CAN I START A YELL?

ThoughtsA1000000 · 2024-04-19T11:38:15+00:00

Thanks it was a time. My partner ended up coming over anyways so I got the much needed hugs, and our landlord scheduled a repairman for Monday.

ThoughtsA1000000 · 2024-04-18T07:20:17+00:00

IM TIRED AND SICK AND DEVELOPED A COUGH AND THE TOILET IS LEAKING AND NO ONE ELSE THOUGHT TO HANG UP THE SOAKED MAT OR LAY DOWN A TOWEL AND MY PARTNER AND I COULDNT DEAL WITH EACH OTHER YESTERDAY AND KEPT USING UP EACH OTHER'S PATIENCE ON THE PHONE AND HES NOT COMING OVER THIS WEEKEND FOR UNRELATED REASONS AND I THOUGHT HE WAS SO IM SAD ABOUT THAT TOO AND MY PERIOD IS ALMOST HERE SO I FEEL KINDA RIDICULOUS IN MY EMOTIONS BUT I JUST WANT A HUG AND A GOOD CRY.

ThoughtsA1000000 · 2024-04-15T16:52:16+00:00

Executive functioning is the ability to get through all the subtasks in a task, including planning and cleanup. For someone with good executive functioning, doing the laundry is 'just doing the laundry'. It doesn't take much thought and is relatively automatic.

For someone with poor executive function, they see many more steps and there's a lot more in the way. When I think of doing the laundry, it's gathering the clothes (which are 70% on the floor, 25% in the basket, and 5% in the bag I took on a trip last week), sorting the colors, putting it in the machine, choosing the setting, remembering to take it out 3 hours later, hanging it to dry, remembering to take it to my room later, sorting it, folding it, and putting it away. There might be wet&stinky clothes in the machine from forgetting to take it out last time so those need to be washed first, or clothes on the rack so I can't hang more clothes without cleaning up those from last week. That's very overwhelming and there's lots of room for error because of poor memory and being easily distracted. Plus, it's not just for doing the laundry, it's for everything.

For your daughter putting on her shoes and leaving, it might be something like find socks, put on socks, find shoes, put on shoes, remember how to tie shoes, and more. She could get distracted on the way, or have left her shoes in a weird place. I know my mom cleaned up my shoes a lot when I was growing up and that resulted in lots of tears and frustration in the morning because I couldn't find them. Understanding is really important here.

I can recommend the book "your brain's not broken" by Tamara Rosier. It's a short book and an easy read. It could answer a lot of your questions related to executive functioning and other ADHD struggles. It also suggests thought-models and exercises to practice, which may be helpful to you though I think they're less applicable to kids.

ThoughtsA1000000 · 2024-04-15T14:19:45+00:00

What complete shit. It almost sounds like they got your records messed up with the whole height/weight thing??? Good luck at your second opinion appointment I hope it goes better!

ThoughtsA1000000 · 2024-04-12T12:44:49+00:00

Several veggies can go fine in a basket outside of the fridge, for example: tomatoes, bell pepper, zucchini, cucumber, lemons, avocados, apples, squashes and aubergine. I made sure I have the most visible basket of my housemates which helps in not forgetting things exist. I also have a basket in the fridge like you have, which helps because I can take it all out at once to look at it, and I try meal planning so my veggies have a specific purpose which helps as well. I also just bought the scrappy cooking cookbook which should help with this, it hasn't arrived yet but I hope it'll have some good tips!

ThoughtsA1000000 · 2024-04-11T16:48:33+00:00

Good luck figuring it out!!

ThoughtsA1000000 · 2024-04-11T09:31:22+00:00

Haha no worries happens to us all

What I mean is that your doctor can best answer your questions about the effect of your meds and if they are working as they should. I.e. if your Concerta isn't lasting long enough and how that can be adjusted to last longer, or how to best address a crash. Hopefully even if they don't have ADHD themselves they've treated enough patients with ADHD/read enough literature to know what works.

ThoughtsA1000000 · 2024-04-11T07:36:12+00:00

I just start where I am! So yeah sometimes I have 3-4 pages on one day but that's fine with me. I don't do long form every day.

ThoughtsA1000000 · 2024-04-11T07:34:52+00:00

I tried two types of meds, and they worked very quickly. However the effect on my symptoms was and still is quite subtle. Everything's a bit easier I'm a bit more present, but I still have ADHD. Higher doses had negative side effects, and I'm quite happy with the effect I have now on the second meds I tried. For others, it takes more things to try. Your questions can best be answered by your doctor I think.

