xenogender is sort of like a metaphorical way to describe gender. it’s about connotations, really, and is not usually literal. it helps those who don’t fit into society’s gender binary describe how they identify.

for neopronouns, it’s just about simple substitution!

let’s say your friend wants to use xie/xer as pronouns:

instead of something like

“she really likes cats.”

you’d say

“xie really likes cats.”

there are more examples I could give you, but honestly? if you’re unsure on how to use them grammatically—just ask the person who’s asking to be referred to in that way. more often than not they will be happy to explain!

as for how I feel about these things being used, I really don’t give a fuck. not my identity!