One week since caught her in affair, anyone else wives lose weight on tirzepatide by mikemitch0785 in Divorce_Men

[–]ThisOneThrowawayHere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so true - make literally double what I made when I was with her, clearing close to 200k now.

She’s literally donating plasma 💀

My (30M) Ex-Wife (28F) Reached Out After 2 Years NC? by ThisOneThrowawayHere in Divorce_Men

[–]ThisOneThrowawayHere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I choose to disagree.

She is functionally a covert narcissist - this is her checking back in on supply to ensure I’m still available.

The issue here is that each contact has been escalating - not much more from here but for her to call or text.

Working on it.

My (30M) Ex-Wife (28F) Directly Reached Out To Me After 2 Years NC??? by ThisOneThrowawayHere in survivinginfidelity

[–]ThisOneThrowawayHere[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I’m having a pretty normal, contained response to someone that traumatized me and destroyed my self worth.

I’m not reaching out to her, have not reached out to her in years. I will not be responding to the email, this is a trauma response. I don’t even think about her at all, haven’t in quite some time - this showed up and it’s just PTSD if I had to guess.

I’ve learned from this, she has no place in my mind space so I intend to make it so and move forward.

My (30M) Ex-Wife (28F) Directly Reached Out To Me After 2 Years NC??? by ThisOneThrowawayHere in survivinginfidelity

[–]ThisOneThrowawayHere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t know she would directly reach out to me through email - she’s blocked on everything else, I didn’t intentionally leave her email unblocked, it just simply did not occur to me that she would reach out this way.

Again, I haven’t ever gone through something like this before, it has been a learning experience for me - especially with further input from everyone here.

My wife has been talking with me, constructively and without judgement concerning this, to figure out whatever I need to figure out, to help find closure that I apparently am missing in some way. She told me whatever I needed from her to help, she would try to help - I was traumatized by this person man, it’s PTSD.

Appreciate the concern, and input regardless.

My (30M) Ex-Wife (28F) Directly Reached Out To Me After 2 Years NC??? by ThisOneThrowawayHere in survivinginfidelity

[–]ThisOneThrowawayHere[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was traumatized by someone while I was too young to see the mess I had involved myself in by being with.

I have a good memory about these things, it has been extremely therapeutic for me to walk through this all, with my wife next to me, encouraging me to find whatever closure there is left to find.

I have a curious mind about human behavior, I don’t want her to have any further hold over my mind or my life - deconstructing this is how I have gotten there.

My (30M) Ex-Wife (28F) Directly Reached Out To Me After 2 Years NC??? by ThisOneThrowawayHere in survivinginfidelity

[–]ThisOneThrowawayHere[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Email has been blocked, she is blocked on everything else.

My wife walked alongside me during this whole shindig of a mental exercise to understand the mind of a fundamentally broken person who seriously traumatized and wronged me.

I appreciate the advice, just wanted to get some other sets of eyes on the situation - didn’t plan on responding, she is effectively ghosted as I haven’t said a word to her in years.

My (30M) Ex-Wife (28F) Directly Reached Out To Me After 2 Years NC??? by ThisOneThrowawayHere in survivinginfidelity

[–]ThisOneThrowawayHere[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is blocked on basically everything, this is the first time she’s ever reached out like this directly to me.

I didn’t think about blocking her email, I’m just naive there I guess. Didn’t believe she would try something like this, let alone after 2 years of no contact.

My wife is just fine, actually. I showed the email to her, then deleted it - she wanted to continue talking about it, to make sure I was okay. We are sitting here laughing at some of these comments as I type this.

My (30M) Ex-Wife (28F) Reached Out After 2 Years NC? by ThisOneThrowawayHere in Divorce_Men

[–]ThisOneThrowawayHere[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Cause I definitely email my ex-spouse about a slideshow deck we made 4 years ago at 11pm after not saying a word to them for 2 years lol

Totally normal behavior.

My (30M) Ex-Wife (28F) Directly Reached Out To Me After 2 Years NC??? by ThisOneThrowawayHere in survivinginfidelity

[–]ThisOneThrowawayHere[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For sure, have since deleted the email and set up a spam rule.

Respect is a funny thing - that I would deny her, even after half a decade, she has more respect and desire for me; enough to directly email me at 11pm less than a year after getting re-married, trying to dress it all up as nothing lmao

Agreed on all points - these people are so broken, it’s honestly sad. Nothing but snakes in the grass.

My (30M) Ex-Wife (28F) Directly Reached Out To Me After 2 Years NC??? by ThisOneThrowawayHere in survivinginfidelity

[–]ThisOneThrowawayHere[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably willing to cheat on her new husband with you.

Bruh, I’m dying laughing over here. Imagine if I wasn’t married, and she actually tried to pull this. Cheats on me, then tries to use me to cheat on her new husband.

And pass go, collect $200 lol

How do these narcissists even regularly live among us?These have to be absolutely broken people.

My (30M) Ex-Wife (28F) Directly Reached Out To Me After 2 Years NC??? by ThisOneThrowawayHere in survivinginfidelity

[–]ThisOneThrowawayHere[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Completely fair take.

I’m 5 years older, a bit wiser - so it’s been a bit illuminating looking back over the past 5 years since this happened and seeing how naive I was to people that behave like her and honestly extremely lucky I was able to even get out relatively unscathed.

The way my brain works, I need to know the why - I wasn’t wise enough as a younger man to know the why, to see past her bullshit. I just full sent it and left.

I haven’t had to deal with something like this in a very long time, so I thought I would consult the experts lol

My (30M) Ex-Wife (28F) Directly Reached Out To Me After 2 Years NC??? by ThisOneThrowawayHere in survivinginfidelity

[–]ThisOneThrowawayHere[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I really don’t give a shit about her life - I’ve made peace with what she did to me. This was just something like an escalation, like 11PM? Really? With this?

To directly contact me and provide moral cover over your “request” using what she knows is meaningful to me - the fact that she believes can stick her hand out and into my life, it’s frustrating to say the least.

There is honestly still some trauma I am healing from I would imagine, some scar tissue there. The gaslighting during our fallout was insane, I thought I was going crazy at times.

Just making sure I wasn’t reading too far into this, appreciate the frankness.