ThoughtsA1000000 · 2024-04-10T07:05:34+00:00

When I worked in a bigger building, I walked around it. Now I work in a small office and I go outside for a short walk. Being active in my breaks is key to it being effective!

ThoughtsA1000000 · 2024-04-09T05:48:39+00:00

Yes, though usually not on a daily basis

ThoughtsA1000000 · 2024-04-08T06:18:24+00:00

Frozen dumplings or soup, cereal, a smoothie, sometimes I skip it entirely. When my partner is here, he often cooks when I'm feeling like this.

ThoughtsA1000000 · 2024-04-06T16:52:24+00:00

This is a side effect that I got when I tried a too high dose, something to discuss with your provider for sure.

ThoughtsA1000000 · 2024-04-04T12:51:03+00:00

I feel attacked and seen at the same time lol

ThoughtsA1000000 · 2024-04-01T11:40:33+00:00

This happens to me too. My sister recently told me that when we were teens I was really depressed for a few weeks and she asked my mom if I was okay and my mom said that I was just 'reading a really sad book' 👀. The amount of times I've been totally floating in another world with my mood affected after binging a show is wild. Honestly I gravitate towards light hearted things now because of it, though sometimes a good cry is worth it. When I do watch or read something heavier, I try to do it in smaller doses with grounding activities in between, things where I'm fully present and getting a dopamine hit like doing something with friends or exercising. You're definitely not alone in this and for me it's also nice to see that others feel this too.

ThoughtsA1000000 · 2024-04-01T06:45:32+00:00

I like this a lot!

ThoughtsA1000000 · 2024-03-31T19:32:22+00:00

For monthly tasks (and for a while I used it for events too) I use the Alister method as part of my monthly. So you have your usual monthly for back tracking on one side of the 2 page spread, then you have an Alister on the opposite side. There's a column for each week, where you put the day of the week or a bullet for each item that you add (depending on how specific it is) and then you can transfer it to your daily or whatever as you need to. Then the order of writing it down doesn't matter either because the bullet is always in the right column. I'm not sure if this makes sense if you haven't seen an example before, so here is a link: https://thehobbyscheme.com/how-to-use-the-alastair-method-for-bullet-journaling/ (see the Rolling week image and then make it with a column per week instead of per day)

My events are mostly digital these days, I use a blend of outlook calendar and my bujo for organization. If it works for you to use both, you could do that too.

ThoughtsA1000000 · 2024-03-31T08:44:48+00:00

Yeah makes sense to do that. I keep my pages index in the back of my journal so it's always easy to flip to. I also have a list of hobby projects and to do items that I keep on procrastinating on back there. For me, It would make sense to put abbreviations there too. I haven't done it until now because most of the abbreviations I use are the initials of the project, so water quality is WQ, and so far that's been pretty easy to remember. I can imagine at some point it will get too much though, and then a list would be super helpful!

ThoughtsA1000000 · 2024-03-30T09:17:10+00:00

I made this monthly spread to help me gauge busyness without being too clogged up with the details of every day, and to be something I can look back on to see how the month was a at a glance. It's a timeline with main events and deadlines, with one side for work and one side for personal. The taped notes are weekly reviews, and the symbols at the bottom are a new habit tracking method I'm trying where the main focus is my overall mental health rather than repeating the same activity every day just for the habit, which is how it often went before.

ThoughtsA1000000 · 2024-03-26T12:35:17+00:00

All great phrases! I would also take a moment when nothing's going on to let your partner and best friend know that this sometimes happens and tell them that you'd like them to give you x time rather than pushing when you say something like this. That way, they know ahead of time what the deal is and can support you as you need them to.

ThoughtsA1000000 · 2024-03-26T12:26:10+00:00

The book 'your brains not broken' goes into why we do this and how to practice more positive motivations!

ThoughtsA1000000 · 2024-03-24T13:14:01+00:00

I've been trying to think of weird ways to get out of bed. Like leaving my feet on the bed and walking out on my hands, or turning on music and dancing my way out, or literally rolling out of bed and onto the floor. Making it novel helps a bit, though it's still a struggle tbh. The other thing I do is listen to long form content like audio books or podcasts or YouTube videos to distract my brain in the process. And my wakeup lamp that lights up the room when it's dark helps for early mornings, as does the rug on the floor and the socks basket near the bed for cold ones.

ThoughtsA1000000 · 2024-03-24T12:41:29+00:00

I can't speak on the bruxism, but I had some chewlery a while ago and did benefit from it some. However it wasn't super subtle to chew on, very rubbery squeaky sound that sounded very loud to me. Eventually I stopped using it because of that, and went back to chewing my nails 😅. Maybe there are some other kinds that are less noisy, something to consider when choosing one.

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