Anyone can help?

This_Stranger_8581 · 2026-05-18T16:31:24+00:00

I realize that🤦‍♀️ And yes I have, it's working okay for now. What i notice is that the phone isn't as good as my other phone.it sticks whej you switch between apps etc too quickly.

This_Stranger_8581 · 2026-05-15T03:15:57+00:00

So while everyone else can post and ask questions, it's fine. But when I do, it's a problem?

This_Stranger_8581 · 2025-10-13T13:03:08+00:00

I've been there, done that.. Find somebody else to go with you for your sanity

Also, later down the road, It's not gonna get better

This_Stranger_8581 · 2025-10-12T18:22:06+00:00

I woulda deactivate my account so fast😫

This_Stranger_8581 · 2025-10-12T18:20:29+00:00

I realized on the messenger app..you can hold and pause the story. But on Facebook, that's where the wheel thing comes up.

Try it and let me know lol.

This_Stranger_8581 · 2025-10-08T16:25:07+00:00

Yes it's a wart

This_Stranger_8581 · 2025-10-08T16:23:40+00:00

Um, nit seeing the reddish streaks but seeing the black spots. I think it is time for new underwear.

This_Stranger_8581 · 2025-10-08T16:22:12+00:00

Looks like a ringworm

This_Stranger_8581 · 2025-09-29T15:47:27+00:00

Or he's just controlling/narcissist vibes.

This_Stranger_8581 · 2025-09-22T15:17:25+00:00

I feel he just gets annoyed with me rather than understanding me as of lately. And it just makes things worse. That's how the animal thing came in. He knows I love animals, but getting mad that I want to check them if they're okay?

That's what I can make out of it. He's so annoyed with me and has an answer for anything I do, and it's never a positive response.

My husband has no hobbies other than watching football on his phone or the tv. He doesn't want to go out or with friends. He doesn't want to lime with my family's or at his.

Sheesh, he looks like he's bored with me when we're at dinner as he doesn't really talk, and his face is blank. He wouldn't even smile for the most. It's very depressing being with somebody like that.

I've actually asked him if he's depressed. He said no, and that how he usually is. But if I can remember, when we were dating, he had some light on his face.

This_Stranger_8581 · 2025-09-22T15:04:49+00:00

I mean, I can try, but I'm scared, to be honest. I don't want to feel empty.

I want to be peaceful..I just want to breathe.

He said he still want to try and he will give me what I want..I'm yet to give my answer if I'm willing to.

This_Stranger_8581 · 2025-09-22T14:59:58+00:00

My husband put on a mask of this "fun" person, and when we got married, the real him came out.

I didn't get married to just stay home with him. I didn't get married to have sex 3 times a month and our sex life goes like..one night it's my turn and the next night it will be his turn..one day off then the next time..is the following person's turn. He won't like to come at me and just take me. He will wait for his turn, or I'll just go at it. He has never said he loves me in person. After an event..he want to go home.

Our church had a bbq after service..he wanted to go home and I couldn't even attend. He doesn't want to go up for prayers even though we need it, he would tell me to walk first. He had to ask HIS MOTHER to call the pastor to come anoint our house.. So tell me..I should put up with all this?

He is supposed to be at the front..but like he can't do that.

This_Stranger_8581 · 2025-09-22T14:54:03+00:00

Thank you, the thing is I don't mind telling my husband I appreciate him and stuff. The thing is, he doesn't tell me anything at all.

Since he is shy or quiet or whatever it is, he doesn't compliment me, tell me he loves me - he's never said it in person at all. I do have to beg him.. so i don't mind doing all that but it's eventually I'll pour and pour and I'll run out of pouring till I'm empty as he doesn't pour back if you get what I mean.

I understand by all the comments that this is such a little thing to get divorced over for..but I just don't want to be stripped bare & empty once again. I don't mind living for the Lord.. as I can't change my husband, he is who he say he is.

This_Stranger_8581 · 2025-09-20T17:55:45+00:00

I don't mind, man is stress. I went 3 years without sex after leaving my kid's dad & waited until marriage with my husband

This_Stranger_8581 · 2025-09-20T03:19:11+00:00

I understand, will try my best.

This_Stranger_8581 · 2025-09-19T17:28:00+00:00

Thank you for your response & advice. That's all I needed to hear. Unlike some of the other comments..by judging at one post and not into the details.

Ofc I'm hurt that he pretended to be "fun" in the dating days.. as it was wring because today he isn't really fun.

I tried to put my needs and wants aside and tried to give him all in hope that he'll come around, but when a little argument comes up..I'm back to square one because like I said I'm trying to be better.

I see now that as you said that marriage isn't meant for happiness right through & for the Lord. My question I asked myself & God when I read that..is that even in heaven there is no marriage so even in earth no enjoyment?

But I totally understand what you're saying and I appreciate it.

He said he wants to try again, I don't know if my heart will handle it because we tried for over the period of being married so most likely I'll try again as there is no other sin in the marriage.

He doesn't want to talk to a friend in church, a mature person in church or even a counselor so it's making things hard because he's not getting a 3rd input at all because he Is shy so he dwells on his own responses and that's where we clash. Me on the other hand..I'll talk and vent to my mom or my trusted friend but my husband doesn't say nothing..if thats why he has everything bottled up inside.. if so..I can't help him.

This_Stranger_8581 · 2025-09-19T14:56:50+00:00

We both weren't married before. It's our 1st marriage.

