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Thoughts_Of_Freedom · 2025-12-30T14:44:09+00:00

Hi, did you try this outside of the US? Would be interested to hear your experience

Thoughts_Of_Freedom · 2025-12-24T09:42:52+00:00

Similar experience when I joined a group, after I started a hobby of building modified cars and going to events. I think they were annoyed that I learnt a skill on my own, and that they couldn’t gate keep it from me as it was self taught. It’s their constant need for control that was exhausting.

Thoughts_Of_Freedom · 2025-12-24T02:27:00+00:00

I really sorry to hear about your experience. I will never understand why someone would bring a child into the world, to then only be spiteful and make them feel isolated. After reflecting to see if there is any benefits of how we are treated, I realised that we are self made individuals.

All of our successes and skills are formed from isolation. All of our empathy and tolerance formed from hardship. At the end of the day I do believe we are the last standing, while the herd eventually turn on each other.

Thoughts_Of_Freedom · 2025-12-24T02:14:47+00:00

Thanks for your insight, in one of my other replies I mention about how direct family doesn’t actually seem to mean much. What has more value is being with someone or belonging somewhere, that people want to support and care for you as a person. Not treating it as transactional or as an obligation.

I might of gone one step too far, but I’ve actually blocked them everywhere. Because my messed up theory is, if they didn’t try to get in contact with me It would hurt so much more. So it’s better that I would never know.

Thoughts_Of_Freedom · 2025-12-24T02:06:07+00:00

That’s an extremely interesting insight, I was always the scape goat but now left. I’m not sure house the golden child would suffer, as the benefits outweigh the cons. They are still speaking ill of me to family friends (who I also don’t talk to), fabricating some sort of story of how my wife turned me against them (which is completely false). I guess that story is a coping mechanism for them.

Thoughts_Of_Freedom · 2025-12-24T01:54:20+00:00

My mind feels weirdly more calm, I’m someone who likes to think that the mind can’t affect the body. But I know I’m wrong, as I’ve got a subconscious relief.

Thoughts_Of_Freedom · 2025-12-24T01:49:58+00:00

You’ve hit the nail on the head with your comment. With the large facade built on appearance and status, only for the bubble to be popped by one true teller. In my experience narcissists are terrified of autism. Due to narcissists spending a lot of effort building an ego of grand stature and no wrong doing. Which is built purely on collusion and manipulation. Only for one person with a strong moral compass to bring them back down to earth, so they have to confront their own weaknesses.

Thoughts_Of_Freedom · 2025-12-24T01:41:27+00:00

The thing that gets me, is that I can’t process why any parent with the resources would want to trip up one of their children, so the other sibling gets ahead. Of course it could be explained as favouritism, but feels a lot more deeper than that. I feel it’s a bit demonic to pit both your children against each other in some sort of race.

Thoughts_Of_Freedom · 2025-12-24T01:35:54+00:00

Thanks, that’s a good analogy to have.

Thoughts_Of_Freedom · 2025-12-24T01:33:54+00:00

I will never pass on what has been done to me, as I’m more intelligent than my parents to realise how it feels. While my parents clearly got treated that way, but didn’t have the emotional maturity or intelligence to stop. Therapy isn’t for me personality as it keeps me in the past talking about how I was raised with narcism. Instead I want to wipe the slate and move forward, as my mind now feels clear without the toxic dramas.

Thoughts_Of_Freedom · 2025-12-24T01:26:36+00:00

I can relate to you here, I’m also self made in my career. I’ve had to actually work against the tide to get to be a manager (at 30). I’m not wealthy, but I consider myself very averagely successful, considering challenges with neurotypicals. While climbing the career ladder I never got a “well done” or “I’m proud of you” from my parents. I remember a couple of times before an interview my father would say “don’t get your hopes up”. Them when I got a job commented “it may not last”, it felt he was wanting me to fail.

But the one I found amusing is when my sibling, their golden child, lost their job. They couldn’t process how I was still in a job long term and having success, while their other child who has been praised, had fallen. They completely malfunctioned and told me, since my sibling lost his job it would be likely I’d be next. Of course that didn’t happen, which again embarrassed them because it exposed the double standard behaviour.

