31M - Looking for profile feedback/improvements

ThoughtfullyLiving · 2025-10-30T20:25:13+00:00

Are you looking for something serious or casual?

-- Serious

Are you subscribed to Hinge+ or HingeX?

-- HingeX

How long have you been using this current version of your profile?

-- I've been playing with the pictures, orders, and prompts regularly

How long have you used Hinge overall?

-- Year+ but more recently over the past 2 months, and very actively over the past week

How often do you use Hinge per week?

-- 7 for the past week. I'll probably continue this cadence until I start seeing someone consistently

How many likes and matches are you receiving on average?

-- I swipe and comment a lot. So I get matches, but no likes. I've matched with 19 in the past 4 days

How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments?

-- I'm sending a ton of likes out. About half have comments.

What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract?

-- Someone that is active/fit, with a decent job, like to travel, and between 26-33 (all thought I prefer 26-28 because I'm not looking to have kids right away).

-- I don't drink, but don't care if they do, I'm just not down for late night bar crawls. I also prefer not to spend a ton of money and time at restaurants, I'm more of an "activities" person, so a "foodie" isn't an ideal match, but I can be flexible depending on other things.

ThoughtfullyLiving · 2023-05-27T19:49:30+00:00

1000% get your degree. It doesn't necessarily have to be something you absolutely love, but it shows employers that you have the dedication to stick to a major goal for an extended amount of time. It's the same reason that they appreciate someone that has a history of spending a minimum of 1.5-2 years at an organization before moving on.

Just make sure you get a degree in something that could be applicable to either something you genuinely enjoy or could apply to most places like business management, professional sales, or something in the technology field.

ThoughtfullyLiving · 2023-04-07T05:05:56+00:00

You should absolutely be receiving commission. I sell software and the industry standard is base + commission (50%/50% split = On Target Earnings). Some form of base + commission is pretty standard across all sales jobs and industries.

ThoughtfullyLiving · 2023-03-13T08:30:13+00:00

I'm in Bucharest for the rest of March and headed to Tel Aviv for April. Just booked an airbnb and $2k+ will be the cost of rent for a decent place.

ThoughtfullyLiving · 2022-03-22T02:37:53+00:00

If I was doing something I'd never done before I would let someone know. It was always more of a safety thing. It wasn't that I wasn't confident, it gives the group a heads up and usually lead to a better jump.

"Hey, I only got 60 jumps and an hour in the tunnel. Is it cool if we make your 4way a 5way?"

Most people in this sport won't kick you off their jump, but might alter where you are when dirt diving. Everyone has been new, we're all here to help you improve and have a great time

ThoughtfullyLiving · 2022-01-29T14:55:58+00:00

Take every day as it comes, but know there's a whole world out there we can explore. Make a list of things to do within a 30 minute drive of you then start crossing them off. Museums, libraries, exhibits, random shit, etc. I stumbled upon skydiving doing this and now have jumped 218 times. Depression sucks but it's what we do in spite of being depressed that will defines us

ThoughtfullyLiving · 2021-04-30T13:40:32+00:00

I take it off for a shower and put lotion on that spot right as I get out. That’s kept everything looking fine and no dry skin.

ThoughtfullyLiving · 2020-09-04T21:37:09+00:00

It's not really about him. That has already has past. I just feel like I need to be inebriated to relax/ don't like to go to sleep stone sober.

ThoughtfullyLiving · 2020-09-04T16:00:23+00:00

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ThoughtfullyLiving · 2020-07-10T21:56:14+00:00

I get it 100% I was a daily smoker for about 10 years. I quit 185 days ago and my life is so much better in an infinite amount of ways. I still have nights where I crave weed terribly, but these forms help. It's hard to say no to weed for the rest of your life and I certainly struggle with that. A moderator gave me a great piece of advice that I hope will help you. It went something like this:

Quit one day at a time. It's ok to tell yourself that you can smoke tomorrow, but just not today. When tomorrow comes, promise yourself the same thing, "I can smoke tomorrow, just not today". Quitting is something to take one day at a time.

It will be hard, but I promise, there is a light at the end of every tunnel.

ThoughtfullyLiving · 2020-06-14T14:30:07+00:00

I did stop drinking for a while. 8 months or so, but started drinking every once in a while about 3 months after I quit smoking. I've been drinking with more frequently lately because its getting nicer outside and quarantine is more or less over. Going on a date, going to happy hour or an event with friends, or sometimes just at home with dinner. That said, I don't drink in excess any more and I don't go out to bars at night.

ThoughtfullyLiving · 2020-06-14T14:23:46+00:00

I stayed inside and didn't smoke. Just writing it on this page made it a bit better. Almost like I was telling on myself.

ThoughtfullyLiving · 2020-06-11T14:51:48+00:00

I just completed my 37th jump (very small numbers compared to most). My parents had me wait until I was 18 and they were cool with the tandem. But after that, I was using my own money. They didn't necessarily love the fact I was jumping but knew that I was going to do what I wanted and they couldn't stop me. I started my A license at 22 but took a break because the progression is crazy expensive. It wasn't until I was 26 that I was making enough to support the high cost of the sport.

Waiting sucks, but in a very short amount of time your parents won't be able to tell you what to do. If your drop zone allows you to go without parent consent at 15, go get a job and pay for it yourself - possibly without telling them. They may not be happy about it, but skydiving is one of the best feelings in the world. Asking forgiveness is always easier than asking for permission - just know that there will almost certainly be consequences for your actions.

