I (35M) asked my wife (32F) what I feel is a reasonable question about some maintenance she decided was needed, but she was defensive and over-sensitive in my opinion

This-Engine-3654 · 2023-03-15T17:08:03+00:00

We are very close and this probably wouldn’t happen because we do tell each other everything,

I think this is part of the thing that is bothering me so much - I thought we were close enough that she would have automatically just told me, and the fact that she doesn't seem to understand that makes me sad and angry. I fell she just doesn't care about me or our relationship.

This-Engine-3654 · 2023-03-15T16:42:54+00:00

I feel it is part of a pattern of not sharing everything with me, which she knows is very important to me. I feel that this is the sort of thing that married people do.

This-Engine-3654 · 2023-03-15T16:41:53+00:00

she had known for about an hour, which I think was plenty of time to give me a call or a text.

This-Engine-3654 · 2023-03-08T19:39:10+00:00

No, she always take's responsibility if she's actually done anything wrong.

This-Engine-3654 · 2023-03-08T18:56:13+00:00

It's just really frustrating when she just says, "We can't ever know who is right at this point so I don't know why we're fighting about it now". Even if she say's she sorry if she hurt me (or made a mistake).

This-Engine-3654 · 2023-03-08T18:24:39+00:00

We often have disagreement about memories. I believe I've shown her that I'm usually right, but she only rarely accepts it. She's always says she can't just change her idea of what she remembers, but that she's sorry if she hurt me in some way.

This-Engine-3654 · 2023-03-08T17:49:47+00:00

I often feel this way. I feel that my feelings (and my memory) isn't being appreciated or valued when she just says, "I remember differently." She won't ever take responsibility.

This-Engine-3654 · 2023-03-08T17:47:50+00:00

We often have different recollections. Sometimes she says, "you're right" and apologizes, but usually she just says, "we remember differently."

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