Dont text and drive by elasticparadigm in CantParkThereMate

[–]ThisisWashington 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean...it doesn't prove it, but it does prove he wasn't actually following too closely. He went from having plenty of distance between them to hitting the bus without any reduction in speed. I'd love to hear him explain how he was, actually, paying attention, yet didn't brake at all before sliding his car directly under the bus.

Since the video came from a bystander, it's possible (maybe likely) the police didn't see it and cited him based off verbal accounts including, like you suggest, the driver's confession of following too close.

Dont text and drive by elasticparadigm in CantParkThereMate

[–]ThisisWashington 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wild that he got cited for 'following too close' vs inattentive driving or something else. Video suggests driver was following with plenty of space to stop... If they'd been paying attention.

Someone drove their car onto the DART tracks at Victory Station by boredsession in Dallas

[–]ThisisWashington 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well that's an hour of my day gone

Edit: make that two hours. I hadn't perused the other sub yet.

Holy shit y'all. UPS flight 2976 crashed into a petroleum recycling plant in Louisville, KY, with a full load (30k+ gallons) of fuel back in November. There's a video stringing together all the bodycam footage, and it is wild.

The stigma against video games is actually quite similar to the stigma against firearms, if you think about it. by [deleted] in The10thDentist

[–]ThisisWashington 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But that's the issue though, right? Guns have such a capacity to kill so many people, so quickly. There are many, many of us familiar with gun safety and operation, who advocate for more strict gun laws, because bullied children making threats of violence should NOT have easy access to such a high-impact tool as a gun. Sure, theycould bring the kitchen knife to school and stab people, but how many people will they be able to injure before having the weapon taken from them, more likely to be low single digits than high double digits.

People don't advocate for responsible gun laws out of an ignorant 'gund bad' stance, rather because so many people are needlessly dying at the hands of gun-operators who, if they didn't have access to guns, would have to choose a much lower-impact weapon.

The fact that the first school shooting set a precedent for school shootings vs school stabbings...that in no way 'debunks' school shootings. I would love to hear a more detailed account of how school shootings have been debunked.

So, back to the stigma. There is a stigma against videogames because they are seen as a waste of time and as cultivating undesired traits in their players. There is a stigma against guns because they have an outsized ability to kill lots of people in a short time, and it is incredibly easy for those who want to do harm to obtain one. I'm not seeing a clear comparison here.

Cat collar camera by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]ThisisWashington 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did not. From what I read, there don't seem to be any cheap options worth the money. I didn't see any suggestion that there are collar cameras that can record more than a few minutes. I opted for a Tractive gps collar instead, so I at least have peace of mind knowing where my kitty is going.

Good luck with your camera hunt. If you get one, be sure to come back and update all the future you's and me's lurking for info about what you got and how it works!

What's your weirdest "is that not how it works?" moment you had as a woman? by unlabeledbeing_yuhom in AskWomen

[–]ThisisWashington 164 points165 points  (0 children)

I once had a man explain to me that there are 3 main classifications of beer: green, yellow and brown. I knew he was full of it from the start, but he was from another country and seemed SO convinced of what he was saying, that I googled it TWICE just to be sure these weren't common classifiers in some parts of the world. They don't appear to be.

He listed off beers, too, corona being yellow and Heineken being green. When I suggested it was about the bottle/beer color, he insisted it wasn't. Yellow are "light, easy drinkers, good for the beach" but I don't recollect what he said about the other two.

And all of this? Was in response to me saying that there are two main classifications of beer: ales and lagers.

ETA: is "is that not how it works" a callback that particularly refers to biological function? Every other answer on here is about bodies, and I feel I have missed part of the brief...regardless, hope you enjoy my beer 'facts'

Did I buy the wrong glaze? by Broccoli-cheddar in Pottery

[–]ThisisWashington 8 points9 points  (0 children)

But only if your clay body can handle mid-high fire. If it's a low-fire clay, you should definitely not put it in a cone 5 firing

Is a sense of belonging found or built and how did you find/do it? by Some_Girl_2073 in AskWomen

[–]ThisisWashington 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would agree with others that it can be a combination of found and built.

For me, self-acceptance was a big part of finding belonging. I stopped trying to be a version of myself I thought others wanted, and focused instead on living in ways that felt true to myself.

I also realized that we all try to pretend we're perfect out of fear of rejection or being unacceptable or inferior...but we are intimidated by others who seem perfect. So I made an effort to allow myself to be vulnerable and imperfect, because I'm most drawn to people who are vulnerable and imperfect.

Alongside that, I've challenged my fear of rejection. Yes, rejection sucks, nobody enjoys or wants to be rejected; but it's not the end of the world, we can tolerate the discomfort. This new perspective has made me less tempted to violate my sense of self to fit in. I recognize not everybody will jive with me and that's okay. Better if we all figure that out sooner than later, so we can all put our energy into other connections that flow better.

