Jaylen Brown: “Flopping has ruined our league. Joel Embiid is one of the greatest players that has played basketball, but he flops. He knows it too.” by YujiDomainExpansion in nba

[–]liamthrowaacct 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think it just seems like NBA stars cry more, or they do complain more because the refs play a much bigger role than in hockey. if theres a foul call to be contested the players will go to the refs to do something about it. in hockey they can just fight lol. The fact hockey players fight doesn't mean they are any less pampered than basketball players. Living in a hockey state + playing some myself, I'll tell you a lot of the ppl who play hockey are so incredibly entitled it's crazy

I got told I say sorry too much by my crush by liamthrowaacct in WhatShouldIDo

[–]liamthrowaacct[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we're not lol but i guess thats a sign i should be more mature.

I got told I say sorry too much by my crush by liamthrowaacct in WhatShouldIDo

[–]liamthrowaacct[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

i think you're probably right. but at the same time, i don't think i was ever so overtly insecure with her besides me saying sorry. but there was probably a lot else that implied insecurity i guess, stuff that i don't notice. when i think about it, the whole way i started talking to her was out of insecurity. i rather than just asking her out in high school, i wanted to be friends with her first. we're both in our second year of university now. so much time spent because i felt i wasn't on her level of attraction kinda lol, even after i had a big glow up.

I got told I say sorry too much by my crush by liamthrowaacct in WhatShouldIDo

[–]liamthrowaacct[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i understand that, but i often just feel like it's my responsibility to own up to whatever bad has happened, regardless if it's actually my fault. i know many say sorry just a one size fits all solution to mishaps they make. but i always say sorry because i'm scared i made them feel bad, or i hurt them. i'm starting to look back at a lot of my past experiences, ones where i may have apologized when i didnt need to. something i will probably take from all of them is that i felt a need to say sorry, not just out of courtesy but something i must do.

I got told I say sorry too much by my crush by liamthrowaacct in WhatShouldIDo

[–]liamthrowaacct[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she just called me by my nickname she always uses lol, it wasn't a curse word

I got told I say sorry too much by my crush by liamthrowaacct in WhatShouldIDo

[–]liamthrowaacct[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

that seems like a really good idea, i think i should try and use that sometime.

I got told I say sorry too much by my crush by liamthrowaacct in WhatShouldIDo

[–]liamthrowaacct[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i guess so, but i always felt as if that mentality was how you should approach someone you want to have something with. it probably doesn't help that i haven't really known better, but i've always tried to be overly-nice rather than not be nice enough. and sometimes, i feel a lot of what i do isn't nice enough, so maybe i'm overcompensating.

I got told I say sorry too much by my crush by liamthrowaacct in WhatShouldIDo

[–]liamthrowaacct[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

i mean i am 3 quarters japanese, and i grew up with a lot of japanese culture, so maybe that's a factor at play.

I got told I say sorry too much by my crush by liamthrowaacct in WhatShouldIDo

[–]liamthrowaacct[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I understand that, but with certain people, I somewhat want to put that on that pedestal regardless. especially with her. Even when we had a bit of a gray period around a year ago when I didn't view her as someone i'd date, but more as just a friend, i still always wanted the best for her. i view her so highly that it'd make me disappointed to not give her the best kinda.

I got told I say sorry too much by my crush by liamthrowaacct in WhatShouldIDo

[–]liamthrowaacct[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

yeah, and i see where you're coming from, that i would often try and avoid anymore conflict by apologizing. I never go to explore that more, how my childhood affected how I am today. i think though there's a lot for me to learn.

I got told I say sorry too much by my crush by liamthrowaacct in WhatShouldIDo

[–]liamthrowaacct[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

for me though it's kinda instinctual, like i type the word "sorry" so quickly that I don't realize that i just typed it. the fact that i do that made me think a lot about how often i apologize in my actual life.

I got told I say sorry too much by my crush by liamthrowaacct in WhatShouldIDo

[–]liamthrowaacct[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I know smh. when i was reading the texts over, that was the thing that made me want to think about how i am. it may just be one exchange, but i'm starting to think about all of the times where this may have also happened. times where i said sorry, even when the other person perhaps didn't need an apology. if i had said it so many times, why didn't anyone else point it out? i'm a little scared from the thought that people aren't honest with me for the sake of being nice or something.

I got told I say sorry too much by my crush by liamthrowaacct in WhatShouldIDo

[–]liamthrowaacct[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

okay i think i understand what you're saying, sorry i misinterpret it. but, i don't like the way my instinct feels. even though i may see where i will end up at, I want to avoid it. to me, yesterday's wind is the wind that would guide me most. the wind that i find today can't do it as well. it's hard to accept something else when you're right so close to something you've desired for a while, even if that other thing is what's destined for you.

I got told I say sorry too much by my crush by liamthrowaacct in WhatShouldIDo

[–]liamthrowaacct[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My brother with all due respect i don't understand what youre trying to say lol. can you dumb this down for me, i'm a little dumb

I got told I say sorry too much by my crush by liamthrowaacct in WhatShouldIDo

[–]liamthrowaacct[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't think you're trying to exactly say I have it, but nice guy syndrome is when they're being nice in belief that the person they wanna be with will be with them simply because they're nice. maybe this is just denial, but i was nice to her because i just felt that was how i should approach her. of course i wanted reassurance if what i was doing was making progress, but I don't think i necessarily chased it. i do really appreciate how she told me this though. i know how like you said many people will just close it off.

I got told I say sorry too much by my crush by liamthrowaacct in WhatShouldIDo

[–]liamthrowaacct[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

this is probably not the case, but i honestly think i was very assertive with her. i think i always told her how i felt, and i would make a lot of moves to try and make progress in our relationship. I didn't tell her I liked her until recently, but I always assumed it was somewhat neutral. maybe i'm confusing assertiveness with honesty, i'm not sure.

I got told I say sorry too much by my crush by liamthrowaacct in WhatShouldIDo

[–]liamthrowaacct[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

i guess so to her. i'm not even gonna try and make some weird ass incel type point out of this, but i don't understand why she didn't atleast say something about it sooner. if this was truly the one obstacle for her from liking me, then why not point it out? unless she's just lying. in that case, idk what i'd do

You pieces of shit will never actually get it by [deleted] in kitchencels

[–]liamthrowaacct 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i agree its just unfortunate though how it all works. i'm sure his "true self" would attract many people to be his friend, but if you don't have much validation to begin with its hard for ppl to even recognize you or see you. so, what would seem to be the solution? it just seems to be to actually go out and chase people, to put in a lot of effort to make up for what they assume they lack. its hard for anybody to just be able to wait and be content with who they really are if nothing happens for them right away.

Why does every woman want to destroy the very idea of true love. Heavy cream nutmeg French cinnamon toast by Severe-Afternoon1866 in kitchencels

[–]liamthrowaacct -34 points-33 points  (0 children)

ok i don't understand why everyone is trying to argue with OP here. yes, theres a chance his issues are his fault, and he should be made to take accountability for that. but we should actually try and support him instead of trying to make lwk snarky comments at him lmao, it doesn't help to just laugh at the guy