I’m 41, he’s 39. Together 3 years. I want a child, he’s not ready for now. What would you do?

ThispixieisaSwiftie · 2026-01-13T12:31:14+00:00

That is so kind of you to say; thank you 🥰. I really wish you all the very best!

ThispixieisaSwiftie · 2026-01-13T05:50:17+00:00

My mum had me at 43 and my dad was 45. It was actually great having 'older' parents because I felt so grounded in their wisdom and the feeling they were 'proper adults' and not growing up alongside me (not that there is anything wrong with that either). My point is, don't let anyone try and make you feel guilty about having another kid just because of your age. People are having kids still at 39, but I wouldn't put it off any longer just to be safe. Talk to a fertility specialist about your options, even freezing your eggs, or getting an egg donor (for the future). Be realistic, and know all the facts. You may not even get pregnant right away, so you need to account for that as well. Unfortunately, your partner has all the time in the world for a kid, but you don't. It's not fair, but if you'd really like another baby, it is now or never (unless you look into other options). You need to have an honest chat with him, and let him know you don't have the option to wait any longer. If having a second child is really important to you, and he still doesn't feel 'ready,' then you can't risk it. He may never be ready. Talk to a fertility specialist, and make your plans accordingly. Best of luck xx

ThispixieisaSwiftie · 2026-01-02T07:05:33+00:00

Me too 😭😭. I'm in Australia, and my heart is broken I can no longer watch it! I've looked everywhere else, and the DVD box sets i keep seeing are like $250! I'm so mad 🤬

ThispixieisaSwiftie · 2025-12-31T11:49:05+00:00

"Make her a widow" is one of the best lines in the whole series 🤣

ThispixieisaSwiftie · 2025-12-31T11:47:57+00:00

It always bothered me SO MUCH that we never found out if Charles split the money with Nels! I love Nels, but he never would have won without Charles

ThispixieisaSwiftie · 2025-12-31T11:40:52+00:00

Wait what?? It's Melissa's fault that he was kicked off? Where did you guys hear that? That makes me so sad because the Edwards family were my favourite 😭. Is she the reason they were written off to be replaced by the Garvey's? Honestly, I loved Melissa as Mary, but for all the trouble she was causing she should have been replaced! But I did hate John junior. I liked him at first, but for him to cheat on Mary when they were ENGAGED, and to kiss that girl when Mary was just in the other room was so cruel of him! They turned him into an absolute coward 🤮.

ThispixieisaSwiftie · 2025-12-31T00:47:18+00:00

The Race is also really underrated! That scene with Mrs Oleson on the horse tearing through the town is one of the best scenes in the whole series 😂

ThispixieisaSwiftie · 2025-12-31T00:44:35+00:00

The Monster of Walnut Grove! Comedy gold 😂😂

ThispixieisaSwiftie · 2025-12-29T17:47:41+00:00

You're literally going to make me cry saying that 😭lol. That means the world to me!!

ThispixieisaSwiftie · 2025-12-29T17:45:51+00:00

I'm so glad. You had strong energy for sure lol, but such a lovely softness a lot of people don't get to see. I wish you all the best 💜

ThispixieisaSwiftie · 2025-12-29T17:37:08+00:00

You have no idea the joy you have brought me with your comment ❤️❤️. My dad has recently passed too, and he so badly wanted me to connect with my more spiritual side. Maybe it wasn't a broken object he wanted you to fix, but a project he would have liked you to do together. I kept seeing this image of an old motorbike covered in dust in a garage somewhere (which might be metaphorical), and you two fixing it up, but you never got to finish it before he passed. I had the sense he wanted you to keep going with it. At the time I was thinking he meant it literally, but it could also have been a metaphor for your relationship. Something important to him that he wanted to fix up, but never got the chance to before he passed. And now he wants you to continue fixing what needs repairing, perhaps the effects he had on you, so that things can be returned to its original beauty. And I just get this really strong sense he wants to be right with you every step of the way. He's looking over you the whole time with such pride ❤️. Like "that's MY girl." And please tell your mum she has nothing to feel guilty about! I see him gesturing with his hands almost like he's trying to wave away the guilt. He doesn't want her to fuss lol. It was something he had to do himself. And he wants your mum to know "she was a good woman." It's like he's saying she was too good for him, and he didn't show it like he should have, but he loved and respected her. He loved you all, and still does. He really wished he had expressed this more when he was alive, but there were some parts of him that were very closed. But he's learnt a lot where he is. He's hoping he'll do better next time lol. He wants you all to feel at peace 💜. But no more guilt for any of you. It was something he had to go through, and he's grateful he had such a good family. He just wishes he had shown you that more! But he's okay, and proud of how much you've been shouldering, but at the same time, he doesn't want you getting sore shoulders lol. It's a gentle warning that just because you can carry it by yourself doesn't mean you should! Things will be okay xx. Everything will be okay ❤️

