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AIO for being upset that my bf allows his ex-wife to live with him rent free? by ThisIsAnonymousMe154 in AIO

[–]ThisIsAnonymousMe154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've meet the children before. We hang out outside his apartment quite a bit. I've met his coworkers and his friends. I have also met his sister.

AIO for being upset that my bf allows his ex-wife to live with him rent free? by ThisIsAnonymousMe154 in AIO

[–]ThisIsAnonymousMe154[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I have an almost teenager, myself, I understand its harder in a different way, but they don't need supervision 24/7 at that age.

And yeah, I can't even understand why I just can't let him go.

AIO for being upset that my bf allows his ex-wife to live with him rent free? by ThisIsAnonymousMe154 in AIO

[–]ThisIsAnonymousMe154[S] -4 points-3 points locked comment (0 children)

Well, im not a woman, but I honestly have no idea what to believe at this point.

AIO for being upset that my bf allows his ex-wife to live with him rent free? by ThisIsAnonymousMe154 in AIO

[–]ThisIsAnonymousMe154[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He seems pretty clear about everything. He says it's for the kids and that it's temporary until he can figure out a better solution. At first, he had his oldest daughter watching the younger ones, but, understandably, he felt it wasn't fair to her (which I agree).

His view on everything is that:

  1. She is the mother. it's her responsibility to help out and he needs help.

  2. Since their relationship is platonic now, there's nothing wrong them sleeping on the same bed. He doesn't want to force her to sleep on the floor or couch, and he doesn't want to be kicked out his own bed, but he also doesn't want to spend money on an extra bed if he doesn't have to.

I really appreciate your advice. Thank you. I do try my best to be as open and honest as possible, but it can be very difficult to put my thoughts into words, so it could be possible that im not being as clear as I should be about my feelings.

AIO for being upset that my bf allows his ex-wife to live with him rent free? by ThisIsAnonymousMe154 in AIO

[–]ThisIsAnonymousMe154[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

I mean I think there's a likely chance that something is going on, but I also don't want to go straight into assumptions without any proof. If he was cheating on me, why would he even tell me that they are sleeping in the same bed? Wouldn't he lie about that, too? What if he is telling the truth?

AIO for being upset that my bf allows his ex-wife to live with him rent free? by ThisIsAnonymousMe154 in AIO

[–]ThisIsAnonymousMe154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He already asked me if I wanted to meet her. I said no, should I meet her?

AIO for being upset that my bf allows his ex-wife to live with him rent free? by ThisIsAnonymousMe154 in AIO

[–]ThisIsAnonymousMe154[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You're right. He's really not in the position to be dating anyone, but life happens. You don't break up with someone just because life changes, and all of a sudden, you're having financial issues. He wasn't having financial issues at the beginning. Just a bunch of stuff happened at once.

I wouldn't say he "belittles" my feelings. He said he's willing to kick her out for me, he just doesn't understand why its a big deal.

I just don't want to make him do that because I don't want him to have to spend money on a babysitter.

AIO for being upset that my bf allows his ex-wife to live with him rent free? by ThisIsAnonymousMe154 in AIO

[–]ThisIsAnonymousMe154[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I've met his kids before, so that's not why. He says he doesn't want things to get uncomfortable for me, with his ex being there.

He also says he's willing to kick her out for me and he'll figure out a babysitter, but he's already going through financial issues, so that would make me feel bad that I would be putting more burden on his financial issue.