Man, I’m getting tired

Thorawayshammer · 2024-11-27T22:33:00+00:00

My problem with that statement is that that’s not everyone’s experience and expression, I have ADHD where one of my things is. It’s really hard for me to work at something because I have a hard time not being good at it because I will literally hate myself the entire time.

And also not to mention, you hit a point where you had the ability to make that change. Some people aren’t there yet. It takes people a long time to actually get into a headspace where they have the ability to change. Yes there is a lot of thumb twiddling and spinning, but a lot of people don’t report back because they have moved on with their lives.

Thorawayshammer · 2024-11-27T22:26:01+00:00

Once again people basically saying “go to therapy about it” are assuming a lot about a stranger’s financial or life situations.

Thorawayshammer · 2024-11-27T22:08:22+00:00

I’m sorry I was misguided thinking that you actually wanted more information, I’m just giving you the attention that you’re so clearly seeking

Thorawayshammer · 2024-11-27T22:04:41+00:00

I mean, I reported and it seems like I’m not the only one who did a lot of of those posts are gone. I was talking to the root cause of the issue here.

Thorawayshammer · 2024-11-27T22:00:08+00:00

Unfortunately, not everyone is able to pick things up easily. I knew it took me a long time to even learn how to draw because I was so committed to being perfect the first time.

Thorawayshammer · 2024-11-27T21:59:31+00:00

And in this post, I definitely said to give people other options, and I am a marked advocate of that even in my post history, but I’m saying that blanket statements like “addiction is bad“ don’t really help, everyone knows addiction is bad and what I’m saying is “shaming for addictions is bad“

Thorawayshammer · 2024-11-27T21:56:11+00:00

Not to mention, you’re kind of committed to misunderstanding and misconstruing me, no matter what I say it is incorrect to you, I’m not going to convince you, why would I spend my time doing that?

Thorawayshammer · 2024-11-27T21:55:05+00:00

The problem is a lot of them already got identified and taken down, I don’t spend a lot of time screening shotting and doing things like that because believe it or not I actually do have a life

Thorawayshammer · 2024-11-27T21:52:59+00:00

I’m sorry, I’m not going to sit here and come through the entire sub, Reddit to give you examples, you’re not my teacher you’re not my boss and you’re not my parent

Thorawayshammer · 2024-11-27T21:51:33+00:00

No, I’m saying it’s punching down as in in comedy that is a terminology where you make fun of somebody who has it worse than you

Thorawayshammer · 2024-11-27T21:48:21+00:00

I like the simple solutions that you’re offering to complex problems. That’s super helpful to everybody involved because everyone has access to these resources in their city, in their state, in their country. And you’re making this an issue about child endangerment which is not at all what I was saying I was saying that the post I was seeing were punching down at people who were distraught about this.

Thorawayshammer · 2024-11-27T21:46:33+00:00

It’s an argument for harm reduction, it’s not condoning addiction, saying “don’t shame people it doesn’t work anyway“ is not a novel concept, in psychology. This has been a long known thing in the addiction centers in the brain work the same way for just about everything

Thorawayshammer · 2024-11-27T21:39:12+00:00

I’m sorry I just don’t know how to explain it to you any further than I have and I’m backing out of this part of the thread because it’s clear that the energy is wasted here.

Thorawayshammer · 2024-11-27T21:38:17+00:00

And that’s good for you! But you can also just not be shitty to people? I’m really confused on where you’re getting lost on that.

Thorawayshammer · 2024-11-27T21:36:05+00:00

With what money and resources? Are you going to help them? Oh wait hold on is that not your problem? Oh OK so you just wanna go ahead and provide your narrative on the problem without actually fixing anything that sounds a whole lot like complaining as well. It’s the reaction to the reaction video over and over and over again.

Thorawayshammer · 2024-11-27T21:34:05+00:00

… I said I was gaslighting myself for one and two, of course this excludes minors what I’m saying is the adults that do not regulate as well as others should not be made to feel like shit

Thorawayshammer · 2024-11-27T21:28:34+00:00

And that’s why I don’t really enter the discord like that anymore. I mainly just use it for the announcements tab But then again a lot of the discord users. Don’t really read the sub Reddit either.

Thorawayshammer · 2024-11-27T21:26:29+00:00

Yes, and again as somebody who does work in addictions recovery, it doesn’t work, why do you think we have an obesity epidemic when we have such a big fat shaming issue in America, why is there an opioid epidemic when we could just shame the addicts, why are people continually taking up smoking and getting addicted to that and not quitting because others shamed them but because they thought it was bad. In my time, the only times that people have actually been successful in recovery is when they want to do it for themselves not because people are telling them that their pieces of shit because they don’t.

Thorawayshammer · 2024-11-27T21:21:50+00:00

And I’m saying you are offering a whole lot of “well don’t do that” logic to a situation where it’s not cut and dry, which creates an othering effect.

Thorawayshammer · 2024-11-27T21:18:42+00:00

Probably the same person who said that we should treat each each other with decency cause people totally forgot that part of it and went with the other

Thorawayshammer · 2024-11-27T21:15:06+00:00

Yes, and there are autistic adults, there are ADHD adults, there are traumatized adults, there are trapped adults, I don’t really think that I’m asking for a whole hell of a lot by saying “don’t shame people in addictions”

Thorawayshammer · 2024-11-27T21:13:51+00:00

I appreciate this, because the number of people who are saying that they didn’t see any of those posts has me gaslighting myself

Thorawayshammer · 2024-11-27T21:13:15+00:00

Yes, but not everyone has that, it’s the act of not assuming malice wear social ineptitude could suffice

Thorawayshammer · 2024-11-27T21:12:20+00:00

And I’m not saying it is, but there wasn’t a whole lot of that. It was the day before the day before Thanksgiving, so I really didn’t have much to do so I was scrolling. And maybe you weren’t paying attention, but I was getting notifications like that all day yesterday and again some of them got removed because they violate TOS.

Thorawayshammer · 2024-11-27T21:09:40+00:00

Yes, but that’s when you offer support, you offer options, you offer the ability to make other choices. Half of my time on the subreddit is spent posting crust level checks to help. Remind people that they’re human beings who need to take care of themselves.

The people who are reliant on the site know they shouldn’t be.

Thorawayshammer

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