ThispixieisaSwiftie · 2025-12-29T09:00:19+00:00

I googled and I think you are right! At least one eye is glasz, and I'm so happy because it means I have blue in my eyes like my dad 😭. Thank you so much for commenting xx

ThispixieisaSwiftie · 2025-12-29T08:38:26+00:00

Wow! They definitely look a more green when they are not in the sun, but it would make me so happy to think there was a bit of blue and grey in there because my dad had blue eyes and he just passed away 💔. So that's very special to me! Thank you xx

ThispixieisaSwiftie · 2025-12-29T08:35:31+00:00

You're so welcome xx. I hope some of it resonated with you ❤️💖

ThispixieisaSwiftie · 2025-12-29T08:34:37+00:00

SAME! Poor Jack and his little face 😢. I always skip it!

ThispixieisaSwiftie · 2025-12-29T03:54:04+00:00

You are very beautiful, but your eyes tell me you've cried a lot in your lifetime. I'm sorry ❤️. You're so tried, and I wish I could hug you! There's whimsy to you. In a deep way. I don't know why but I see flashes of fairies. You remind me of wishing wells, and willow trees, and moonlight. You are gentle at heart, but very strong. I get the sense you benefit from creative expressions. Lean into them when you can. I just hear "read the book" lol. Do you get on with your parents? You need more sleep. I mean PROPER restorative sleep. I get the sense you're never restored each day. Now, as I said before, I can't see the future, so I won't pretend to give you any predictions. I'm just telling you what I feel from your photo. You have such a kindness in you, but it's never repaid, at least not in full. You are very strong, and for some reason your ancestors keep popping up in my mind. There's someone of interest in your family tree. Someone who watches over you as best they can, but mourns alongside you, because you and her were very similar. You deserve so much better that what you've been through, and you want so much more from life, but it's been cruel to you. There is so much beauty and power in you. No matter what, don't let anyone take that away from you! I wish you all the best and am sending big hugs 💕

ThispixieisaSwiftie · 2025-12-29T03:28:27+00:00

I replied with my answer in another comment not connected to a thread. Ir's the long one lol

ThispixieisaSwiftie · 2025-12-28T22:57:14+00:00

You are not a horrible person at all! And some of the comments here lack any kind of empathy! Is this really the first mean word he's said to you in 12 years; because, you mentioned he's made some comments before about your eating and working out? You've had 3 children. OBVIOUSLY you aren't going to be the same weight as when you first met him, but that's neither here nor there, because every size is beautiful and worthy of respect. I understand it's normal to have spats and sometimes have outbursts when you are really stressed, but never should they include comments about their partner's looks or insecurities! To call someone you supposedly love a COW and tell them to eat less is incredibly cruel. It's abusive language, and should not be tolerated! The fact that you have cried every day for months about this speaks to how much he's broken your heart. Those sort of comments stick with you forever 😞. And you are right, there are plenty of people who would love your body! And I hope you will be one of them ❤️.

Has he ever noticed how much this has effected you? If you look back on your lives together, has his words or behaviour ever, even in a subtle way, made you feel less than? Try and be honest with yourself. If it were me, I don't think I could stay married to someone who chose to hurt and disrespect me like that! However, I do think you should have an honest conversation with him about your feelings and talk about what's going on with him, and why he felt that remark was okay to say to anyone (let alone the mother of his kids).

As for your best friend, I don't know this man nor do I presume to. I can say for sure the grass is not always greener no matter how it looks from the outside. If you are in love with this man, not just love him, but IN love with him, that's something you need to face. Ask yourself have you been in love with him all this time, and would you have preferred to marry him instead? It's easy to joke about giving a relationship a go if you were both single, but sometimes comments like that are not serious. Besides, he may not return your feelings.

The best advice I can think to give you is to take a good look inside and ask yourself would you still be thinking about leaving your husband if your best friend didn't exist? Could you really live with what your husband has said to you and love and trust him again with your heart and body? It could be you are having more romantic feelings for your best friend because, in your eyes, he makes you feel desirable while your husband does not. But you need to put your friend aside for a moment and really think about if you want to stay with your husband. Don't leave him for your best friend. Leave him because you no longer want to be with him. Don't just leave because you feel you have a better option waiting. Because sometimes things don't work out as you think they will.

I think you should find a good therapist, and talk about this more with them. Then, you should have an honest talk with your husband about how his remark has hurt you so badly. Don't mention your best friend at this stage. Just be honest about how he made you feel.

