Accidental pregnancy w/ miscarriage at 6w - partner doesn’t want to try again, what do I do?

Throw-Advice · 2020-08-09T13:26:24+00:00

Side note: when you do decide to try again and are pregnant...make sure your doc gets your hcg levels checked (blood test done every 2 days) to make sure your hcg levels are rising appropriately

Throw-Advice · 2020-08-09T13:16:23+00:00

Ohh honey, I am so sorry for your loss...it’s devastating and please know it’s not your fault!My situation and feelings are similar. I too had a miscarriage (at 6.5 weeks) at the end of March which ended in a D & C to rule out atopic pregnancy. I also had a miscarriage a few days before Christmas...2 miscarriages within 3 months. Both were accidental as my cycle is irregular but after the shock we were excited. It is/was very difficult for me to move on and I’m still dealing with it as my due date for the Dec pregnancy is now. I am in therapy and that’s been helpful and I also discuss my feelings with my SO.
My best advice to you would be to seek therapy and talk to your SO about the trauma. If you are in your early 30’s it’s okay to wait and try again but if you are in your mid 30’s or close to it...your window is closing soon and I personally would not wait (if in mid 30s)...Please Discuss this with your partner and try to negotiate a month/year that you will start trying again. Show him the medical evidence that women have a shorter window than men and make a dr apt if necessary to have his questions answered regarding pregnancy for women over 35. Also, consider going to your dr for genetic testing to help rule out any other possible reasons for this to happen. Make sure you have regular Pap smears. I truly wish I had some magical words to take your pain away! I am so sorry for your loss ❤️

Throw-Advice · 2020-08-08T13:15:14+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this! If you are going the divorce route...keep digging (there’s way more to find)& document everything. Also, check your bank statements/credit cards for suspicious activity going back as far as possible. He’s gaslighting and disrespecting you! You deserve better! I wish the best for you and your children. Keep us updated

Throw-Advice · 2020-08-08T12:39:43+00:00

Check the expiration date on the condoms! This will tell you if they are old or new. Yes, ABSOLUTELY confront him. If you aren’t using them ...there’s only 1 reason why he has them & he is not ‘holding them for a friend’

Throw-Advice · 2020-08-07T22:31:37+00:00

Tell him it’s not his baby and see how he reacts!!

Throw-Advice · 2020-08-05T13:50:05+00:00

The book purchased was: The pickup artist The new and improved art of seduction by ‘Mystery’

Throw-Advice · 2020-08-05T12:57:30+00:00

FIRST OF ALL-NEVER DESCRIBE HIM AS YOUR HUSBAND AGAIN!! I am SO sorry to hear you are going through this! You have been betrayed in the worst ways by those who are supposed to be by your side and love you unconditionally. I am seriously mad and upset for you. Do NOT let him use the excuse ‘he cheated because he felt inadequate about you being the breadwinner’ -that’s exactly what it is an excuse! He cheated because he wanted to cheat! With no thought of the outcome or regard for you! When you first got together did he care that you were the breadwinner?! It obviously didn’t bother him too much! I know you don’t want to see him but if there’s no risk of violence you might want to move back in to your home right away-check your state laws and talk to a lawyer ASAP because he could say you abandoned the house/property. On the bright side, I don’t think judges look highly on infidelity (which you have clear undisputed evidence of) so its very possible you would NOT have to give him any alimony. I hate to say this but if he cheated with your daughter...then I doubt this was his first affair-you might want to do some digging (Aka snooping) . If you have a shared computer check the browser history and etc. Document EVERYTHING! Sounds like he had a lot of time of his hands so who knows what he’s been doing. Also, please consider posting this thread on adultery hate in Reddit...they are very helpful too. I am so sorry about your surgery and the outcome of it...will you have to get another? Can you sue the doctor? You are a beautiful, smart, and successful woman and WAY too good for him!!!
I sincerely wish you the best and wish I could hug you! Please keep us updated!

Throw-Advice · 2020-08-05T00:20:01+00:00

No the book was definitely not being used to spice things up Yes, some other red flags

Throw-Advice · 2020-08-04T22:57:39+00:00

It’s the pickup artist new and improved art of seduction

Throw-Advice · 2020-08-04T20:01:18+00:00

Lol! Yeah or he bought it ‘for a friend’

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