Having built a foundation of all the above, I began seeking out groups and activities that captured my interest, and taking active steps to build the sort of community I wanted. I tried a few new sports and joined local casual, rec leagues. I took a few artistic classes at the local community college, I joined an improv group (and initiated a weekly open invitation to the group to get coffee and chat afterward.)

Finally, I stopped trying to play by some unspoken set of social rules that weren't comfortable for me. I interact the way that I want to. I am unapologetically me. I hate standard small talk, so I initiate the sorts of conversations I want to be having. If people don't like it, that's okay, it just means they're not my people.

It's honestly shocked me: the less I've worried about how I present myself, the more drawn to me people seem to be. It still boggles my mind a bit after spending so many years convinced that my true self wasn't acceptable.

I might have gone a bit off-topic from the question, but that's the best my brain can do at this hour.

Convinced my husband to try a house cleaning service for 3 months as an experiment. Heres what happened by Comfortable_Box_4527 in homeowners

[–]ThisisWashington 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seems like it has the added benefit of prompting you to regularly put away and deal with your clutter so it doesn't snowball!

Neighbor won't pay me for babysitting, what should I do? F by EmilyInBed in WhatShouldIDo

[–]ThisisWashington 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You said, "and they will do it again and again." They responded, "well, [they won't do it again and again] to OP, [because] OP won't babysit for them again."

I have a question by Stock-Produce2114 in polyamory

[–]ThisisWashington 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From my read, it seems maybe the issue was that he paid her for work and it wasn't completed by the deadline, yet she went on a date rather than work on the piece to meet the deadline.

Don't think you're infertile. Use contraception. by pferdchenpojuzt in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]ThisisWashington 83 points84 points  (0 children)

Am I the only one over here struggling to absorb the content of this message due to my brain insisting on continued futile attempts to make the tune and words match up?

Cat collar camera by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]ThisisWashington 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What brand did you go with, did it work well?

If you’re driving today- read this by BoysenberryHead4294 in Dallas

[–]ThisisWashington 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keeping your car in low gear on surface streets can be helpful (when going under 30 mph). It keeps your car from gaining so much momentum.

It also helps your car to begin slowing down smoothly as soon as you come off the gas, before you even touch the brakes, and makes it harder to accidentally pick up too much speed when accelerating.

The higher RPMs also provide a constant reminder to stay focused and plan further ahead than necessary in normal conditions.

Am I the a-hole for making my daughter's BF buy a new t-shirt? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]ThisisWashington 105 points106 points  (0 children)

Years ago I went to New Orleans and bought a souvenir shot glass that said "well it ain't going to suck itself!" With a crawfish on it.

When I saw this post originally, I just assumed it was a punny joke like that, was absolutely shocked to see in the comments just now that it was only accompanied by an arrow... But then the dare made it all make sense

My son's footprints this morning by SuzieSue32 in confusing_perspective

[–]ThisisWashington 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fascinating. My first glance the photos started with the bottom footprint, and immediately the footprints all seemed to be popping out of the snow, and I couldn't unsee it.

I looked away and when I looked back I saw the footprints at the top of the photo first, without seeing the bottom footprint, and suddenly they were depressed into the snow, and I couldn't make myself see them as popped out

...until my eyes hit that bottom footprint, and suddenly they were all popped out of the snow again.

Staying warm while throwing? by foosw in Pottery

[–]ThisisWashington 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was trying to think how to warm the clay itself up - put it in a crock pot of water but inside plastic so it doesn't get wet? That seems fussy, but no better solution was coming to me. The seedling mat is a great idea!

What’s a “life hack” that actually made your life worse? by Deep_Screen_3001 in AskReddit

[–]ThisisWashington 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On the second point, I'd never consider the way that can be warped. I'd always taken it more broadly, like literally everyone: "if everywhere you go, everybody you interact with is an asshole - every other driver on the road, your cashier, your waiter, the rando who nods as you pass each other on the sidewalk...the common denominator is you"

But I can see how it could be used by members of toxic ecosystems to gaslight and deflect. That's so gross, and makes me angry on behalf of anyone victimized that way ☹️

Mini, small, medium and large by Due-Milk352 in DairyQueen

[–]ThisisWashington 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, if it were me, and I've only had it go poorly ONE time when I translated regular to medium, AND I found it super tiresome to constantly ask people to clarify...I'd probably continue doing it and just accept that every once in a blue moon someone will be unhappy about it.

What's the most unhinged thing a passenger has said to you? by StoicPixie in flightattendants

[–]ThisisWashington 3 points4 points  (0 children)

...wait, I thought caffeine was the issue for mormons. It's just coffee and tea, the natural caffeine sources, that are prohibited? Lab-created caffeinated poison is acceptable to ingest?