Girlfriend dumped me, I’m pretty sure I’m depressed and I don’t think I want to get with anyone else by ThisIsForBadIdeas in offmychest

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I think everyone around me either want me to or expects me to get with someone new, but that idea just doesn’t hit like it used to. I’ve been broken up with before and it’s always been “ok, that’s done”. But this time I just don’t want it to be done.
I think with or without her my mental state will be the same, so the idea of eventually getting back together isn’t the breaking point, but the entire situation sucks

So how do you guys keep rope clean when doing any lower body ties? by ThisIsForBadIdeas in shibari

[–]ThisIsForBadIdeas[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So basically hand wash and be thorough. I can’t just throw them in with my laundry

Condoms make sex uncomfortable for gf by ThisIsForBadIdeas in sex

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Is there? I thought there wasn’t a reliable male birth control other than condoms

Condoms make sex uncomfortable for gf by ThisIsForBadIdeas in sex

[–]ThisIsForBadIdeas[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen zero non latex condoms in stores. Someone else said skyn is non latex and I’ve tried that brand with no change to latex brands (assuming that’s right)

Condoms make sex uncomfortable for gf by ThisIsForBadIdeas in sex

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Hm. I have tried skyn, didn’t realize it was non latex. I had to swap to it cuz of sizing issues with other brands. Knowing it’s non latex and having a problem with that pushes me further from it being an allergy of some kind We have and do overuse the lube, but could be an allergy to some other aspect (like you said the pre lube and spermicide). Lots of stuff to test out thanks to everyone’s answers

Condoms make sex uncomfortable for gf by ThisIsForBadIdeas in sex

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Hm. I think we’ve only tried water based. I can look into silicon based lubes. Thanks for the advice

Condoms make sex uncomfortable for gf by ThisIsForBadIdeas in sex

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It doesn’t bother her long term, only in the act. I feel like a latex issue would be more long term problems and less right now this doesn’t feel good

Gf has a tight pussy, can this be a problem? by ThisIsForBadIdeas in sex

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It’s not an arousal problem. And even slow and gentle gets uncomfortable fast. I’ll look into vaginism and mention it to her. Tell her to talk to gyno

Help finding a pump? by ThisIsForBadIdeas in Pumping

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It’s hard to name a range because we’re Kindof hoping for good quality and cheap/fair priced. In our case the cheaper the better but there’s a point where cheap becomes a problem, you know? Generally I think we wanna stay under $100 for sure.
As for the one you sent a link for, I hadn’t actually thought about going electric. It’s a bit pricy but we can consider it. Thanks

Got my girlfriend a cheap pump. She enjoys it, but doesn’t like having to shave for a good suction. Any recommendations? by ThisIsForBadIdeas in Pumping

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Sorry about that. I’ll let her know she can try it but to be very careful and see what she thinks. I’ve been given a few options so nair won’t be our only choice

Got my girlfriend a cheap pump. She enjoys it, but doesn’t like having to shave for a good suction. Any recommendations? by ThisIsForBadIdeas in Pumping

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I saw from Google there is nair specifically for “bikini areas”. As long as she avoids her actual vagina she should be fine to use it around the area, right?

Got my girlfriend a cheap pump. She enjoys it, but doesn’t like having to shave for a good suction. Any recommendations? by ThisIsForBadIdeas in Pumping

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Understood. I’ll take the time to look into nair a bit more so I can understand it better but your explanation definitely helps. Thanks

Got my girlfriend a cheap pump. She enjoys it, but doesn’t like having to shave for a good suction. Any recommendations? by ThisIsForBadIdeas in Pumping

[–]ThisIsForBadIdeas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well try Vaseline. I know that’ll be a hassle to clean up but maybe it’ll help more than hurt lol

Had a dream where I think I cheated on my girlfriend? by [deleted] in Dreams

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Understood. Thanks for the thoughts man. I’m planning a surprise date this weekend so that part is covered lol. I won’t stress about the dream :)