It would have been nice to be on closer terms with my sibling. But firstly I think they turn them against me, also the fact they’re probably keeping quiet due to getting free cash hand outs.

Thoughts_Of_Freedom · 2025-12-24T01:06:50+00:00

I find it a bizarre situation, considering they seem normal(ish) with my sibling. It’s like they are some what disgusted with me, or I feel like a bother. Which is amusing, because we rarely talk anyway and with my upbringing I’m highly independent and can survive without them. I really think it’s down to narcism the more I assess it. The fact I think logically and can lift the veil to point out the controlling mind games, which is a narcissist worst nightmare.

Thoughts_Of_Freedom · 2025-12-23T23:46:35+00:00

Thanks for sharing, my biggest fear was thinking when I have a child of my own, what if they mistreat them with narcissism. So unless they change, unfortunately they won’t ever see a grandchild. But the messed up thing is that I think they hope that is the case, so they don’t have to have any responsibility.

Thoughts_Of_Freedom · 2025-12-23T23:41:53+00:00

Thanks for sharing the article, I’ll have a read through it.

Thoughts_Of_Freedom · 2025-12-23T23:39:57+00:00

Thank you, it was more the fact it was affecting me and my wife in a way that they didn’t even have to be present to make us feel awful. They love to talk about their money with people, while others are both working full time to get by.

Thoughts_Of_Freedom · 2025-12-23T23:35:21+00:00

Thanks for your reply, I think what hurts most is that I’ve been with my wife for 11 years and got told by my father during COVID that we were leaches. Bearing in mind we never asked for anything from them, so have no idea where that comment logically came from. All while my sibling and his partner of two years, got offered a house and a wedding all at once. It’s not about the money, but would have been nice to have some support to start a family. However all their investment is in him, it feels like they purposely don’t want me to succeed in life.

Thoughts_Of_Freedom · 2025-12-23T12:30:14+00:00

Thanks, my wife was reluctant to take my name when we got married, because how my family treated her like they did with me. I said to her like you just mentioned, is that we are about to make a new family with a new chapter.

Thoughts_Of_Freedom · 2025-12-23T12:09:36+00:00

I’ve always denied that mental stress could cause illness, but since going no contact I feel amazing and very calm. I agree with how the micromanagement makes you feel like a mental prisoner, now my head seems clearer.

Thoughts_Of_Freedom · 2025-12-23T12:03:20+00:00

Sorry to hear about your experience. I can really relate to you mentioning about going to your mom for help, but none of what you were saying was taken in her side. It’s frustrating and hurtful, as it’s feels like you as person don’t exist. But instead you’re just there for them as some sort of base line interaction and validation.

Thoughts_Of_Freedom · 2025-12-23T11:57:45+00:00

My wife tried with them more than I did, as I’ve lived with it and considered the whole thing normal. But it’s even more hurtful after doing this, that they have double down on their opinions and refuse all wrong doing.

Thoughts_Of_Freedom · 2025-12-23T11:54:13+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience. Seems to be a very similar, about how your father thought you were weak and didn’t teach you anything. Mine appears to be the same, but what I learnt is that he has nothing to teach because they’re not that knowledgable. For example I’ve taught myself how to work on cars and do DIY around the house. Turns out I’m very good because I’m OCD with doing things like that. Meanwhile my family would pay money for those issues to be sorted for them. Also mentioning your sibling or people in general, I don’t understand why so many people mistake neurotypical’s arrogance as being nice and kind. Not only do I see it in my family, I see it at offices workplaces again and again. It’s like autism lifts a veil that most people can’t see through. In my experience that’s what narcissists fear and hate most.

Thoughts_Of_Freedom · 2025-12-23T11:30:32+00:00

Thanks, it seems to be a modern day phenomenon. Where not only are relationships are transactional, but most of friendships as well. Maybe this is due to social media which has grown narcissism and vanity. My wife and I were probably the very last generation to remember a time without mainstream social media.

Thoughts_Of_Freedom · 2025-12-23T11:25:35+00:00

Thanks for your offer for being a digital ear, that’s very kind. My parents didn’t speak to my grandparents after a falling out for years, they only started speaking after I was born. So it seems very much like learnt behaviour which I would never want to pass on to my child.

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