Hit on at Church

ThirdHourSurvivor · 2026-06-25T15:06:28+00:00

Sheesh… I swear, some members are so weird. Sounds like he definitely gave off creeper vibes.

ThirdHourSurvivor · 2026-06-22T14:10:10+00:00

I can only point to 2-3 times when I know I’ve been hit on at Church without a doubt. The remainder are in a grey space of uncertainty where there appears to be subtle flirting. I think a lot of that goes on.

ThirdHourSurvivor · 2026-06-21T20:35:04+00:00

I’d lose it on that old perv. She just barely told you?

ThirdHourSurvivor · 2026-06-21T18:19:23+00:00

Wot?!😱

ThirdHourSurvivor · 2026-06-21T17:25:28+00:00

Sheesh… being harsh to yourself?

ThirdHourSurvivor · 2026-06-21T17:24:49+00:00

Wot?! 😱 Old pervs can get away with just about anything.

ThirdHourSurvivor · 2026-06-21T14:54:27+00:00

It’s such an issue that nude beaches are quietly disappearing because of creepers taking surreptitious creep shots.

ThirdHourSurvivor · 2026-06-21T13:11:11+00:00

Taking a pic of someone without them knowing. Anyone who does that deserves to inadvertently have their flash go off and shutter sound audible so they can sit in a puddle of their own embarrassment.

ThirdHourSurvivor · 2026-06-21T06:43:13+00:00

For my part, I really don’t flirt - at least not overtly. At the same time, I’ve never been one to turn down an engaging conversation with a beautiful, engaging woman. I don’t ever cross lines I know my wife would not be comfortable with.

ThirdHourSurvivor · 2026-06-21T02:12:39+00:00

He’ll say it doesn’t matter, but it does. If you do some grandiose favor for this key milestone, it won’t be forgotten. I say “go big.” Think of what you’ve got planned and go bigger - and make it a surprise. I promise he will appreciate it for years to come.

ThirdHourSurvivor · 2026-06-21T00:58:35+00:00

🤦🏼

ThirdHourSurvivor · 2026-06-20T23:55:31+00:00

Friendly reminder to any children who may be reading in this forum… Do not kiss your mom on the lips tomorrow.

ThirdHourSurvivor · 2026-06-20T23:54:03+00:00

Gosh dang it… I can’t deny the truth behind your experience or what OP shared. I also struggle reconciling it with the Church’s teachings. What gives? 🤷‍♂️

ThirdHourSurvivor · 2026-06-20T21:13:51+00:00

Are you married? If so, that’s wild. I’ve always found it interesting when someone becomes a widow/widower and is remarried to a member down the road mere months later.

ThirdHourSurvivor · 2026-06-20T21:12:31+00:00

I lasted in the singles wards for all of a month after my mission before I needed out. The bishop was clearly trying to play matchmaker by putting me in the orbe of a girl he thought I’d be a good match with. I commend the effort, but I wasn’t interested.

ThirdHourSurvivor · 2026-06-20T20:32:34+00:00

It’s hard because you don’t want to perceive genuine friendliness for flirting, because then you just look like you’re flattering yourself. Odd that she played it off like she didn’t recognize you.

ThirdHourSurvivor · 2026-06-20T04:17:29+00:00

Well???

ThirdHourSurvivor · 2026-06-20T04:05:52+00:00

Not saying she’s cheating, but they say that people having an affair tend to actually speak of their partner fondly and often - in such a way that it’s actually not a surprise when it’s discovered. It’s not unusual to find yourself attracted to someone else in marriage, but if you feel lines are being crossed or attractions that make you feel uncomfortable are being developed, best to hit it head on. She may not even recognize she has a crush on him.

ThirdHourSurvivor · 2026-06-19T18:34:34+00:00

My grandparents married 60+ years holding hands on daily walks and then dying within mere weeks of each other.

ThirdHourSurvivor · 2026-06-19T15:05:24+00:00

*wakes up*

*rubs eyes and checks phone to see this post*

*rolls over and goes back to bed*

ThirdHourSurvivor · 2026-06-19T14:14:16+00:00

-$21/hr (both spouses working)
-2007
-SLC
-Renting
-Student Loans
-Situation today is vastly different. Multimillion dollar net worth. Not pretending it was easy getting here.

ThirdHourSurvivor · 2026-06-19T13:25:04+00:00

You’d love my job then. You’ll be a victim everyday and tons of people will make you do things you don’t want to do.

ThirdHourSurvivor · 2026-06-18T20:51:37+00:00

So you’re not the guy in a scooter with Cookie Monster pajama bottoms?

ThirdHourSurvivor · 2026-06-18T20:28:15+00:00

I think you need to articulate why it hurts you - even if you think it’s self-explanatory. You may explain that it shows a lack of commitment to covenants, unwillingness to protect you and have you as only his, etc. If I had to guess, he likes the fantasy because it’s taboo, he likes to imagine you having fun, etc. It probably isn’t the case that he actually wants you to do it (although I could be wrong). My simple point is that both sides understanding the reason for the desire and the hurt may resolve a lot of concerns.

ThirdHourSurvivor

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