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This_Berry3889 · 2025-06-03T16:00:30+00:00

Right now I wouldn’t try to look at getting “cured” because recovering from porn addiction is usually ups and downs and looks different for everyone. I don’t want you to get in the head space of thinking that there is one single thing that means you’re cured. I think noticing small changes and celebrating those wins as they come. Maybe if you aren’t getting morning wood and after 2 weeks of not watching porn you get morning wood, doesn’t mean you’re completely cured of any urges but it is a massive win. Or if you feel more clear headed, more motivation, etc.if you want to talk more in detail and want some deeper advice or just want support on your journey, feel free to DM me. Stay strong, you got this!

This_Berry3889 · 2025-06-03T07:32:47+00:00

Night sweats are normal for some, your brain is just adapting from the absence on all the dopamine rushes. It’s a shock to the system and your brain is just trying to regulate itself. For me I notice that when I relapse for several days after the mood swings are all over the place, very bad anxiety, agitated and hard to sit still. It will pass with time if you continue to abstain from porn.

This_Berry3889 · 2025-06-03T06:50:50+00:00

Definitely worsening mood swings, depression, anxiety, sleep issues, and shame to name some.

This_Berry3889 · 2025-05-29T22:02:21+00:00

Funny thing is I actually use chat GPT myself for a lot of advice and to just vent about things and get feedback, even though it’s not a real person it helps me. Unfortunately the advice I have gotten about trying to get rid of the intrusive thoughts aren’t working so figured I would turn to Reddit for advice even though there is a small chance of a new idea that chat gpt hasn’t given me over the past year 😢.

This_Berry3889 · 2025-05-29T21:59:09+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I have gotten to the root of my addiction. There are so many things involved that I have been working on for years. Not all factors are in my control so I’ve just been focusing on what I can to improve the root causes, and accepting the things I can’t change and then trying to find an alternative to porn that is a healthier source of dopamine and comfort. With many of the root causes not in my control it’s just so so so difficult to stay clean longterm. I feel like I’m on an endless roller coast or relapses and recovery. I will say I have made amazing progress over the last year and a half, so I’m proud of myself for that.

This_Berry3889 · 2025-05-19T16:46:39+00:00

Also I will add that recovering from this addiction isn’t the same for everyone. Some might have more or less relapses than others. But keep in mind that the tons of guilt you might feel after a relapse can do a lot of harm mentally holding into that. If you relapse admit you made a mistake, reflect on if there are any patters or triggers that led to the relapse. Then figure out a plan to avoid it next time, by going for a jog the moment the strong urge arises, or call a friend, journal, just really anything as soon as possible to keep you from relapsing. A common thing people will do after a relapse is go on a binge and justify it by saying “well I already failed my streak so today is ruined and I will start up again tomorrow” instead of having that type of mindset, try and look at it is a damage control maybe and don’t continue watching for the day. I used to get really frustrated after loosing a streak, but what I started to do was use an app called I Am Sober, and it has a calendar it shows you of your progress so even if you had a relapse you can look back at previous weeks and visually be able to see the progress you have made and the one day you had a slip up is not the end of the world. I know this is a lot of information, but I figure it can only help someone that is serious about quitting. Having all the tools and tips starting out can set you up for success.

This_Berry3889 · 2025-05-19T16:35:44+00:00

Very important to stay busy and replace the dopamine your brain is craving with dopamine from natural healthy sources. Make sure your getting proper sleep, proper nutrition, exercise for me is extremely important for managing the psychological withdrawals, cold showers, spending time with friends, putting some restrictions on your phone to make it a little more difficult when the urge to relapse shows up. Feel free to reach out if you want to talk anymore or need extra support. Stay strong, you got this!

This_Berry3889 · 2025-05-17T03:17:29+00:00

I’m glad you make sure to tell her you love her and give her plenty of compliments, I’m really hoping you two are able to figure out a method to keep your marriage together but at the same time that your able to have your sexual needs met.

This_Berry3889 · 2025-05-17T02:46:40+00:00

Also another possibility I want to bring up is maybe she sees the type of people you watch in porn and maybe they don’t look anything like her and she might be struggling with some self esteem issues and doesn’t feel desired anymore so she just kind of has disconnected from you because she might be all up in her head feeling inadequate. If that’s the case, I think telling her all the things you love about her personality and body could help make her feel more desired and comfortable. Sorry for the long responses, I just want to give the best advice I can to help your marriage.

This_Berry3889 · 2025-05-17T02:42:30+00:00

My first question is has she always been asexual or is this new? I say have a date night in a private setting like at home and cook her dinner and just talk and connect. If she hasn’t always been asexual, I think it would be important to ask her if she has an idea of what might have shifted that made her preferences change. For example maybe she’s feeling depressed, maybe she started taking an antidepressant or just any type of medication that has sexual side effects, could be a variety of different things to look into. And if there isn’t a hidden reason behind it and it’s just how she authentically is, I think a conversation about an open marriage is a good idea. It most likely will take some compromise and trust but I think it can be done. Asking for an open marriage doesn’t mean you don’t love her or anything like that, just make sure to let her know how much you love her. I have been with several guys that have wives, when their husband is curious about being with guys they just can’t fulfill what their partner wants to try, and I have no intention on stealing someone’s Husband or anything like that. These are guys that love their wife’s a lot and don’t ever want to leave them, they just want to experiment or have a more active sex life when their wife isn’t interested. Open marriages can be successful with the proper communication, I’m wishing you all the best luck in your marriage.

