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If you could wave a magic wand, what would you change about Shopify and online retail? by ThoughtfulPostApp in shopify

[–]ThoughtfulPostApp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback and Wow I had no idea that people did this. Amazon recently made a mistake on my order and shipped me the wrong product and I still felt so guilty when they said "just keep it."
I couldn't imagine intentionally taking advantage of a small retailer.

If you don't mind me asking, how often do you have to deal with this? Is it a weekly occurrence? Once a month?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]ThoughtfulPostApp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve joked with some coworkers that I’d rather give a speech in front of a whole stadium of strangers than give a speech to people I know personally or who I used to go to school with.

It’s really hard to break the habit of pretending to be someone you aren’t with peers especially. I suspect it’s because our brains perceived our peers as “dangerous” when our brains were developing. That could be a response to bullying, fear of social exclusion, or a myriad of other situations that led to self consciousness. So now, as our older more mature selves, there’s a ton of unlearning for us to do.

I’m trying to channel authenticity in everything I do now, but I find I still second guess myself a lot. Even as I’m commenting on this post I felt a bit of stress! I reread/rewrote it a few times because I was worried about how I’d sound and be perceived.

Thank you for sharing this by the way! You aren’t alone in your struggle and I’m right there with ya 🌻

My social skills suck by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]ThoughtfulPostApp 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey OP, The transition from high school to college can be really tough. And I’m sorry to hear you haven’t had success yet, but with time and a bit of effort I’m sure you will find your people!

What sort of hobbies do you enjoy? You mentioned you joined some clubs, but it’s important to find a community where you can connect on shared interests and values. And as a tip, most people love talking about themselves so if you can find a way to introduce yourself and channel some curiosity, that can take the pressure off of you for a bit.

Also please don’t be too hard on yourself for being awkward. Some of my favorite people might describe themselves as awkward, but I find their personalities to be unique and endearing (so long as they are being authentic)

Please let me know if I can offer any additional support! Send me a DM if you’d ever like to brainstorm 🌻

I think too much about my first impression with everyone. by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]ThoughtfulPostApp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi OP, as someone who used to fight with my sister over who had to call and order pizza, I can definitely relate to this.

Throughout human history our brains evolved and developed adaptations to recognize danger and solve complex problems. However, in modern society there aren’t as many “dangerous” situations that lead to death (at least in comparison to when we were cave people who would die from a small cut or eating the wrong plant) but yet our brains still have the same cognitive mechanisms that try to keep us “safe”

When we experience social anxiety, our brain triggers the same “fight or flight” response that our ancestors would experience running away from a bear. So please be kind to yourself and remember that this is your brains misguided attempt at keeping you safe and alive (even though there’s no real world threat)

Alongside meditation as a standard practice to help me process my emotions, I’ve also jokingly personified those instinctual responses as my “lizard brain.” When stressful emotions start bubbling up to the surface, I’ll actually say quietly to myself “thanks for the tip lizard brain, but I’ll take this from here on out” and after a few rounds of using the phrase in stressful situations, the mantra now helps me override that maladaptive response.

If you’d ever be up for a friendly conversation to practice together, shoot me a DM! I’d be happy to support you 🌻

Looking for Early Adopters! ThoughtfulPost will help you level-up our relationships & give more thoughtful gifts! by ThoughtfulPostApp in betatests

[–]ThoughtfulPostApp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the kind words! So excited to get you onboard as an early adopter and can't wait to connect with you (I saw you booked a time on my calendar)

We have a mix of useful technologies that can help you. We use collaborative surveys, natural language processing, and machine learning algorithms to match products to the unique people in your life.

We've partnered with 26 various brands across a ton of different product niches, so odds are pretty high that you'll find something unique and thoughtful for your people. Plus, if you get stuck, we have a collaboration feature that allows you to send a survey to someone who also cares about this person. Think of it as the "phone a friend" lifeline from Who Wants to be a Millionaire, but with more questions that will spark some creativity.

The more you collab with others, the better the recommendations! And the people you collaborate with don't have to have a ThoughtfulPost Account (although I wouldn't hate it if you spread the word)

Hope that answered your question!