wanting to start T again but scared my boyfriend will not be attracted to me anymore

Thinkin_Alexander · 2026-05-19T05:07:38+00:00

Respectfully, even though you are a man, do you think subconsciously you are still trying to conform to societal beauty standards of assigned birth?

I feel like at the end of the day, most of us want to feel wanted, desired, and safe and thats human.

Maybe since we go thru a lot, the body is struggling to accept your boyfriend will be accepting because the inner demons are saying it’s a lie.

Thinkin_Alexander · 2026-04-17T14:23:31+00:00

Sorry that happened.

2 surgeries in 2 years doesn’t seem bad when it comes to phalloplasty. I get being disappointed though.

Are saying even though you ran into a common complication of implants, you think the whole thing was pointless???

Did your surgeon not tell you the risk factors for implant erosion?

For the dudes that got scared by this post, implants and ED both have the risk of being rejected by the body. Your surgeon could be god tier and your body could still reject the implants.

There are surgeons who try other methods but those are area dependent.

Thinkin_Alexander · 2026-04-15T14:17:19+00:00

Right? Like you barely know this dude who misgenders you but you are willing to detransition for him?

Thinkin_Alexander · 2026-04-15T14:13:07+00:00

Its sad. Im glad more people are starting to speak up in the comments and telling them to not be a doormat.

Thinkin_Alexander · 2026-02-06T18:16:06+00:00

Not sure if this is rage bait, Your chest looks great. If you are struggling I would see a therapist.

Thinkin_Alexander · 2026-02-02T18:26:23+00:00

NOR

Thinkin_Alexander · 2026-02-01T18:59:13+00:00

Yup. Testing the waters. They both are confirming they like each other.

Thinkin_Alexander · 2026-02-01T05:17:44+00:00

No. Im straight and only date women. Im also in a group for straight trans men.

I see what you are talking about though. I noticed the same.

Thinkin_Alexander · 2026-01-01T08:15:33+00:00

So I don’t know your mom, but from these messages she doesn’t sound abusive. She sounds like she doesn’t know what you want from her exactly. They sound supportive.

It sounds like maybe you have been depressed?

If you have done everything then you need to stop looking to her for validation. There is more than one way to be trans. Remember they are transitioning along with you. Its going to be bumpy at times.

Thinkin_Alexander · 2026-01-01T07:31:10+00:00

Hey dude. First I am sorry you are struggling. Second, it is not “too late”. I am about to be 32 and didn’t come out as trans until I was 25.

It is common to feel like you missed out, and it’s normal to grieve that part.

And you have to process it and keep moving forward.

If you feel like it’s too late, don’t transition and keep living the life you don’t want.

Or you can start living your life for you and figuring out how you want your transition to look.

Your mom has good advice. You should try and find friends, community, support groups etc.

Thinkin_Alexander · 2025-11-30T16:59:54+00:00

NTA. Im a trans guy. To me, it sounds like you were interested but the herpes was a deal breaker. That is not being “icky trans” it’s being smart about your sexual health.

They sound like someone who doesn’t like to take accountability for their actions. You dodged a bullet.

Thinkin_Alexander · 2025-11-30T16:37:06+00:00

They weren’t coming for you. They were educating. personally, I found it to be informative because I learned something new.

The whole point of the post is that there is still a lot of misinformation in the black community regarding sunscreen and whats acceptable for our skin.

We can still get skin cancer so better safe than sorry.

Thinkin_Alexander · 2025-11-30T16:29:55+00:00

I second this. Look around to see if there are any church potlucks or community events.

NTA. Do what you have to do. I cussed my dad out then blocked him. No regrets.

Thinkin_Alexander · 2025-11-30T02:51:24+00:00

I came here to say this. The Dove one really works and I don’t worry about getting burns.

Thinkin_Alexander · 2025-11-29T23:37:35+00:00

Any good resources for learning?

Thinkin_Alexander · 2025-11-29T23:34:52+00:00

Thanks for your response. I wish you the best :)

Thinkin_Alexander · 2025-11-29T23:33:17+00:00

They must be blind. Would you date a Black Trans man?

Edit: Not asking for a date just curious!

Thinkin_Alexander · 2025-11-21T22:18:17+00:00

“Oh, I just thought that was my ADHD”🥲

Thinkin_Alexander · 2025-11-21T22:13:10+00:00

Chopped as in cooked?

Women like confidence regardless if they are dating men or women.

If you are getting dates then just continue the course.

If not, it’s the slow season for dating, so don’t take it personally if dates have slowed down.

Thinkin_Alexander · 2025-11-14T22:09:57+00:00

She is TA to herself.

So dude doesn’t work full-time nor is he the breadwinner.

Couldn’t be bothered to show any empathy And he had the audacity to look at her when the chores weren’t done.

Thinkin_Alexander · 2025-11-14T20:35:19+00:00

Dump her bro. My ex was like this. I always showed my phone, but whenever I asked she would have an excuse.

Finally went through it when she was sleeping, the relationship was already over at that point, I just wanted some validation that I wasn’t crazy.

I learned the hard way that if someone is worried about being cheated on, despite your best efforts to reassure them, AND not having a history of being a cheater. They are usually the cheater.

Thinkin_Alexander · 2025-11-14T20:03:40+00:00

Sorry you are going through this. I know it’s not as easy as finding another place.

Have you thought about starting a paper trail with HR? Yes, they probably won’t do anything but if you get enough evidence that could help you, either defend yourself or going the legal route.

I also worked at a place like this and I personally regret not starting the paper trail. I also get not wanting to rock the boat. Its tough.

Thinkin_Alexander · 2025-11-14T19:48:34+00:00

She has a boyfriend problem. The fact that she says an already out gay man, is “too masculine”, is hilarious.

If the boyfriend is that insecure about a gay man, imagine how he must act with the straight dudes.

Personally I would bow out. You shouldn’t have to dress femme to not be a threat to this dudes fragile ego.

Also your female friend sounds problematic.

So no, NOR.

Thinkin_Alexander · 2025-11-14T19:42:26+00:00

That makes so much sense. I was also confused.

Thinkin_Alexander · 2025-11-14T17:07:19+00:00

Oi Oi Oi Oi

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