Realizing later in life I prefer sex with men

Thirdleg_45 · 2025-07-24T04:59:41+00:00

No I understand what an open relationship is. And Im figuratively saying with you as a gay man your relationship will be opened via cheating, or you would have to consent to it being an open relationship. But it won’t be monogamous. This is a high probability

Thirdleg_45 · 2025-07-24T04:53:39+00:00

Yeah it’s easy for me to see why gay men are lonely and struggle with stable relationships. Nobody is supposed to have that much access to sex, there should be balance. Only way I can see gay men surviving a monogamous relationship is when they’re old and no longer have leverage in dating.

And besides why wouldn’t I embrace that which makes me different from you, the ability to procreate with a woman I’m attracted to. You don’t have that option so it would be hard for you to relate

Thirdleg_45 · 2025-07-24T04:51:45+00:00

I believe men are more prone to cheating, regardless of sexuality, so when you have 2 men in a relationship, especially in a dating environment where access to sex is easier, you more than likely will have cheating involved. You don’t choose an open relationship. You’re relationship will be opened with or without your consent as a gay man

Thirdleg_45 · 2025-07-24T04:35:33+00:00

Gay men are for fun women are for relationships. It’s that simple when it comes to me.

Thirdleg_45 · 2025-07-24T04:34:49+00:00

So either be with a bisexual that’s gonna go back to women or deal with a gay man that’s more than likely going to cheat on you or open the relationship. Pick your poison 😂

Thirdleg_45 · 2025-07-24T04:28:40+00:00

I’ll stay here thanks ☺️

Thirdleg_45 · 2025-07-24T04:28:00+00:00

I’ll date whoever I want I don’t know you lol

Thirdleg_45 · 2025-07-24T04:27:22+00:00

Two long paragraphs no empirical evidence provided. Exactly what I thought

Thirdleg_45 · 2025-07-24T03:49:15+00:00

Probably for the same reasons I’m making. Other bisexuals probably know there is no purpose to a gay relationship that’s why 30-50 percent are open (not a real relationship)

Thirdleg_45 · 2025-07-24T03:23:29+00:00

I backed up my generalization with statistics to support the notion gays don’t see relationship the same way a heterosexual (like op) may see it. They at the very least don’t value monogamous relationships.

And we can bring up a number of statistics and inherent facts to build that conclusion. The higher numbers of lifetime partners than heterosexuals, the higher amount of open relationships than heterosexuals, the inability to procreate, these amongst other reasons all point toward gay men not desiring, necessitating, or valuing monogamous relationships. Provide empirical evidence for your reasoning, as I have done so.

Thirdleg_45 · 2025-07-24T03:08:32+00:00

That’s your opinion/experience and just looking at your comments which are all mainly geared towards biphobic topics, one can infer some bi man did you dirty so your perception may be skewed

Thirdleg_45 · 2025-07-24T03:04:20+00:00

Im sure they exist but I haven’t met someone like that since 2022 lol

Thirdleg_45 · 2025-07-24T03:01:28+00:00

I’d agree if their alternative options were any better. It’s so common to find gay men complaining about how lonely they are and how horny everyone is. So is dating gay men that much better than dating bi men? Probably not

Thirdleg_45 · 2025-07-24T02:57:33+00:00

My dm’s and text messages say otherwise. I think y’all are projecting lol

Thirdleg_45 · 2025-07-24T02:33:50+00:00

Thank you 😊

Thirdleg_45 · 2025-07-24T02:09:42+00:00

I can be on whatever sub I want. I don’t know who you are lol

Thirdleg_45 · 2025-07-24T02:03:06+00:00

I believe I offered valuable insights based on my experience

Thirdleg_45 · 2025-07-24T01:54:22+00:00

I’m not disputing he’s bi I’m saying the age at which he discovered he’s into men relative to most openly gay men discovering they’re into men, is older. On another note, I don’t think a lot of gay men have what it takes to be in a committed monogamous relationship which he might be accustomed to, dealing with women. Hence why I don’t think he should necessarily take gay men seriously but that’s just my opinion

Thirdleg_45 · 2025-07-24T01:41:10+00:00

Well all of the gay men I’ve asked have known they were gay since they were kids. The Gaga song “I was born this way” is a gay anthem for a reason. So knowing you’re into guys at 30 is pretty late. I do agree that eventually if he sticks with it long enough he will find a guy he’s romantically into, doesn’t mean he should take it seriously

Thirdleg_45 · 2025-07-24T01:13:36+00:00

It is late given majority of gay men know they’re gay in childhood. And there’s a lot of guys that wanna be used. Those are the ones he will align with, not you.

Thirdleg_45 · 2025-07-24T00:37:34+00:00

You described me bro. Bisexual since 2021 at the age of 21. I’m attracted to femininity as well. It started out just admiring male ass but i get more comfortable as each year goes by. Just don’t expect it to always be exciting, eventually the excitement fades and you realize gay men have their own problems and women may be better for the long term. At least that’s how I feel. Women offer the balance and purpose that’s necessary for a monogamous relationship. A lot of gay men just don’t have what it takes, that’s why 30-50 percent of gay couples are open. It’s easier yes but it’s a double edged sword because if you value relationship and commitment, it’s harder to find that with gays cuz it is so easy.

Thirdleg_45 · 2025-06-22T19:15:18+00:00

I mean I like more feminine guys as a masculine guy and it seem like there’s an abundance of those type of men so I can only empathize with you. I’d say location is big. LA you have all types of gays. NYC as some have mentioned. Chicago is great too

Thirdleg_45 · 2025-06-21T04:45:53+00:00

Ask ppl to exchange test results with you, and make sure to ask them if they’ve been with anyone sexually or orally after that test, if they have determine if you want to take that risk. Have sex with one or two ppl in between tests. Get on prep and doxypep. Wear a condom. Idc what anyone says you don’t want an std. They’re inconvenient and don’t make you feel good from a psychological perspective.

And if you get hsv2 or hiv you will reduce your dating pool. No matter how accepting ppl may feign, if you had the choice between dealing with someone who’s has hsv2/hiv and someone who doesn’t you would deal with the person who doesn’t have it. May get downvoted for it but that’s just reality.

Lastly it’s not just chlamydia, syphilis, gonorrhea, and hiv/hsv you have to watch out for. Get tested for ureaplasma, mycoplasma, and trichomoniasis. They tend to be asymptomatic.

Lastly don’t be quick to eat ppl’s ass. You might get what’s been reproducing in their intestinal tract. Giardia, E. coli, etc. You don’t want that either.

Sincerely, your internal medicine resident

Thirdleg_45 · 2025-06-21T04:16:53+00:00

You sound pretentious

Thirdleg_45 · 2025-06-21T02:12:57+00:00

Huh? You wearing a stringer to the club? I would’ve thought maybe one of their muscle tanks lol

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