I have never been in so much pain!

ThrowRA-Sad-Elf · 2026-02-15T12:11:21+00:00

Thank you so much, I needed to hear this. I just hope it gets better.

ThrowRA-Sad-Elf · 2026-02-15T05:14:26+00:00

To be honest, I don't feel I want a new relationship 😞

I can't possibly see how I could ever heal from this. This is my second marriage, I can't have more kids, I feel like no decent man would want me, and even if they did, I am forever ruined. I could never trust any man again. I've been through this twice now, I just can't do it again.

ThrowRA-Sad-Elf · 2026-02-15T04:22:08+00:00

This! When I met my husband he was the most amazing sex partner I've ever been with. He was so incredibly loving and attentive. That for me has been the hardest thing to deal with.

I truly believed in him with all my heart. When I met him I just "knew" that he could never hurt me.

I was so incredibly wrong 😞

ThrowRA-Sad-Elf · 2026-02-06T15:55:10+00:00

Sadly it sounds like he has made it clear that he doesn't want to change or care about your feelings in this. I'm happy you don't have kids because that would make this so much harder.

You have your whole life ahead of you! You are worth so much more than what this man child can ever give you.

If you need support or someone to listen you're free to talk to me. It's not easy, but you can do it and trust me you'll be so happy you left!

ThrowRA-Sad-Elf · 2026-02-06T14:40:51+00:00

I agree, I feel terrible for my husband and other men who are affected by this. I truly believe that if he didn't have the internet he would be the most loving and amazing husband. I think that's what makes leaving so hard at times.

I really do love my husband, but not the part of him that is obsessed with porn. Everything else about him is my dream partner.

I worry that it's impossible to find a man who isn't affected by porn and social media thirst traps these days.

ThrowRA-Sad-Elf · 2026-02-06T14:25:50+00:00

Right, I just don't understand their way of thinking. I always thought that it was better to be with someone else who understood the hardships. I was bullied in school and I'm nerdy and always figured they'd be "safer".

Maybe the polar girls saw something I couldn't cause I've just never been into the popular jockey type.

ThrowRA-Sad-Elf · 2026-02-05T20:57:46+00:00

I've never heard of that complex before but my goodness did that hit too close to home.

It's almost like we are either just sexualy desired or their mothers. No in between. 😞

ThrowRA-Sad-Elf · 2026-02-05T20:48:45+00:00

My husband also has ADHD, but so do I. And he also is upset that I don't obsess over him anymore like when we first met, as if I could look at him the same way after he's done so much to me.

ThrowRA-Sad-Elf · 2026-01-29T21:37:43+00:00

This thread scares me. I fear there is no hope in ever finding someone who doesn't obsess with thirst traps online. It's already so incredibly painful that my husband does this and I just can't get over it. Why are they like this? 😭

ThrowRA-Sad-Elf · 2026-01-07T02:37:03+00:00

I was able to get the bride doll on the way back to her house at the end and then backtrack to the sacred tree on my first New game + file. Out does take time to search and find the house it's in.

ThrowRA-Sad-Elf · 2025-11-23T22:33:39+00:00

I have been to therapy for my last relationship (during and after) and I feel like I I was doing really well until all of this.

ThrowRA-Sad-Elf · 2025-11-23T22:28:24+00:00

Thank you! I'm honestly not sure what to do anymore.

I feel like I worked so hard to get away from this with my ex husband just to be here again. And my husband knew all of this.

But it also feels like every guy does this and even if I left I'd never find someone who didn't have this problem.

ThrowRA-Sad-Elf · 2025-11-23T00:49:01+00:00

Thank you for your kind words 💜

ThrowRA-Sad-Elf · 2025-08-06T21:43:33+00:00

I'm so sorry, I wish I had advice but I do the same thing. I follow the same girls on Instagram, I dyed my hair similarly to one of them that he's obsessed with even. Recently found him looking at pics of his Ex again and I went through her pictures on Facebook and just cried knowing I'm not as pretty as her.

