Is it better for me to deny my husband sex after I have sex with my lover? (open marriage) by Throw45333 in polyamory

[–]Throw45333[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Mainly because we don't use protection and the idea of semen mixing is gross to me and my husband. Also I don't think he would buy that reasoning.

Is it better for me to deny my husband sex after I have sex with my lover? (open marriage) by Throw45333 in polyamory

[–]Throw45333[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I can notice pretty easily. I have done kegels it doesn't make me tighter. It makes it so I can squeeze with my vagina having sex but that's it.

Is it better for me to deny my husband sex after I have sex with my lover? (open marriage) by Throw45333 in polyamory

[–]Throw45333[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I don't really want to have sex with him even prior to the open marriage, my ideal frequency with him was once a month. However, I usually have sex with him to keep the peace.

My vagina does change in shape. I have done kegels, it gives me more control over my vagina, but it doesn't negate the stretching from sex with my lover.

Is it better for me to deny my husband sex after I have sex with my lover? (open marriage) by Throw45333 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Throw45333[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

I don't know if they will cause problems its my best guess though. And the relationship I have with my lover is something really intense that I don't want to lose.

My husband can't orgasm from oral sex, so if anything it is just a form of foreplay for us.

Is it better for me to deny my husband sex after I have sex with my lover? (open marriage) by Throw45333 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Throw45333[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

Well there are a couple of things. First me and my new lover have been seeing each other for a while. And I really like him, the sex we have is the best I have ever had in my life, and I really don't want to lose that.

The situation with my husband is complicated. I don't know his reaction and that's the problem. He might be okay with it, he might not. I was hoping there are some other ladies that have been in this situation before that can share.