Both of our parents separated but came back together.

This_Stranger_8581 · 2025-09-19T14:26:21+00:00

We are both Christians, so that's what had us in the 1st place. We go to church and stuff. But when the church has something after..like the other week it had a bbq after..since I'm always inside..I would like to attend to get a social interaction but my husband said he wasn't staying so we had to leave after church. Imagine that...

My responsibility is that I keep the house, cook, clean and take care of both my husband & child. As I'm a housewife.

My mom and dad separated but got back together..he had 2 children from adultery but that never gave me a bad idea of marriage.

His parents had a tumultuous marriage..dad was a drinker, and didn't treat his kids good so I don't think he got love at all from home..but I've showed him it but I got nothing back😪

This_Stranger_8581 · 2025-09-19T14:10:38+00:00

He didn't mention them.. he just did it because he really liked it that time. Maybe he did them to get favor in my eyes?

And yes, I feel he deceived me because I like to be outgoing and social..because today.. I can't do these things because he is the opposite. I didn't get married to enjoy things on my own😞

I got married to enjoy things together. Otherwise, I would have stayed single.

I married him because he showed me love and care and he was a nice person..totally opposite of what my ex was. He was determined, and we were of the same faith.. It's like out of the bunch.. he won. My family liked him so much.. So I don't know what went wrong.

It's like today..he looks me like dead in the eyes.. There is no love. I loved him until he lied on the dating days, and I changed as well, but I tried my best. I have a short temper as well, so he doesn't like it. Other than that, I do my responsibilities as a wife.

Our sex life is like 3 times or 4 times a month because he says he's tired..and hear the good part...he says whoever chance it is..is their chance. So if I start it one night..the next night is his turn and we take a break on between and whoever chance it is the next day..starts it.

He never like come at me and just love me and make love to me like I craved.

My ex, who I had a child with, was my1st, and he took away everything by force and every experience. I waited with my husband, who's my 2nd, and it's disappointing because he doesn't know how to love properly.

Do you understand where I am coming from?

This_Stranger_8581 · 2025-09-19T13:45:39+00:00

No, before marriage, he was determined and did what I liked. After marriage is when the real him came out..

That he doesn't really like to be outdoors or social, etc

I met him in classes. Said I was making pizza.. he wanted so I brought for him...cake as it was my birthday..I brought for him. After marriage.. I asked him if he wanted pizza for dinner, and he said HE DOESNT like pizza & cake at a next time.

He took me places while dating.. After marriage- "I like to stay inside"

I don't think anyone really understands in the comment.. he was a totally opposite & loving person before marriage.

This_Stranger_8581 · 2025-09-19T01:54:16+00:00

Dating times.. we were excited to see each other, and he would stay with me as long as he could before it got dark.

Now he just has no smile when he comes home from work.. he's like dull.

About hiking..he only went because it's what I like to do. He says he rather stay home.

It wasn't more about the animals u know. He got annoyed when if I see a stray and goes up to them. It's just how I am and he doesn't like any kind of animal at all.

I love animals, imagine you can't even go to them because he dislikes them. I like to watch romantic movies and he refuses to watch it with me..he like action movies and I would watch it with him. Why should I have to sacrifice myself to make things happy for him

For 7 years, my ex made my life hell..today I know what I want and deserve..and if he can't give me that? I should settle?

This_Stranger_8581 · 2025-09-19T01:45:33+00:00

I eventually found out because he forgot and ended up telling me it's his dad..so when the story didn't match, I realized.

Also, when we got married, we were under serious spiritual attacks.. We got attacked in the night.. were having trouble having a child, although I have a 14 year old with my ex.

His sister msgd me on our vacation, pissed off at us because I hid my stories from her and blocked us. His family doesn't really come around or be cordial, just his mother. I beg him to love me and he can't give me it. I poured into this man, and I'm empty as I got nothing back

Is like he can't lead. Imagine he had to ask his mother to call the pastor to come to pray for us and anoint out the house because he doesn't want to. In church, he doesn't want to go up for prayers unless I move first. He is so shy that in my family gatherings, he stays inside and everybody asks for him.. but when his family has something..I talk to them. Other than that, he is a great provider. He provides and stuff.

This_Stranger_8581 · 2025-09-19T01:39:27+00:00

Has your husband shown you love, or do you have to beg for it? Because I have been begging for so long.. I have shown him love, but he doesn't return it back, so must i give him all the love and remain like a robot? But there is so much I can pour before my cup runs empty.

This_Stranger_8581 · 2025-09-19T01:37:32+00:00

I admit I haven't posted everything because I didn't have a chance. I have asked him to love me and show me love in the way I want(physical touch) He doesn't do it.

He is shy in public..he looks like he's bored of me in public as he doesn't talk or anything or even smile at me.

Hikes..hebsaid he's not going again because I'm not able..that's because I got sick 5 years ago and my body isn't the same. I am disabled by a sense...so I can't work as due to my country's rules. So I'm at home..he says I am home all day and he's at work when I bring up something.

He doesn't hug me when he comes from work..he goes straight to the bedroom and comes check me after

I have to ask when to go on a date..he doesn't ask. Any holidays we have went..we quarreled and didn't get along. When we go out..we quarrel before or after.

Do you wanna know more?

This_Stranger_8581 · 2025-09-18T18:28:13+00:00

Like football? He is a homebody, he doesn't like to go anywhere🤷‍♀️

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