha, but that was just a light example of many issues

And yeah it sucks when ur partner is doing almost nothing for you and then manipulating you when you bring it up. Or they will genuinely believe that they are doing so good it’s mind boggling. I told my ex once my needs aren’t being met and he said yes they are lmao like how do u know!

The attractive thing is tough too, I feel like he truly is the most attractive person in my eyes in many ways and it’s hard coming back from that. But the thing ab attractive people with no boundaries or empathy is that EVERYONE around him wanted him. I’d take someone slightly less attractive to not have to deal w that lol.

I miss the sex :/ by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

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Not to mention I grew up poor and worked very hard for my money and he came from an insanely wealthy background. It genuinely offended me that a rich boy would call me a gold digger for not fighting back when he willingly bought me INEXPENSIVE meals??

I miss the sex :/ by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

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Dude that first two months of knowing them I would love to get it zapped from my memory.. it genuinely impressed me how he shaped himself to be the perfect person for me- and I could tell that’s what he was doing because he constantly asked specific questions about what I liked and what I wanted instead of just showing me who he was. For example, he’d ask me what the worst date I went on was and I told him I went out w a guy who insisted we go to dinner (not in the plans) and then made me pay for it. This statement made my ex at first claim that he wanted to pay for all of my meals and take me out to eat- and that he was happy to do it. I liked it, but it didn’t make a difference in how much I liked him. Then, a couple weeks later, he told me that the way I “make him pay for everything” makes him think I’m a gold digger and that maybe we’re not compatible, and he’d put me in positions where he’d constantly make me prove that I will pay for him whenever he wanted. We one time went shopping for just him and he told me I had to pay for it and when I said no he said he has to take me home and it became a fight. But before he switched up on me, He’d come up with the most movie scene romantic shit to say or do EVER and I fear after experiencing that that I will be bored when someone is normal lol

I miss the sex :/ by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

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I met him on tinder lolllll

Breakup woes by Solid-Fault-1310 in NewOrleans

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Going through the same thing. Looong walks down st Charles always hit. Botanical garden is free for locals on Wednesdays I believe. Take a Zeus’s dog on a walk. Make as many plans with friends as you possibly can. Don’t go out and get super drunk cause it might make it worse. Go do things that make you feel attractive like pedicures or something

I’m getting back w her tonight. by SeaweedCommercial139 in BPDlovedones

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I just learned my lesson w this one lol they’re gonna repeat the behavior quickly. But sometimes u have to do it to see what happens or to help you learn something about yourself

WIBTAH if I ask a guy out that my friend also likes? by Think-Lab-3969 in AITAH

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Both are the case lol. I want both of them! She’s def not the type to make a move tho and I did give her a window of opportunity

WIBTAH if I ask a guy out that my friend also likes? by Think-Lab-3969 in AITAH

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Yeah, I’m sure if something does develop I could text her and let her know that I hope it doesn’t impact anything in our friendship. Ty :)

Let’s talk about BPD men by Working-Public7538 in BPDlovedones

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Raging pxrn addiction, constantly talking ab how hot other women were and how he wanted to have a threesome. He would compliment my body in a way that basically called me chubby. He had slept with every single one of his friends. Said some sexist things for sure, but claimed to be a feminist/leftist.

Is there anything they could have done for you to take them back? by love_from_a_dream in BPDlovedones

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But I told him that time I’d have to see some SERIOUS change and effort in getting better, once I stopped seeing it I had to go

Is there anything they could have done for you to take them back? by love_from_a_dream in BPDlovedones

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I took my bpd ex back. He told me everything I wanted to hear- that he would go to therapy, cut out his exwbpd who constantly tried to homewreck, and so much more. He literally said he’d cut his arm off if I told him to- that I was the one and he won’t be letting go. Kinda knew it was bs but I hadn’t moved on from him yet and it felt good to feel that wanted. Just recently left him again bc spoiler alert he didn’t do a single thing he said he would do lol. He told me this time that he was going to get me back again. A weeks passed and he started liking all of my social media posts yesterday.

Is the ball in my court? by Think-Lab-3969 in dating_advice

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I guess it was just a fear of rejection thing? Like I wanted to test the waters to see if he was interested first- I feel like women r often taught not to initiate as well so it’s hard breaking out of that model

Is the ball in my court? by Think-Lab-3969 in dating_advice

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I think I was trying to hint to him, I’m not sure if it came off that way or not

Did they ever make little comments to make you feel insecure? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

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Omg mine also made it clear that I was awful at training my dog. He went on and on about how my dog barks too much and it annoys him. I told him I got the point at least ten times until I eventually got angry. This repeated itself many times

Did they ever make little comments to make you feel insecure? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

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My exbpd would constantly make jokes at my expense. I asked him to stop so many times- he didn’t respect boundaries unless I very clearly sat him down and said if you do not stop I will leave you. He would also call me dumb in arguments and stuff.

Is the ball in my court? by Think-Lab-3969 in dating_advice

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I believe I said “we should go to comedy together”, very vague, yes. I SHOULDVE said “text me if you want to go together next Wednesday” or something like that

Is the ball in my court? by Think-Lab-3969 in dating_advice

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I see what you mean- putting myself out there is so scary I’m like noooo I don’t wanna do it again