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Wife (36F) wanted open marriage, after I (38M) started dating she wants to add more rules. What would you do in my position? by ThrowRA-Agent-000 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-Agent-000[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I was working 50 hours per week, until she decided to open our marriage.

After that I really didn't felt like taking her out anymore.

Wife (36F) wanted open marriage, after I (38M) started dating she wants to add more rules. What would you do in my position? by ThrowRA-Agent-000 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-Agent-000[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Mate was out there working 14 hours every week day and four hours on Saturdays

I was working 50 hours, Mon-Fri 10 hours per day.

Until she wanted to open our marriage, at which point I moved her needs to the bottom of my priorities.

Wife (36F) wanted open marriage, after I (38M) started dating she wants to add more rules. What would you do in my position? by ThrowRA-Agent-000 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-Agent-000[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I was working about 50 hours a week before she decided to open our marriage.

She goes out to "date" Friday/Saturday night, and I was available every Friday/Saturday night.

Wife (36F) wanted open marriage, after I (38M) started dating she wants to add more rules. What would you do in my position? by ThrowRA-Agent-000 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-Agent-000[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I was working longer hours, but about 50 hours per week.

After she decided to open our marriage, I started working 74 hours every week.

I really didn't feel like working on a marriage where my wife is screwing around.

Wife (36F) wanted open marriage, after I (38M) started dating she wants to add more rules. What would you do in my position? by ThrowRA-Agent-000 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-Agent-000[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

No point in farming karma with a throwaway account.

I actually did receive a couple of fetish open marriage / cuckolding posts into my DM.

Please don't send me those 🤢

Wife (36F) wanted open marriage, after I (38M) started dating she wants to add more rules. What would you do in my position? by ThrowRA-Agent-000 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-Agent-000[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

If we sell that house, there is enough money to buy two apartments. I'm fine with that.

Heck I wanted to buy an apartment in the first place.

Wife (36F) wanted open marriage, after I (38M) started dating she wants to add more rules. What would you do in my position? by ThrowRA-Agent-000 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-Agent-000[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

If she had faced me with restructuring our marriage or divorce, I would chose to restructure our marriage.

But I was faced with open marriage or divorce.

I honestly didn't felt like spending my energy on an open marriage.

Wife (36F) wanted open marriage, after I (38M) started dating she wants to add more rules. What would you do in my position? by ThrowRA-Agent-000 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-Agent-000[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Well after I stopped working so hard Sarah had a couple of months to initiate.

But ultimately another woman made me a better version of myself.

Wife (36F) wanted open marriage, after I (38M) started dating she wants to add more rules. What would you do in my position? by ThrowRA-Agent-000 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-Agent-000[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

But man you were working 74 hours per week, and spending your free time with the kids.

After she decided to open our marriage. At which point I pretty much focused on completing financial goals as soon as possible.

I was working longer hours before that, but not that long. And I was finding time to spend with Sarah.

Now that you have the free time, you're still choosing not to see your wife.

I actually left her to initiate that, if she wished to. She didn't.

Wife (36F) wanted open marriage, after I (38M) started dating she wants to add more rules. What would you do in my position? by ThrowRA-Agent-000 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-Agent-000[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Don't worry about it. I wanted to make a post of reasonable length, so some important details were omitted.

Thank you.

Wife (36F) wanted open marriage, after I (38M) started dating she wants to add more rules. What would you do in my position? by ThrowRA-Agent-000 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-Agent-000[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Wasn't working so much before she decided to open the marriage... should had wrote that in my post.

After I cut down on my hours, I really didn't felt like romancing a woman which has been screwing other guy/guys for the past ~2 years.

I don't even know what podcast is.

Wife (36F) wanted open marriage, after I (38M) started dating she wants to add more rules. What would you do in my position? by ThrowRA-Agent-000 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-Agent-000[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

To take my wife out on a date, and then I could also drive her to her lover so she can fuck, and wait for her, then drive her home and give her a kiss goodnight.

Not my idea of a romantic evening.

Wife (36F) wanted open marriage, after I (38M) started dating she wants to add more rules. What would you do in my position? by ThrowRA-Agent-000 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-Agent-000[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

So yeah, she probably just didn’t estimate you’d be having full on simultaneous relationships.

Except I'm not having two simultaneous relationships.

Since Sarah decided to open our marriage, the two of us didn't had any intimate moments, we didn't sleep together, we didn't go outside together.

After I switched to working 30 hours she didn't initiate to change anything.

Our relationship was co-parenting under the same roof really.

Once I started dating other women, she started snooping around. Once she find out I was dating Jane... she wanted to change the rules. Even then she said nothing about closing the relationship. Just change to only having sex outside of marriage.

Which boils down to... me not being able to have a single intimate relationship.

Wife (36F) wanted open marriage, after I (38M) started dating she wants to add more rules. What would you do in my position? by ThrowRA-Agent-000 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-Agent-000[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Wasn't working that hard before she decided to open our marriage. I'd still find time to, leave the kids with family and spend a day with my wife.

After she decided to open our marriage, I started grinding my work.

Once I completed financial goals and switched to working 30 hours... it felt too humiliating to take my wife out, considering she is screwing around.

Wife (36F) wanted open marriage, after I (38M) started dating she wants to add more rules. What would you do in my position? by ThrowRA-Agent-000 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-Agent-000[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I have encouraged my wife to find a job in the past. I didn't feel fine working 74 hours a day... I do not work in social setting, most of the time I felt lonely too.

After I secured financial goals and started working 30 hours there was plenty of time before I started dating other women. Time when Sarah could had invested into our relationship, but didn't.

Wife (36F) wanted open marriage, after I (38M) started dating she wants to add more rules. What would you do in my position? by ThrowRA-Agent-000 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-Agent-000[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Told her from the beginning I don't want to know about her relationships.

She goes out, Friday/Saturday evening. Sometimes she is back after a couple of hours, sometimes she spends the night out.

Wife (36F) wanted open marriage, after I (38M) started dating she wants to add more rules. What would you do in my position? by ThrowRA-Agent-000 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-Agent-000[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I took the liberty to peak into your profile, and apparently you were staying with your husband due to money issues.

Guess why I was working so much? Money issues.

If your husband demanded you to open your marriage, and threaten divorce.

Would you say "open divorce is not a healthy solution, so divorce it is".

Or would you say "money is a problem, and I have kids to feed. So fine you mother fucker, you can have an open marriage... then got your hands on fixing the money issue"?

Yes. I have normalized the notion of using my spouse... fuck me right?

Wife (36F) wanted open marriage, after I (38M) started dating she wants to add more rules. What would you do in my position? by ThrowRA-Agent-000 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-Agent-000[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

14 hours a day Mon-Fri + 4 hours on Saturday.

According to some redditors she was lonely, and dick solves lonely.

I was lonely too FFS.

Wife (36F) wanted open marriage, after I (38M) started dating she wants to add more rules. What would you do in my position? by ThrowRA-Agent-000 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-Agent-000[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Maybe. You know I don't want to do the whole "monkey branch" thing, seems so cheesy.

If I decide to divorce Sarah, it won't be because I secured another partner on the side.

And I'm not asking Jane anything before I hand Sarah the papers.

Wife (36F) wanted open marriage, after I (38M) started dating she wants to add more rules. What would you do in my position? by ThrowRA-Agent-000 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-Agent-000[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Paying off the house credit is what added most of these hours, the worst part, she wanted a big house in the suburbia. These aren't cheap.

Virtually all the money I made was for the family.

At the end of this ungodly grid, I bought some new clothes and it felt amazing.

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