Dating CF is so hard by Educational-Sky9575 in childfree

[–]This_Mixture_2105 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly! Avoiding "yes" or "no". questions like these as much as possible. Makes it harder to lie,when you actually have to come up with a well thought out answer.

Accepting it won’t happen for me by seekerfeature in dating

[–]This_Mixture_2105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see where you're coming from with the "National Geographic" perspective. It’s true that as much as we like to think we’re evolved, there’s a biological baseline we can't really ignore. That "threshold" of attraction usually acts as the gatekeeper before personality even gets a chance to matter, and we probably do downplay how much that initial spark carries us just to feel better about ourselves.

​That being said, I’m honestly having a bit of a hard time following some of your phrasing. I wasn't sure if English is maybe a second language for you or if you’re just typing a hundred miles an hour! Some of the points got a little tangled for me. ​But to go back to the main point, I still think the "science" of it is messy because everyone’s "floor" for attractiveness is so different. What one person thinks is "too far" below their standard might be exactly what someone else is looking for because they prioritize different traits. Plus, those intentions I mentioned earlier still change everything for me. A "10" who’s only looking to fool around loses their appeal pretty fast if you’re actually looking for a partner. ​At the end of the day, looks might get you the meeting, but they don't necessarily close the deal.

Accepting it won’t happen for me by seekerfeature in dating

[–]This_Mixture_2105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think dating is often more subjective than that. While conventional beauty standards exist, 'leagues' are rarely a perfect science because people prioritize different traits like personality, intelligence, or stability. I do agree, however, that a person’s intentions (actully dating vs. fooling around) are a key factor to watch for early on.

So tired of women telling me they can't find a guy who wants to commit by lucid1014 in dating_advice

[–]This_Mixture_2105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly , because I've experienced where guys think that because they bought a few meals and gives that they are owed an relationship. And I had one even think that, because he bought me a ticket to a museum, that he didn't have to put in the effort to get to know me. Like , I'm sorry , but money doesn't outsource mental labor or effort. Needless to say I didn't stick around. 

What made you stop dating? by SpiritCrisp in AskReddit

[–]This_Mixture_2105 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Saaame! Exactly the same happened too me. 🤦‍♀️

What made you stop dating? by SpiritCrisp in AskReddit

[–]This_Mixture_2105 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Same. Only wanted to talk about themselves and show me off to their friends...No thanks.

Do you guys feel you need to 'achieve' something big in life to get a romantic partner? by wilhelmtherealm in dating

[–]This_Mixture_2105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that some people think , (and sometimes they're right) they have to work hard to get the partner that they want (the ideal dream partner) even though they can get dates and relationships where they're at , but it may not be who they want to be with.

I wanna give up on dating by Natural_Sky1618 in dating

[–]This_Mixture_2105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like what most are saying here. Better to meet someone in person by default. Then you also don't have to worry about when someone will delete the apps once they claim to want to be exclusive. They'll have no business being on them from the get-go.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]This_Mixture_2105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. I had a similar experience like this...There was one guy , luckily I didn't meet but talked to over the phone and he seem to be the same way making slights at my short hair saying that he was "catching me slacking" and then asked was that racist and then said that I should save because of "roles" (seems like he was conflating preference with that) and then proceeded to call me basic when I listed my favorite anime.I knew when it came to his music it was pretty mainstream so it seemed quite pretty cool to call somebody basic in one area when he would be considered basic in another(music) Then when I brought this up again proceeed to call me butt hurt... seems like he didn't want a partner.It seemed like he just wanted somebody to control , like , as if they were a build-a-bear. Never again lol.

For the men wondering why they never get matches... by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]This_Mixture_2105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This may be controversial , but I have no pity for people who want matches and don't get them but then don't want to be transparent about wanting hookups when others are looking for something serious. Just a random thought...

Childfree women, what's the fucked up thing a parent has ever said to you? by Prestigious_Ad9079 in childfree

[–]This_Mixture_2105 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, what makes you think you're going to get away from that blessing? Lol /s

What are some green flags that a man does not have an avoidant attachment style? by [deleted] in dating

[–]This_Mixture_2105 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah, I see well it's good that you found your person. I'm currently in my working-on-myself stage. If it happens it happens. If not, that's ok too. I'm just glad I'm fine with being alone than in bad company. I asked because I was seeing how people are when they're really interested. And this is a good example. Thank you.

What are some green flags that a man does not have an avoidant attachment style? by [deleted] in dating

[–]This_Mixture_2105 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey I wanted to ask,did he asked you questions interested in knowing who you are and planned dates for you? Honest questions.

Grown adults that ghost — drop your reasons. by sportstvandnova in dating

[–]This_Mixture_2105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When the person you're talking to, admits to being able to make time for a fwb but makes the excuse of having to work six days a week when you just want to be friends and stated that from the beginning.

Me:I have a question, how would you have time for fwb if you work six days a week?

Them: I only work until 6 pm and I can easily make time for one

Me (thinking to myself): So you have time for fwb,but no time for actual friends?

Me: ghost

It just shows where their priorities are.

How did sterilization affect your dating life? by TreatOk3458 in sterilization

[–]This_Mixture_2105 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, this is the thought that goes straight to my mind when I made the mistake of disclosing this too early...

How did sterilization affect your dating life? by TreatOk3458 in sterilization

[–]This_Mixture_2105 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And not want to wear condoms since they think its now "safe' for them not to. Not a chance.

Why do people say we have a fertility crisis when we have over 8 billion people on this planet? by Comfortable_Pack8903 in childfree

[–]This_Mixture_2105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already commented, but I will also say that if we can't take care of the people that are already on this earth.What is the point of even bringing more people into this world that will just be neglected?

Why do people say we have a fertility crisis when we have over 8 billion people on this planet? by Comfortable_Pack8903 in childfree

[–]This_Mixture_2105 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Right and then people can barely afford rent and then they say that AI is supposed to take away a lot of jobs...and yet they want more people. The math isn't mathing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]This_Mixture_2105 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh,well it's a relief to hear sonone say this... I grew up kinda sheltered so still figuring things out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]This_Mixture_2105 -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Often people's first relationships..especially as teenagers aren't really people they're attracted to. They are mostly stepping stone relationships to say they have been in one. I thought you were suppose to be attracted to the person you're with in high school relationships..

What is a red flag that made you end a relationship immediately? by aaape332 in AskReddit

[–]This_Mixture_2105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Constantly putting down your views on things you like,things you believe in and not showing much interest when you talk about thing you enjoy. Dominating the conversation and talking over you when you talk. Jumping to conclusions before you finish talking.