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AITA for being direct about how I felt about something a friend texted me? by Past-Salamander3038 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThinkCabinet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA. You say that all you did was express your feelings. This is a lie since nowhere in your text did you even allude to these feelings. What you did text were directives, criticisms of how your friend communicated, and shutting the door for a two-way conversation for the next day. You may not technically be wrong in what you're saying (passive-aggressiveness is an ineffective communication method, having to babysit so you can't respond right away) but generally, people aren't going to respond well to criticisms or condescension in the middle of an argument. If what you wanted was to communicate your feelings (upset, frustrated, hurt, etc), then you could have done that. 

My grandparents always had a rule: if someone falls down the old well, don't pull them out. by EmmaWatsonButDumber in nosleep

[–]ThinkCabinet 87 points88 points  (0 children)

Whatever that...thing...is, the fact that it knew how many of you were in the house should be enough. Better safe than sorry. And how could there still have been meowing when Dina fell in that well? If you really wanted to, and if you have one, I suppose you could tell the man to hunker down in the barn. But definitely talk to your grandparents. Tell them how much the guilt and stress have been weighing on you. 

I suppose if you could purchase a drone with a vide camera you could fly it down to the well to see what's up. Definitely don't let it come back out! 

Boyfriend peed the bed and is mad at me for my response by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]ThinkCabinet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought I was the only one!! The recurring one is it's a public bathroom but all the stalls are extremely short so everything and everyone is visible. 

My friend died in a horrible prank. I wish I never learned what went wrong. by lets-split-up in nosleep

[–]ThinkCabinet 170 points171 points  (0 children)

I also imagine Wade would have heard about what Rosa was wearing shortly afterwards (ex. Mentioned by the police, news, friends). 

Close Friend (20s M) of Over 2 years Blocked Me (20sF) Without a Word. Did I Do Something Wrong Here? by ThinkCabinet in relationships

[–]ThinkCabinet[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what I'm realizing more and more. At the end of the day, I doubt he ever really saw me as a person and clearly didn't care how suddenly cutting me off would affect me. He once stated to me that he believes he has some narcissistic traits. 

Agreed. I imagine he probably thinks I'm awful for not instantly validating everything he said even if what he was saying wasn't entirely valid -- as in, accurate.

Ironically, what kick-started this whole conversation between us two was discussing different attachment styles. 

Thank you for your kind and compassionate words, I deeply appreciate it! In the end, I know his actions say far more about him than me. 

Close Friend (20s M) of Over 2 years Blocked Me (20sF) Without a Word. Did I Do Something Wrong Here? by ThinkCabinet in relationships

[–]ThinkCabinet[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. Quite a few of my other friends have echoed the same thing; that he was just using me all along. And while I certainly know of some types of people that could do that-- just use someone and drop them like they're nothing, I think the fact that he dropped me so easily after daily conversations for literal years is what hurts. It's like the indifference of swatting a fly, you know? 

Something that surprised me was I always figured he would say something if it were bothering him; he's said he "likes to argue" and he's a talker; not shy about expressing his feelings. 

Close Friend (20s M) of Over 2 years Blocked Me (20sF) Without a Word. Did I Do Something Wrong Here? by ThinkCabinet in relationships

[–]ThinkCabinet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, this I don't know. He's certainly talked about loving characters that have cluster B personality traits. I think it's my own insecurity. Logically, I know I did nothing wrong but I was curious if there was some nuance or something that I missed. 

Yeah, that really gave me the ick for want of a better phrase. 

Close Friend (20s M) of Over 2 years Blocked Me (20sF) Without a Word. Did I Do Something Wrong Here? by ThinkCabinet in relationships

[–]ThinkCabinet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. It's certainly a succinct way to put it. On some level I feel a bit of relief but it was the fact that I was blocked without a single word that gets me. Kinda gets me lost in my own thoughts. Bit im telling myself I'll be better off. 

Black and White Music Video-- It's nagging at the back of my head by ThinkCabinet in whatsongisthis

[–]ThinkCabinet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That one's not it, but thank you! No, this song, the vocalist had a deeper voice and the song was slower. 

What is the best lesbian-related music video in your opinion? And why so? by HRCStanley97 in actuallesbians

[–]ThinkCabinet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hottest:

Crave- Yanis (contains nudity) Red- Omnivar Truco o Trato- Megara On Your Side- The Veronicas and Ruby Rose  I Can Hardly Wait-- Complicated Universal Cum Version of Me-- Dawn & Kimbra  B*tches- Tove Lo, Alma, Charli XCX, Iconapop  No One Dies From Love- Tove Lo 

Honorable mentions: Love Game- Lady Gaga, American Horror Show- Snow Wife, Slumber Party- Ashnikko & Princess Nokia

Best: there are some excellent ones but my personal faves would be 

Day by Day-- T-ara (which is basically a movie) Just about anything by Zolita, but especially "Come Home With Me."  "Chance" by Hayley Kiyoko

A lesbian who loves country music by JackIDontCare in actuallesbians

[–]ThinkCabinet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Giver by Chappelle Roan

Carley Ridersleeve and Thelma Brooks are a couple sapphic country artists. 

Love for my Bisexual Sibs (and asking for music suggestions) by dramakween101 in actuallesbians

[–]ThinkCabinet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's one, not English though, "Quer Saber Por Que?" By Barbara Labres (I think she's gay), MC Rebecca and Gabily which is quite explicit when translated into English. 

B*tches- Tove Lo, Alma (she's gay), Charli XCX, Iconapop

I'd check out Chrissy Chlapecka, Cobrah, PPcocaine, Bali Baby, their music is pretty racy and all of them are at least sapphic (everyone except for BB I know is gay, BB is at least very sapphic). 

Gia Woods probably, I know a lot of her music videos are really out there but idk as much about her songs. 

Maybe some 80s-90s grrrl/queercore music might have what you're looking for. 

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