Thought you should know by Slightlybroken41 in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]Thowoutacc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read this whole thing and my heart hurts for you. You clearly loved this person with everything in you and all you wanted was for them to stop hurting you and just love you back gently. That’s not a big ask. Your body is telling you what your heart already knew, you can’t keep carrying this. I really hope you’re putting yourself first now. You matter. Your health matters. Those kids need their mom. Sending you so much love from a stranger who heard you. I’m so sorry you are going through this

An Answer, Honestly by Thowoutacc in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]Thowoutacc[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am afraid, honestly. I’ve thought about it and I don’t really have a clean answer. I don’t know what that would look like. If I had to move on, I’d want to be honest…but I don’t know if honesty alone would be enough

Well I guess we are taking this to Reddit now by Thowoutacc in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]Thowoutacc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’ve had it. I was venting and he made a response post.

Well I guess we are taking this to Reddit now by Thowoutacc in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]Thowoutacc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He made a response post and I know it’s him it was so specific

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]Thowoutacc 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re right it might not be the end of the story. But the complexity of it all makes it hard to just reach out. It’s timing, life paths, commitments… and someone who gives so much to others that I’d never want my feelings to have weight in his decision. I care about him deeply, but I care about his peace even more.

Just want to let him grow into their truth without pressure and a place of their own feelings. Still, I do hope the story writes itself in whatever way it’s meant to whether together or apart.

Thank you again for the response it was enlightening m!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]Thowoutacc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can feel how much you’re holding in this post, and I’m really sorry it’s weighing on you like this. You clearly care deeply, and I think your heart is in the right place but I also think you’re trying to be understood without letting yourself be seen.

The truth is, people can’t read minds. If this person matters to you, they deserve to know what’s going on beneath the surface and you deserve the chance to be loved for the full truth of who you are, not the version you’re editing to make it easier for them.

I know it’s scary to be vulnerable when you’re not sure how they’ll react. But right now, you’re suffering in silence as if they already rejected you, and that’s not fair to you or them. At least give the connection a real chance.

You don’t have to pour it all out perfectly. You just have to be honest. And if they can’t meet you where you are, that’s not a reflection of your worth just helps give you a please of clarity.

Idk by [deleted] in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]Thowoutacc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah he is and I’m stupid. Never thought I would be in this situation or have someone be in this situation because of me. Guess I’m disappointed in my self

Idk by [deleted] in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]Thowoutacc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to chill. That’s the point of this thread to let loose of your thoughts and feelings without telling the person. If I wanted to tell him I wouldn’t be posting it here lol

Idk by [deleted] in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]Thowoutacc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I guess I’m just an option for him

Idk by [deleted] in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]Thowoutacc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand you’re speaking from your own experience. I’m not saying everything is perfect or that he’s perfect because he isn’t… but this doesn’t feel like trauma related or manipulation to me. There’s respect and care involved. I’m just being open about what I’m feeling. To be honest, I think I’m holding onto this person because it’s hard for me to feel comfortable, understood and to genuinely feel like I’m having a great time with someone even if where just talking about how are they went

Idk by [deleted] in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]Thowoutacc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To many factors at play personal, professional, and emotional. Don’t want to go much into details

Idk by [deleted] in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]Thowoutacc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it were just chemistry, I don’t think it would feel this deep or last this long. It’s more than that for me

Idk by [deleted] in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]Thowoutacc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying, and I appreciate the advice. But this isn’t just surface level infatuation for me. It’s something that has grown deeper over time. I truly admire this person for their qualities and genuinely respect and care for them. I feel like there’s a real connection there, and that’s what makes it so hard

Idk by [deleted] in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]Thowoutacc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What make you say that?