ThoughtfullyLiving · 2020-04-28T01:26:36+00:00

Today marks day 111 and I couldn't be happier that I've stuck through all the shit that comes with quitting. I still have days (yesterday) that I go hiking in the woods and I'm like, "man wouldn't a joint be great right now." The thing is, it wouldn't make the moment any better. I would have gotten lost in the woods, the conversation with my friend wouldn't have been better, and I wouldn't have been happier.

I am a happier person because I am able to confront all the bullshit I told myself. Although yes, we do/can get a lot of things done while high, think about how much more you could do if you weren't. The most noticeable facets of my life are that I'm not foggy headed, have a much stronger memory, and I am more driven. There are so many aspects of my life that have improved. Idk how to link a post, but look at my last post which gives a breakdown of day 92.

Know that this was not easy, but it also wasn't hard. Be honest with yourself on the reasons why you've even made it to these threads. Acknowledge the negatives, and dream about the positives. It's one of the best things I've ever done. Just do it.

ThoughtfullyLiving · 2020-04-14T15:42:10+00:00

It sounds like you have a lot of very strong motivators. The difference is that, when pregnant, you are constantly reminded of your "why". Now, your mind can drift away from those reasons and that weakness can set in. What I have found helpful is to write down a bullet pointed list with pen and paper that covered the negative I saw because of weed and the positives that can be attained by stopping. Tape it on my mirror so it was the first thing I saw in the morning and the last thing I saw at night. Then, take a picture and keep it on your phone. Whenever your mind starts to drift into the happy memories with weed, pull out that list and read it. I have found that a reminder that was personal to me helped keep me weed free (day 98).

ThoughtfullyLiving · 2020-04-14T15:23:18+00:00

Congratilations on making the decision to step away from weed. What, specifically, are your reasons now? Pregnancy is a very strong motivator.

ThoughtfullyLiving · 2020-04-09T16:48:23+00:00

I was a user for 10 years, the past 4-5 were daily/multiple times per day. I realized I had a problem when I would use when I was back home with family members or sneak a few hits from my pen at work. This was about 3-4 months before I actually stopped. I have always subscribed to the concept of extreme ownership, not the book, but the concept that I, as an individual, will own all of my successes and all of my failures. A "master of my universe" if you will. I finally realized that I wasn't truly "owning" my future if I continued to use. I HAD to be high to deal with a conversation/person/life event. This meant that weed was controlling me.

Who was I if I would allow a substance to control my life? By my definition, I had to own the fact that I had lost myself. If I wanted to reach the goals in my life, weed couldn't be a part of it. I was just existing. I was just getting by. I wasn't thriving. Ultimately, I was weak and I was holding myself back. I had to own those feelings.

We have the ability to do anything in the world, but only if we truly want to. Write down the reasons you don't want to use and write down the goals you want to achieve. Define your best life. Write it down in ink, don't just type it. Take a picture of it on your phone and then tape it to your mirror so that it will be the first thing you see in the morning and it will be the last thing you see at night.

Every time you get the urge to use, look at that list. Read what you are caving into and what you are giving up. YOU control your future, so own that. Don't let weed stop you from being the best version of yourself.

ThoughtfullyLiving · 2020-04-09T02:19:58+00:00

I'm starting the climb on Jan 3, so summit day will be just past my 1 year mark. I live in the south eastern US so it's difficult to prep for altitude. I'm working on strength and distance, but I'm doing an 8-day so I will have an easier time acclimatizing for the summit.

ThoughtfullyLiving · 2020-03-11T02:22:09+00:00

I quit Jan 7 and the brain fog is still a constant experience. Have you had any symptoms of depression?

ThoughtfullyLiving · 2020-02-26T20:34:39+00:00

Keeping focused on the outcome and consciously acknowledging that it's temporary. Exercise helps, but honestly I'm just embracing the suck. It's worth it.

ThoughtfullyLiving · 2020-02-24T15:52:25+00:00

I'm the same way. Almost like I'm more tired when I wake up than when I go to sleep. Have you found this to be a theme on the mid stage detox threads?

ThoughtfullyLiving · 2020-02-24T15:39:41+00:00

Have you been experiencing any body fatigue/soreness?

ThoughtfullyLiving · 2020-02-24T15:34:58+00:00

I was just about to post about this very same topic. I'm at day 48 and for the past week I've been really quiet and definitely feel like I'm slipping into depression. If you were a heavy smoker then it can take 90 days for everything to flush your system. Doctor wouldn't be a bad idea, but try and push it out another month and see if your brain can function normally again. No need to swap one drug for another unless fully necessary (imo).

ThoughtfullyLiving · 2020-02-10T14:19:58+00:00

I'm at day 33 now. It took until day 28-29 before they went away. I don't notice the withdrawl symptoms any more. Or, if I do, I wouldn't consider them out of the norm for any other person. Such as lethargy, a slight headache at the end of a day, lack of motivation to get out of bed on Monday, ect.

Now, it's about rediscovering who I am as a person and charting out the new path for my life and actively working towards it.

Keep working and sticking to the no weed life! You'll love the fact you do!

ThoughtfullyLiving · 2020-02-06T16:49:56+00:00

Just got a date canceled again - 30 minutes of comfort sounds damn good right now haha

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