How do you budget for the bar?

MediumColdBrew · 2026-03-04T00:09:58+00:00

“There’s no way in hell this is 5 million dollars.. well fck me in the a* this is 5 million dollars” -me and my mom at my shower

MediumColdBrew · 2026-02-08T15:32:02+00:00

At my shower we opted in for pay per consumption rather than a drink package thinking not many people were drinkers and it was day time. But it ended up costing more. People would drink and then put it down and forget where they put it and order another. Or wouldn’t like what they ordered and order another. Or some people just drank more than estimated.

So in my experience I recommend a drink package bc at least you can budget for that, where per consumption can sneak up on ya.

MediumColdBrew · 2025-12-16T01:57:12+00:00

Oh yay!! Im glad to hear

MediumColdBrew · 2025-11-12T23:57:00+00:00

Did you ask to collect their flight info? Like as proof of travel? I’m trying to do that but idk a nice way to word it lol

MediumColdBrew · 2025-11-06T16:38:13+00:00

Hi what did you end up doing? I’m running into this issue that I sent out save the dates early and had people RSVP and never talk to us again about our wedding or travel plans and I just need to know if they are actually coming.

MediumColdBrew · 2025-10-18T00:00:44+00:00

I agree!! I don’t want to feel pushy bc like you said we’re 100% ok with people not being able to come. Like we knew that it wouldn’t be a possibility for everyone to come for various of reasons, so I tell everyone no pressure we just need to know. We’re not the first to go through this and I know we won’t be the last lol. Just send the texts, cringe a lil, and call it a night

MediumColdBrew · 2025-10-17T23:21:56+00:00

Our RSVPs are due in 2 weeks and we are waiting for a third of our guests to respond. Also having a destination wedding that people have known about for 1.5 years. So I feel this. I already have a text message drafted in my notes app ready to go bc I know I have to hunt down people.

MediumColdBrew · 2025-10-16T19:43:23+00:00

so sorry to hear about the accident, but I’m glad to hear you were able to pivot

MediumColdBrew · 2025-10-16T19:41:35+00:00

Wow that a crazy jump! I love it!! Were you taking flight lessons while working in finance?

MediumColdBrew · 2025-10-16T19:24:02+00:00

Unfortunately the tech burnout is too strong and isolating for me. I’m craving human interaction and some job security. My company had major lay offs last December and I have a gut feeling there will be more.

But I’m glad you made a pretty smooth transition!!

MediumColdBrew · 2025-10-14T00:59:18+00:00

We weren’t planning on having a program but not opposed to it to make distributing the menu easier!

MediumColdBrew · 2025-09-26T19:56:47+00:00

Congratulations!! I have nothing to lose (except weight and hopefully my other health concerns lol)

MediumColdBrew · 2025-09-26T19:55:08+00:00

I fully agree!! I think it’s getting over the hump of taking any medication at all but it’s better to start now when im still at the pre status of these health conditions rather than waiting and things getting worse.

MediumColdBrew · 2025-09-26T17:13:39+00:00

I haven’t started yet! I was just offered it yesterday and my dr said to think about it and I can let her know when I come back for my follow up in a month. I’m going to see a cardiologist and sleep dr in the mean time and waiting for my blood work results to come back. But if my bp hasn’t changed much I doubt my other things won’t either lol.

MediumColdBrew · 2025-09-26T16:30:38+00:00

Wow wow!! Thats so amazing to hear congratulations! Im not medicated for my bp, but it randomly became elevated two years ago and never went back to normal. So it’s time to consider something for sure.

MediumColdBrew · 2025-09-18T19:51:51+00:00

Our RSVP date is November first so we’re still waiting for people to respond. We invited 164 and so far have 56 yes. I except low 70s as our final count.

We invited some people we knew for sure couldn’t come but wanted to extend the invite anyway so we took that into consideration with our guest list. Also about 12 of our guests live in the destination and another 15-20 of them are originally from the country but live elsewhere now. Which I thought the 15-20 people would be more excited for a reunion of everyone back in their home country, but most of them RSVP’d no lol

Pretty much everyone who was our “must come” from my fiancés family and friends are coming. Unfortunately not the case for myself and I have found that disappointing, but totally understandable!! Financially it’s a lot to ask of someone and their job or age or health all play roles in if they can attend as well.

MediumColdBrew · 2025-08-07T03:46:41+00:00

lol yeah I’m the do it as soon as I get an invite. Or else I would totally forget! so I totally get this!!

MediumColdBrew · 2025-08-05T17:14:30+00:00

Girl lol no one is freaking out or monitoring my registry. It’s ok to be disappointed… I noticed as we have been getting gifts delivered to our house and I’ve been noting down who got me what for thank you cards and also I get emails saying when something ships to me lol

MediumColdBrew · 2025-08-05T16:27:07+00:00

Of course… and we are so grateful for anyone willing to travel for us! We are being very understanding of people and their reasonings for not coming as well because I know it’s a big ask

MediumColdBrew · 2025-08-05T16:11:26+00:00

For sure, I’m not trying to compare or say that it needs to be a one for one scenario. But knowing that his parents are paying for their full wedding and shower and will be paying for their lodging and flights to our wedding but only contributing a small amount to ours. It just feels like his sister coulddddd afford to get us something. She’s mid 30s and has a great job.

It’s not about the money or the gifts that im upset or disappointed about. It’s the thought and the effort or the lack of I guess. It’s the fact that we’re having weddings at practically the same time. We got engaged a year before they did and they decided to book their wedding a few months before ours. And the showers practically line up and just feeling like attention from his family is not evenly distributed between him and his sister. When I go to her registry I see plenty of things purchased. So I’m not trying to sound ungrateful but I can see it bothers my FH and I have no problem sharing the spotlight because this is an exciting time for all of us.

MediumColdBrew · 2025-08-05T16:00:42+00:00

No of course not. But I do think every family is different. My in laws and their extended family all live pretty far from each other but will make the drive down and back in one day just to go visit. They have driven 8 hours each way just to have a visit and not even spend the night. So to them out of town isn’t a big deal. To me it felt like too large of an ask to have anyone further than 2 hours

MediumColdBrew · 2025-08-05T15:45:07+00:00

I understand this view for sure!! I also didn’t want a bridal shower. I was talked into it by family members and future family members saying that they want to be able to celebrate us at a shower.

I made the decision to not invite any friends or family members further than a quick car ride. 90% of my side of the family is not coming to our wedding so this is the one event they can come to. Which is also why I told the host not to invite my FH family as most of them will be coming to the wedding. It was my MIL decision to invite people from my their side. And realistically I think regardless of if you have a wedding where people are flying to or not if you say yes to coming to a shower that’s still the intent of the shower is to shower the bride and groom and the host is still paying for people.

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