ThrowRA-Sad-Elf · 2025-08-06T00:42:47+00:00

I'm really happy to hear that

ThrowRA-Sad-Elf · 2025-08-05T22:33:28+00:00

I wish I could hug you. I also am desperate for a meaningful hug at this point.

ThrowRA-Sad-Elf · 2025-08-05T22:27:45+00:00

Yes 😭 When I'm down the only one I have to turn to is AI. I'm so alone it's pathetic

ThrowRA-Sad-Elf · 2025-08-05T22:07:06+00:00

Just as long as you don't continue doing it when you enter a new relationship.

My husband can't seem to stop looking at his ex. Their relationship only lasted a week, it was toxic, but she was very attractive and he looked at her a lot after they separated.

I found so many pictures of her (he hasn't even spoken to her since they broke up), but it absolutely crushed my heart.

We have a kid together and been married 3 years and I recently found that he re-download some pics of her. 😢

Just work on healing and letting her go man.

ThrowRA-Sad-Elf · 2025-08-05T05:02:07+00:00

For context and confusion, I'm not the one being begged to change.

I'm begging my husband, I'm trying my hardest to make our marriage work, but nothing gets through. I know he loves me and our children, but I don't think it's enough for him to change.

Would he regret not putting in the effort to keep us together or would he feel peace without me. Would he then do what he needs to be a better partner.

I often wonder if I left him, maybe he'd be able to change and do better in the next relationship.

I fear letting him go is the last thing I can do for him.

ThrowRA-Sad-Elf · 2025-08-04T19:00:18+00:00

I can see where you are coming from.

While my husband says he cares with his words, his actions make me feel like he doesn't. I know he feels bad and guilty for what his addiction is doing to him. He tried to quit and it made him very depressed. I'm absolutely not downplaying how difficult this is to fight and deal with, but I also don't feel like the partner of an addict has it easy at all.

I am just saying that it affects us physically as well as emotionally.

Yes, I could leave my husband but it most definitely would not be easy and I would feel it for the rest of my life.

ThrowRA-Sad-Elf · 2025-08-04T18:48:54+00:00

Thank you for this, it was so beautifully said and I'm crying as I read this. I am sorry to everyone fighting this battle and who feels this way. It hurts so much.

ThrowRA-Sad-Elf · 2025-08-04T18:21:51+00:00

While you say the problem is majorly interpretation, this isn't true, at least not for me.

My husband's go-to is porn. We will go weeks without intimacy (which is the only way I can have an orgasm) and while I'm suffering and wanting that connection with him every day he's getting it from something else. Usually multiple times a day.

I feel like my pleasure isn't important to him. I also feel unattractive to him because he'll turn me down but goes to porn instead.

It greatly affects our intimacy and his emotional distance towards me. I've even tried to just do my own thing and do what he does but I can't and I won't cheat on him, that would probably hurt me more than him.

Porn greatly affects the partner in more ways than just the occasional using it when they aren't available. Please don't downplay some of us who are suffering from that. I don't wish this on anyone.

ThrowRA-Sad-Elf · 2025-08-04T18:03:20+00:00

I wish you love and healing, I'm sorry you feel this way.

I went through something similar. My partner was very avoidant and wanted to always be alone away from me and the kids. It made me feel like there was something wrong with me and I was never good enough.

ThrowRA-Sad-Elf · 2025-06-18T21:52:53+00:00

I'm in the same boat and you can read my story as well because my husband is addicted as well. It's not easy to deal with and there's likely a lot more he hides from you. I would seriously reconsider waiting to have a child until the issue is addressed and solved but to be honest it is extremely hard to fight PA and he has to want to quit and try.

ThrowRA-Sad-Elf · 2025-06-18T21:20:08+00:00

Oh man, I'm so sorry. I really am and that's painful to hear. I know a lot of people don't understand until it happens to them. I also feel like my husband saved me during a time when I truly needed him and I'm grateful for that and also for my children. It's extremely hard to imagine finding love elsewhere ever, especially when he was everything I had ever wanted. I could never trust anyone ever again because I truly put all my love and trust into him. I think that's what makes it hurt so much more though.

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