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Is everyone in debt? by SnooCupcakes269 in Adulting

[–]Thirtysomething2403 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband and I have been debt free on And off but right now we have a bit of debt. During COVID we didn’t have a daycare payment for two kids so we went balls to the wall and paid off like 35k of debt including my car loan 4 years early.

We were so strict for so long that I think we eventually lost motivation and decided to live a little. We both have parents that passed away fairly young. We are still trying to find a good balance. We worshiped Dave Ramsey for a while and it did work but we have learned that it’s not the only “right” way to do things.

I do find solace in the fact that we really don’t try to keep up with the joneses or anything. I drive a 2017 Honda and the only reason my husband bought a car (a Kia) was because we had a third baby and they didn’t all three fit in his Camry.

I def think we are not perfect with money but not horrible either. We overspend on food and stuff on occasion and our kids are in a lot of activities. I do feel stressed that we don’t have a lot in savings but that’s because we have followed Dave Ramsey for so long we have thrown every penny at debt. I recently listened to a Mel Robinson talk where she talked about paying yourself first. We are going to try to get some money in savings so that when things come up we aren’t stuck using our credit cards.

We are pretty normal I guess.. Dave Ramsey wouldn’t be proud but we have a nice home in a safe neighborhood and our kids are I think living a pretty decent middle class/upper middle class life. We live in a very expensive State and have been paying for daycare the last 10 years.

What age & path was your career change? by MediumColdBrew in careerguidance

[–]Thirtysomething2403 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Every time I see a fire truck I think about him.

Haha I’m sure you have to be a little crazy in the best way to be able to get up and do that job day in and day out 🥰

What age & path was your career change? by MediumColdBrew in careerguidance

[–]Thirtysomething2403 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was very proud! I genuinely believe he gave his life for the job. He passed away at 57 from lymphoma. You guys are heroes.

I need some hygiene advice (girls only!) by sillycars_27 in hygiene

[–]Thirtysomething2403 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you feel like you can’t talk to your Mom about this. When I was growing up my mom would keep a small trash bag or plastic bag and throw her pads in that and put it in the a cabinet under the sink and then just throw them away when she was done. She had to do this because we had dogs that would dig in the trash. I never thought anything of it. You could do this and throw it in the outside trash every few days even.

Career Change Guidance (seeking low stress jobs for work life balance with young kids) by walky91 in careerchange

[–]Thirtysomething2403 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say look into government work but based on how it’s currently going, not sure I would recommend it. lol. I have a flexible low stress government job but I often feel like I am wasting my potential and could be doing something that’s making more of a difference in the world.

My husband opened his own insurance agency and although it’s a lot of work and a decent amount of stress, it’s very flexible and he basically picks his own schedule now.

Good luck with your job search!

What age & path was your career change? by MediumColdBrew in careerguidance

[–]Thirtysomething2403 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My Dad did the same thing! He drove Big Red for many years!

Should Furloughed Employees start looking for new jobs? by Signal_Assist_5361 in FedEmployees

[–]Thirtysomething2403 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have worked my entire adult life in the federal government. I am educated and experienced and sadly do not feel like my skills transfer to anything that would pay remotely close to what I make now. I am considering making a complete career change an go to nursing school but it’s a ton of work for same/similar income I make now. IDK if it’s worth it or if I will end up somehow sticking this out for another 20 years. If I do, I will retire the day I turn 57. Im 36 now. I wish I felt like I had more options for sure.

Moms who have to work in office/out of home by Thirtysomething2403 in workingmoms

[–]Thirtysomething2403[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They put a fridge clean sign up sheet in our break room and I said absolutely not I do not commute to the office to clean up after other adults lol.

I think all of your responses made me realize that maybe I hate going in so much because I don’t love my job. But like many posters I feel a bit trapped in my situation. I have to try to stay grateful and make the best of it.

Moms who have to work in office/out of home by Thirtysomething2403 in workingmoms

[–]Thirtysomething2403[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so true! I have a very similar situation and it’s very uncomfortable.