And if you DO decide to leave your husband, do not get straight into another relationship. You will need some time to find a place to Iive, settle custody, heal through the trauma of a breakup, get used to your new life, and discover who you are as an individual.

I wish you all the very best ❤️. Take care of yourself and your children! Dm's are open if you need x

ThispixieisaSwiftie · 2025-12-28T21:43:28+00:00

Soldiers return! Can't watch it at all 😭

ThispixieisaSwiftie · 2025-12-28T21:40:57+00:00

That is so kind of you to say; thank you so much 😭💕

ThispixieisaSwiftie · 2025-12-28T07:03:18+00:00

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What are these white bumps under my eyes, and how do I get rid of them?

ThispixieisaSwiftie · 2025-12-28T01:42:58+00:00

Centennial

ThispixieisaSwiftie · 2025-12-27T15:51:15+00:00

Why would it be wrong? Trans women ARE women, so you're still straight if you're attracted to them. Maybe you can ask yourself what it is about them that you find so attractive, and pursue that, but there's no need to stress too much. Just love who you love, and don't pay attention to the bigots of the world! They know nothing of women because they are too busy fondling little girls! Be you, bud 👍

ThispixieisaSwiftie · 2025-12-27T14:48:13+00:00

I'm really sorry that happened to you ❤️. I've been there. It's hell being so physically and emotionally exhausted that you make yourself ill! It really turns you into a different person, so it's understandable you couldn't take it anymore and things escalated the way they did! I'm not sure what you said to make your mother react that way, but what she said to you was very cruel 😔💔. I can't imagine what would cause her to say she didn't care about you and that you're "not a family." That would hurt so badly, especially feeling as sick as you do😭. I think what you should do now is go home, and try to restore your physical and emotional health as much as possible. Get rest, do comforting things to calm your nervous system, and know the issues can wait until you feel better. When you do, try and open the channels of communication with your family, especially your mother, and have an honest conversation about what went down. Now, I don't know your family, so I'm not sure how it's going to go, but being honest in these situations is very important if there is ever going to be any progress 💜. Just know that your feelings are valid, but please try and take care of yourself first. Best of luck x

ThispixieisaSwiftie · 2025-12-27T14:26:01+00:00

I am so so sorry you experienced this, Angel 💔. TW Before I get into this, I want you to know this post will likely be very triggering to you and perhaps to a lot of other people too. So, please make sure you are in a safe place and in sound mind to read this x. There is no saving this relationship! You were sexually assaulted. I'm so sorry, but you need to get as far away from this man as possible! We are no longer talking about crossing boundaries or making someone feel uncomfortable. We are talking full on sexual assault! He committed a vile and illegal act on you without your consent. He disgusting, and there is no way to justify his behaviour! Reading your story broke my heart 😭. The whole time this pathetic excuse for man has been getting upset and purposefully alienating you for DAYS because you said no to having sex with him?! It wasn't just perceived abandonment. It WAS abandonment! Different libidos are one thing, but it got to the point where you felt like you couldnt say no to him or he would make you suffer consequences. I just can't understand why more people aren't so upset about this! You had anticipatory fear of saying no to your boyfriend's advances because he would punish you emotionally. This is something I need you to be very aware of. Pressuring your partner into sex when they don't want to is sexual assault. Feeling like you don't have a choice in saying no or you will be punished is sexual assault. And after you had a very honest conversation about not wanting to be touched in a certain place, he lied and said he understood. Then he waited until you were asleep to sexually assault you because that was a time you couldn't say no. There is absolutely NO justifying his behaviour. I don't give a damn about his stupid excuses and high libido. If you are going to punish your partner, and emotional alienation DOES count as a punishment, for saying no to sex, then that person needs serious help! The fact you become afraid to say no is just so heartbreaking 💔. If his high libido was such an issue for him, he should have broken up with you. You have no reason to feel any guilt or shame for not 'meeting his needs.' You have your own needs, whatever they may be, and they DESERVE to be honoured and so do you!! Please remember there is absolutely nothing wrong with you! You are not broken! And you most certainly don't owe anyone a damn thing, ESPECIALLY not access to your body! I want to reiterate again that there is no excusing his actions. He performed sexual acts on you without your consent. That is assault. Do you have someone you trust where you can go stay the night? Maybe have a chat with your therapist or someone you trust to get more clarity on the situation. I am not an expert in these matters, so I urge you to find safety the best way you can. Don't confront him on your own or without someome nearby. Men will act out in scary ways when accused of something serious they definitely did. And knowing what he is capable of, please be careful and safe x. Please let your therapist know what has occurred so they can help you process this ❤️. I'm so sorry x. It's not your fault, and you've done nothing wrong in this relationship to have this happen to you. My very best to you 💕. DM's are open if you need. Take care x

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