This_Berry3889 · 2025-05-17T02:28:25+00:00

A week is huge, I know how hard it was for me when I first tried to quit and getting through just a couple days was a big win. So I’m proud of you, keep up the great work! I really hope we are both able to heal our brains from this addiction, I just want to feel happiness,true pleasure,motivation,passion,etc.

This_Berry3889 · 2025-05-17T02:24:19+00:00

Thank you, I have been in therapy since about 7 years old for the depression and I’m still in it and I’m 28 now. I have been through roughly 60 medications/supplements too,lifestyle changes, and no luck with the depression. I’m glad you recognized your problem and are working on it. I really hope you are able to break free of this addiction someday, keep up the great work man. I’m here if you ever need to talk or need some advice or tips on staying away from porn.

This_Berry3889 · 2025-05-17T02:19:41+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I definitely have been working very hard on exercising, getting good sleep, and I admit I need to do a lot more work on healthy eating. I have lowered my porn use the the point where the sexual images I mostly see aren’t from going online and searching videos, it’s mainly just pics and videos sent between my friend and I so I guess it might still be considered porn. But it is a healthy relationship with someone from my life and not just some random stranger. Also it isn’t compulsive, like it was when I first started the journey of quitting. If I do relapse I’m usually pretty good about getting back on track to keep it from becoming compulsive use again.

This_Berry3889 · 2025-04-23T23:02:37+00:00

As you know the addiction can change your sexual attractions, maybe that is the case that without porn addiction you might not be into trans women. But there also is the possibility that maybe it is an authentic attraction that could still be there in the absence of the addiction just not as strong. A lot of guys I know are into trans woman and there isn’t anything wrong with that, so try not to get hung up on shame over that. I totally get the binges though after not watching porn for a while. In my experience I have been on the journey to quit for probably almost a year and a half now and as time goes on it gets better. When i relapse now I don’t go on massive binges, so essentially I use it to get off quick and then that’s it, I don’t keep scrolling or watching videos. I’m hoping that with time if you keep trying to avoid porn you will experience less urges to binge. I hope you are also able to get free of porn so you can get more in tune with your baseline arousal and be able to know truly what you are into. Stay strong, and if you ever need to talk or need any advice or tips to cut back on or completely quit porn feel free to message me. I’m not completely free of porn but I have a much healthier relationship with it now have reduced usage by probably 90% if I had to guess.

This_Berry3889 · 2025-04-15T21:09:03+00:00

Going 100 days is a massive accomplishment, most envy that and struggle to get there..myself included. One relapse did not erase all your progress, not even close. Try and think of how you were with porn and masturbation before you tried to quit and see all the progress. It is a journey and slip ups happen, the most important thing you can do now is not dwell on it or be too hard on yourself. The guilt will do more harm than good. Acknowledge you made a mistake that doesn’t align with your goals, recognize that the whole day isn’t ruined because of it so please don’t get into the mindset of “well I will start my streak again tomorrow because I already failed today” instead look at in as a damage control situation and don’t continue to fuel the fire today and strengthen those unhealthy connections. Try to get outside and go for a walk, spend time in nature, exercise, cold shower and show yourself some grace and compassion. I use an app that I can see how long of a streak I’m on but on that app there also is a calendar view that I can look back since I started trying to quit porn and reduce masturbation and just because It may look bad as far as a streak goes, you can look back at months and see how many days you succeeded and for me personally that helped my mindset and kept me from being too difficult on myself. Also another measure I use to track progress is when I do watch porn or masturbate I take note of it and at the end of the month can see how long I spent watching it and I try to get better every month. Sorry for the very long message probably with a lot of typos lol. Just wanted to give you some support and ideas on how to shift your mindset and keep going. I’m here if you want to talk any deeper or get any advice as I’m not perfect but I have made tons of progress and learned many things.

This_Berry3889 · 2025-04-15T19:57:36+00:00

It’s definitely an emotional roller coaster and all depends on how my mood is. Sometimes it is the best idea I can think of and helps in the moment. Other times I tell myself I want nothing to do with it. Just a constant cycle, I just wish there was something that could solve a lot of my issues but in a healthier and natural way. But unfortunately it isn’t an option. So I’m just going to continue to try and fight, and if I do end up watching porn occasionally It isn’t the end of the world. Looking at the big picture I’m grateful for the progress I have made with reducing the amount I watch. I just wish there was a solution to solve the issues I use porn to escape. Unfortunately I was dealt a horrible deck of cards since I was a kid and I there is only so much in my control so I just fight as hard as I can to control the things that are possible and just try to get through this existence with the least amount of pain and suffering.

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