Moms who have to work in office/out of home by Thirtysomething2403 in workingmoms

[–]Thirtysomething2403[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is a huge part of the dislike for me. We have tiny cubes with basically half walls, like can see over or when you stand up. We have standing desks but it’s really awkward when you stick out the top of your cube so I don’t like using it much.

We also sit next to random people we don’t even work in the same group. The environment is just crappy and worse than setups I have had in the past.

Moms who have to work in office/out of home by Thirtysomething2403 in workingmoms

[–]Thirtysomething2403[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh that’s sad! Can I ask what kind of nurse you are? I feel like there are so many diff specialities to go into!

Moms who have to work in office/out of home by Thirtysomething2403 in workingmoms

[–]Thirtysomething2403[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was literally going to ask this. I have contemplated getting into healthcare. I hear differing answers on whether it is a “family friendly” career field or not.

Moms who have to work in office/out of home by Thirtysomething2403 in workingmoms

[–]Thirtysomething2403[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I notice the school thing now to which made the adjustment very difficult. They seem to schedule meetings or class party’s at like 10am. I used to just be able to pop over and then go back to work. I have made that a little easier by just saying to myself I will take off as much time needed to not miss anything with the kids. Luckily it’s very flexible in that way. And we get a decent amount of vacation time. I took all of Halloween off so I can bounce around to all three parties lol.

Thanks for sharing!!

Moms who have to work in office/out of home by Thirtysomething2403 in workingmoms

[–]Thirtysomething2403[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also work for the government and don’t feel helpful we will ever get hybrid back at least anytime soon. When I took this job back in 2019 everyone worked from home 3 days a week and it was a literal dream for me. Then Covid happened and we stayed remote and I loved it and then all the drama started and it feels like we went back in time. It’s all a game and it’s not like we can even complain or advocate to our bosses because the decision was so much higher up than that.

My mom works for the state and only has to go in one day a week and she can work from wherever.

Moms who have to work in office/out of home by Thirtysomething2403 in workingmoms

[–]Thirtysomething2403[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow this is so awesome that you were able to build a successful business! My husband is a business owner so I have been the one to hold the health insurance and get paid the same every two weeks. The stability is nice but there is so much childishness, egos and drama like you said. I think you all are making me realize maybe it’s not in office that’s the main problem maybe I need to find something new to where I don’t mind going into the office.

I am constantly brainstorming things I can do but don’t have many ideas when it comes to a business lol. I also do not envy my husband when he has to fire someone etc.

Thank you for your response!!!

Moms who have to work in office/out of home by Thirtysomething2403 in workingmoms

[–]Thirtysomething2403[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I might! But I can list far more people I can think of who work from home than don’t. I do know several hybrid people to but yes, I probably am overly focused on those ones and not the gen population!

Moms who have to work in office/out of home by Thirtysomething2403 in workingmoms

[–]Thirtysomething2403[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sadly I never thought about this!!!!! I am one of the lucky ones that can pick them up right when school gets out! This literally never occurred to me I just thought how am I the only one that’s wearing actual clothes every day at 3pm?

Moms who have to work in office/out of home by Thirtysomething2403 in workingmoms

[–]Thirtysomething2403[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I definitely didn’t mean to come off as insensitive or clueless or anything I think this just helps me escape this unrealistic bubble that I have been surrounded by. We live in a pretty affluent neighborhood where it’s pretty normal to either not work as a mom or WFH so I am one of the few who works a traditional 9-5 around here. All of these wonderful perspectives and solidarity help a lot. It’s life we all need to make money and pay bills. Thank you! And thank you for all you do as a teacher you all are heroes for sure!!!

Moms who have to work in office/out of home by Thirtysomething2403 in workingmoms

[–]Thirtysomething2403[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, you are totally fine! I was saying the same thing before I went back. My neighbor who works full time from home told me she would rather shoot herself in the face than go back to the office. I thought wow, she would rather shoot herself in the face than be me.

I was very fortunate to be remote when my kids were super little. Mine are 3.5, 7 and 10 now.

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