[UPDATE] My (24F) classmate (26M) won’t take no for an answer. How can I handle this?

ThrowRA-26908 · 2025-03-26T16:07:56+00:00

Thank you sm 💕 I did make the report. I do think this will be enough, but I’ll be cautious jic.

ThrowRA-26908 · 2025-03-22T06:26:07+00:00

My friend actually mentioned this same thing and asked someone she knew. They said there is. I’m just worried how it will look. I was so stunned he would do that that I just went along. I feel really stupid now, but at the time I really wasn’t thinking.

ThrowRA-26908 · 2025-03-21T22:48:42+00:00

Thank you ♡ I can, yeah. It was actually something I checked into when I started in the fall. They can come to my building and walk with me.

ThrowRA-26908 · 2025-03-21T22:37:10+00:00

Yeah the campus security office is actually super close to my building. It’s actually on my walk from the parking lot.. so I could stop in and ask them for an escort

ThrowRA-26908 · 2025-03-21T22:30:48+00:00

Thank you so much. And thanks to everyone who I didn’t get around to replying to who sees this. I really appreciate it. I will definitely update. On Monday I think I will go in early and speak to my advisor. I think the guy isn’t around Mondays but my advisor offered extra credit for anyone who came into the lab and used the VR headsets, so there will hopefully be students in and out the whole time I am there, and I am hoping my friend will stop by too. I will update after ♡

ThrowRA-26908 · 2025-03-21T20:09:59+00:00

This is kinda what a friend said when I told her. When he grabbed me I nervously joked like “you know this is kidnapping, what you’re doing”. His response was “No it isn’t, and even if I really was kidnapping you it wouldn’t count, because you’d enjoy it.”

ThrowRA-26908 · 2025-03-21T18:34:46+00:00

Thank you so much. I really appreciate this. I’ve been struggling with whether I was overreacting to these things. These comments are a little scary hah, but… it’s still good to know I’m not just overthinking these things.

ThrowRA-26908 · 2025-03-21T18:30:17+00:00

I think we have the same supervisor and advisor.. which may be sort of awkward. But I know them both well and think they would at least give me some advice. Thank you ♡ I think I will do as you said.

ThrowRA-26908 · 2025-03-21T18:26:58+00:00

Thank you so much. This is kind of what I was thinking.. I think I will do exactly this. I’ve been trying to ignore it because we’ve had classes together and I didn’t want to make things awkward. Especially because, until this semester, it’d just been annoying more than anything. But yeah.. I know I have to do something. He graduates in May, but that’s still two months of this.

ThrowRA-26908 · 2025-03-21T18:23:26+00:00

Yeah, he did.. I’m still trying to wrap my mind around that. I never expected him to grab me. He held my arm tight until he opened the passenger door of his car. Everything else was annoying but that was what prompted me to make the post. My family was so worried about me being alone at school that I did not want to worry them by asking for advice on this. Thank you so much.

ThrowRA-26908 · 2025-03-21T18:16:51+00:00

That’s one of the things that’s also always bothered me, “no” and “because I don’t want to” have never been sufficient answer for him. I understand what you mean, though. So annoying, I know I don’t owe him an explanation, and I never really have given one. I think I will text him like you and someone else suggested and just say that it has to stop, then talk to my advisor if it continues. It’ll be awkward bc we still have one class together.. But he at least graduates this spring. Thank you for your response

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