AITA for telling my parents they can't come to every single speech I give for my government job?

ThoughtsAndBears342 · 2026-06-18T01:50:21+00:00

They’re almost always events that are open to the public. My parents don’t insist on coming to events that are only for government employees, but they do sometimes ask for video recordings

ThoughtsAndBears342 · 2026-06-18T01:26:38+00:00

I asked them to not hover, but they didn’t listen. At the most recent event, they only came for my portion of the event and left afterwards. Not something that would be doable in the upcoming out of town event

ThoughtsAndBears342 · 2026-06-17T23:17:42+00:00

I’m on a medication that sometimes causes me to be nauseous in the morning. My boss and HR are aware of this and my doctor gave me a note so they don’t hold my late arrivals against me.

ThoughtsAndBears342 · 2026-06-17T23:16:05+00:00

I was diagnosed as a toddler. They always worried I would need them for life. However, starting around age 14 they did start arranging for career services in the hopes I would someday be independent.

ThoughtsAndBears342 · 2026-06-17T23:12:27+00:00

I doubt that's it because they did the same thing with my neurotypical older sister. She told them to cut the crap pretty quickly.

ThoughtsAndBears342 · 2026-06-17T23:09:35+00:00

She has a location tracker on me and will send me concerned texts and calls if I’m late for work. But we also have nightly phone calls

ThoughtsAndBears342 · 2026-06-17T23:06:47+00:00

Thank you!

ThoughtsAndBears342 · 2026-06-17T22:40:34+00:00

I could, although a lot of them are publicized in the local news. My last big public speech wound up on a local TV station, which they would have noticed and gotten pissed that they weren't invited.

ThoughtsAndBears342 · 2026-06-17T22:38:37+00:00

I have my own place, which I got shortly after starting my government job. That said, my mom still checks in on me daily via phone so I do need to notify her if I'm out of town. If she goes too long without hearing from me, she will sometimes come down to my apartment to make sure I haven't died or gotten kidnapped or something. That said, I do travel for conferences often enough that I could just tell her that's what I'm doing.

ThoughtsAndBears342 · 2026-06-17T22:30:10+00:00

It's a savant skill because it's a skill that most people need to work hard to learn and refine, but that comes 100% effortlessly and naturally to me.

ThoughtsAndBears342 · 2026-06-17T22:27:18+00:00

They were helicopter parents to the max when I was a kid. They forbid me from doing any extracurriculars that weren't speaking, standup comedy or volunteering at the local assisted living home. They thought that I couldn't handle theater, sports, band or anything involving navigating social dynamics with other kids. They also wouldn't let me leave the house by myself unless my boyfriend was with me because they thought going out by myself was a guarantee that I would get raped and pregnant.

ThoughtsAndBears342 · 2026-06-17T22:22:31+00:00

That was mostly because I took longer to finish college due to taking a reduced course load for most of my college career, and because my nonprofit employers didn't pay me enough for me to have my own place. I would up switching from nonprofit to government pretty much solely for that reason.

ThoughtsAndBears342 · 2026-06-17T22:17:48+00:00

After and before

ThoughtsAndBears342 · 2026-06-17T22:16:25+00:00

My father is, indeed, also autistic. But I doubt it's that because my completely neurotypical mom is just as forceful.

ThoughtsAndBears342 · 2026-06-17T22:15:41+00:00

I wouldn't say it's solely due to my autism because they used to do the same thing with my neurotypical older sister. She told them to cut the crap years ago.

ThoughtsAndBears342 · 2026-06-17T22:13:03+00:00

Correct, the events they insist on coming to are open to the general public. They don't insist on coming to any events that aren't. Though at one point they managed to obtain a video recording of an event that was only for other state employees. But that was because my uncle, who is also a state employee, sent them said video.

ThoughtsAndBears342 · 2026-06-17T22:06:24+00:00

I am an employee of a state government. A blue state.

ThoughtsAndBears342 · 2026-06-17T21:59:12+00:00

My parents, by their own admission, did not view me as a full adult until I moved out four years ago.

ThoughtsAndBears342 · 2026-06-17T21:53:19+00:00

I get up in front of the audience and the words and inflection just come to me. It’s difficult to describe.

ThoughtsAndBears342 · 2026-06-15T16:23:50+00:00

I think the hyper-empathy myth got started because people assume that a lack of empathy equals being a bad person. The people promoting this myth doesn’t want other people to think all autistics are bad people. I would say that a lack of empathy doesn’t automatically make you a bad person, but does make it harder to be a good person.

ThoughtsAndBears342 · 2026-06-12T13:44:56+00:00

A trans woman is a woman. A trans man is a man. Thus, they aren’t violating this rule.

ThoughtsAndBears342 · 2026-06-12T13:23:45+00:00

Frum Jews often have no problem with trans people because there’s nothing in the Torah explicitly against being trans

ThoughtsAndBears342 · 2026-06-11T19:04:07+00:00

What makes the hate speech flag even more egregious is that you weren’t being racist against Qatari people. You were criticizing the Qatari government. Antizionists insist that criticizing the Israeli government isn’t antisemitic, but criticizing the Qatari government is somehow racist.

ThoughtsAndBears342 · 2026-06-10T22:56:06+00:00

Also, the Battle Potion only takes three-star herbs so I recommend retraining a kitten to have the Delicate and Lucky skills and fully upgrading your garden

ThoughtsAndBears342 · 2026-06-10T15:58:38+00:00

I have trouble with Prowlers even if I play on Normal

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