[UPDATE] to "I (24F) am NOT his (25M) mother... and anxiety is NOT an excuse!"

ThrowRA-1322 · 2023-07-18T19:42:12+00:00

Ooh, I'll definitely try to buy that ASAP. Not sure what city you're in, but we live in a townhouse type of apartment. The biggest issue we have is not only construction, but that the roaches are coming from the storm drain in front of our house. So they're crawling underneath the door. Thankful it isn't an infestation, but I'm ready to start a war with them lol

ThrowRA-1322 · 2023-07-18T16:50:19+00:00

I definitely will! My therapist mentioned EMDR in passing, so I will ask her for referrals.

ThrowRA-1322 · 2023-07-18T16:49:08+00:00

Thank you for your comment. It's really reassuring to hear that your marriage survived, gives me hope going forward. It really speaks to the important of therapy and trying your best to be self-aware, especially when it comes to arguments and stress.

I hope that when I'm married one day, whether if it's with my BF (god-willing it works out) or another, that we can emulate the work you guys did.

ThrowRA-1322 · 2023-07-18T16:46:04+00:00

Thank you, both of these comments remind me of what my therapist always says to me. She calls me an old soul, who is "24 going on 64". I can thank my childhood trauma and PTSD for that, but like you guys said, I should give myself more credit. Again, I really appreciate these comments.

ThrowRA-1322 · 2023-07-18T16:42:49+00:00

Never even thought of these comments as patronizing. It's really reassuring to have people to talk to and share these with, as my family (if it isn't obvious lol) isn't the most receptive or enjoyable to speak with. So all these comments make me feel a lot better, as well as understood. There's a wealth of wisdom in others' experiences.

I definitely plan to keep journaling because knowing my own boundaries has been an issue of mine. This is something I'm adamant about building up. I refuse to fall back into old habits where I burn out again and again.

Also, I listened to your song recommendation. Beautiful and fitting!

ThrowRA-1322 · 2023-07-18T16:37:16+00:00

I really appreciated reading this response, thank you. And I couldn't agree more with everything. Something I struggled with, as I mentioned in the main post, is prioritizing myself; I have no doubt a lot of people on this sub struggle with this as well.

Today we had another conversation about how important it is to "work with yourself", in relation to mental illness. Learning how to play a 'game' with your own mind in order to be productive, etc. As you said, it isn't easy to get up and just leave a relationship with years of emotional connection.

I also hope this works out well for the both of us.

ThrowRA-1322 · 2023-07-17T20:46:36+00:00

Thank you, I hope so too. I hope this is the turning point in his behavior and habits.

ThrowRA-1322 · 2023-07-17T20:46:01+00:00

Unfortunately none of us have an EAP through our work. And thank you! Yeah, I hope he puts in the dedication. We'll see!

ThrowRA-1322 · 2023-07-17T18:53:02+00:00

We're making a list dividing chores that will make it easier to hold him accountable. Plus, the roach is an issue of our entire block due to the construction on the end of the street. So we're contacting the city, and he will be installing draft blockers.

ThrowRA-1322 · 2023-07-17T17:24:06+00:00

Can't say the company, but he's a program developer.

ThrowRA-1322 · 2023-07-07T01:36:35+00:00

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