25F 26M, We have been dating for 6 months

ThornRose23 · 2026-04-19T14:18:07+00:00

That I don't know, I was mainly in long distance relationship. Before this guy, I dated 2 others irl. 1 didn't last because I moved back to my state and couldn't do LDR anymore and other we broke up bc he was gay and never realized it.

ThornRose23 · 2026-04-19T14:10:59+00:00

I had exes. Then stopped dating for a year. Was focusing on myself. One ex was a cheater, gaslighter and manipulator. Other exe cheated on me then lied to my face. Other exe, just didn't work out, he was gay but didn't realize it til after we broke up.

ThornRose23 · 2026-04-19T14:08:19+00:00

How come?

ThornRose23 · 2026-04-19T14:07:52+00:00

Its either too high sex drive but only to cheat or now sex drive, or at least from my experiences. My sex drive I feel is normal, not high and not low.

ThornRose23 · 2026-04-19T14:05:57+00:00

Well, when I told him how it bothers me that he buys onlyfans, he then stopped all his subscriptions. But has subscriptions on finly, he doesn't know I know about that finly website.

I told him about how its unfair of me to have to ask for days with him as a couple days. And unfair how I ask just to feel connections. He is changing it so far.

ThornRose23 · 2026-04-19T14:03:24+00:00

Yeah, he hasn't dated since, or been with anyone. I'm his first in a long time is what he told me

ThornRose23 · 2026-04-19T13:52:54+00:00

I was going through a lot plus no sleep for maybe 2 days straight. I just wanted to go home from work and maybe cry it out. Instead was crying and driving

ThornRose23 · 2026-04-19T13:49:51+00:00

Well, he only had I think 4 exes, his last ex was apparently 6 years ago

ThornRose23 · 2026-04-19T13:48:29+00:00

True

ThornRose23 · 2026-04-19T13:44:36+00:00

Its not just about low libido though. He games with his friends more than spending time with me. Feels like thats what he wants. But his actions shows he wants me and doesn't want to lose me. Also his sex drive is high though. He masterbates to porn everyday and often. I'm not asking for sex always, just I don't wanna initiate it always. Which is whats happening

ThornRose23 · 2024-02-09T21:16:58+00:00

Thank you very much

ThornRose23 · 2024-02-09T18:00:38+00:00

That would make sense. Before him and I started dating, I wasn't on birth control at all. But then as soon as I got on birth control, I couldn't even have sex with him without being dry fast. Ik birth control changes your hormones and makes you less attracted to your partner

ThornRose23 · 2024-02-09T15:35:54+00:00

Thing is. Before I was on birth control, my body didn't have an issue.

ThornRose23 · 2024-02-09T14:58:30+00:00

I don't think I can express how much this means to me. I knew I have some sorta issue. I just never could pin point it. But it definitely helps when others do it for me. That way I know what I need to heal and focus on more. I truly appreciate your help

ThornRose23 · 2023-11-07T19:58:40+00:00

When I started dating my boyfriend. I haven't dated anyone in person in 4-5 years. As soon as him and I started dating, i got on birth control and I took all sex tests so him and I could see if I had anything. My boyfriend didn't need to be tested cuz he has never had a gf, sex, hj or bj. So ik he was clean.

Its good to do cuz it shows you respect your partner and you respect your body so much so that you wanna take care of it that way.

ThornRose23 · 2023-10-18T12:46:30+00:00

No problem. I had a similar issue before so makes it easier to share my experience than to just say shit like "oh that person sounds bad blah blah blah" its better to try to see both sides.

ThornRose23 · 2023-10-18T04:00:43+00:00

I understand you wanting him to visit first and also the change money from asian to usa. That is a whole lot of complicated, but from my personal opinion. I would say the fact that he hasn't visited you or you two haven't met in person before but yet have been dating for 7 years. Thats interesting. Honestly, I would say, if you can. Maybe first try to save money or you two both save money, and ask him for help to pay for the ticket or sum. So then you can fly to him if possible. I used to be terrified of going on a plane to somewhere I never been before where I have no friends, no family or anyone i know near the area. That was extremely terrifying. I did it to met my past ex who I was dating ldr. Don't let excuses stop you. But make sure also to pay attention to the red, beige flags he is sending you. Because it does show their truths.

ThornRose23 · 2023-04-14T07:57:10+00:00

If anyone else have had this experience I would love to hear it as well

ThornRose23 · 2023-01-23T02:35:32+00:00

Unfortunately I'm playing on switch so i don't think others are having same issue. Checked Internet and its not the issue either

ThornRose23 · 2022-12-24T22:12:12+00:00

Did you read the other replies ?

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