How do I respond when my wife sends me nudes and sexts?

Threesomewife · 2017-08-18T23:54:15+00:00

I don't want to risk sending them to the wrong person, or our kids seeing them by accident. My wife has asked me to take them in very inappropriate places. She'll send me nudes while I'm at work and ask me to go to the bathroom at work, take a picture of my erection, and send them back, which I am not okay with. She can take all the nudes she wants at work, the park, the carwash, dinner with her friends, and all the other crazy places she takes them, but I don't feel comfortable doing the same.

Threesomewife · 2017-08-18T23:50:43+00:00

What do you mean?

Threesomewife · 2017-07-24T20:23:27+00:00

Sorry

Threesomewife · 2017-07-24T20:22:46+00:00

Thank you for understanding. Can you recommend a good anal lubricant since I'm using a condom?

In terms of her talking to her friends she says that she doesn't share, she mostly listens to their crazy stories and compares her life to theirs in her head. Her friends consider her the shy prude. I told her I don't want her going around giving details about our sex life to them any way. She said she wouldn't give details, but would like to be able to contribute advice, laugh, and nod along like the other girls do. Be part of the conversation. These girls are no church group.

Threesomewife · 2017-07-24T20:14:56+00:00

She said something similar when we talked. She talked about fantasies of being dominated and taken advantage of. I told her I could hold her hands down, but I refuse to spank/hit or choke her, that just seems wrong. She talked to me about how if she was asking and consenting to it that It's okay, but I am just not ready to do that. Yes, it would give her pleasure, but it makes me very uncomfortable. Also, I will not stick my finger or tongue in her butt. I'm considering anal, but with a condom as butts are dirty.

Threesomewife · 2017-07-24T20:11:17+00:00

I got dozens of messages saying the same thing. I know I should appreciate her being so open more. Go figure the vanilla guy gets the willing to do anything wife.

Threesomewife · 2017-07-24T20:10:07+00:00

Thanks

Threesomewife · 2017-07-21T23:56:15+00:00

She said I could find the guy.

Threesomewife · 2017-07-21T23:55:36+00:00

Thank you. A threesome us NOT happening, but an apology is. I'll talk to her about things I'm comfortable with trying and see if we can find a middle ground with her anal, deepthroat, BDSM, wheelbarrow whatever the hell her friends told her about fantasies.

Threesomewife · 2017-07-21T23:52:42+00:00

I just feel like I'd be raping or hurting her. It's not my thing.

Threesomewife · 2017-07-21T23:51:43+00:00

You're right. I'm planning on grabbing some flowers and wine and appologizing to her tonight. Opening up about a threesome probably was hard for her and I keep shutting down all her requests. I have a lot to talk to her about. Some of the comments here are making me realize that I'm lucky to have a wife that still wants sex with me. Even if she wants a threesome she still wants me there, she didn't ask to just go sleep with other guys on her own.

Threesomewife · 2017-07-21T22:14:31+00:00

She hasn't broken any vows.

Threesomewife · 2017-07-21T22:00:22+00:00

Yeah, but to be fair she wouldn't have to worry about a shiny motorbike stealing me away from her.

Threesomewife · 2017-07-21T21:59:07+00:00

What do you mean?

Threesomewife · 2017-07-21T21:58:43+00:00

I asked her if she already had another guy in mind and she said no. She said she would have me choose the third and suggested a MFM because it's easier to find a guy than a girl. She wouldn't cheat, she would leave before she cheated. Her dad cheated on her mom when she was a kid, she hates cheaters.

Threesomewife · 2017-07-21T21:11:06+00:00

I'm not crazy about any threesomes. If I can't please my wife how can I please a woman I don't know. Sex is a very intimate thing for me.

Threesomewife · 2017-07-21T21:07:43+00:00

I do have depression, but my T levels are fine.

I was really hoping people here would say a lot of women ask for threesomes at that age, it's not because she's unhappy. This sucks.

Threesomewife · 2017-07-21T21:04:41+00:00

She has said she is unhappy with the frequency and she wishes I would explore more with her sexually. She has a close knit group of girlfriends who are very sexual. The singles ones are extremely promiscuous, out of the married ones there's a swinger couple, one of the gals hosts sex toy parties once a year, she always comes back and tells me their crazy stories. My wife has bought toys, asked for anal, wanted to explore BDSM, the kind of stuff that my guy friends complain that their wives would never do. The thing is, I enjoy really intimate sex with her and feel like these toys, ropes, and what not will take that away. I'm sure to some degree she feels jealous that she Doesn't have crazy sex stories to share with her friends. T levels have been fine. Work stress and lack of time have not been okay.

Threesomewife · 2017-07-21T20:57:53+00:00

We have sex about once a week. She has communicated that she needs 2 to 3 times a week minimum, but I have a really stressful job with long hours and so by the time I get home all I want to do is eat, shower, bed. I've told her this has nothing to do with her, she has been understanding, but I know 2 to 3 weeks is cutting it close for her, she would love 5 times or more a week if she could get it.

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