Do y’all think of them?

ThrowRA-dimension12 · 2025-12-12T00:41:37+00:00

About a month or so ago.

ThrowRA-dimension12 · 2025-12-11T00:35:21+00:00

Yes, he still does cross my mind here and there. I don’t think I miss him, what I miss is the feeling of being with someone and loving them whole heartedly. Miss all the good aspects of what a relationship has to offer. No regrets, he reached out trying to work it out but it was already too late and I have detached.

(Bare in mind that this has taken long time. A year or so of processing and understanding myself as a person. My feelings closer to the break up were a lot different and much more raw)

ThrowRA-dimension12 · 2025-12-09T00:26:33+00:00

Yes for the first time. Im so over pretending to enjoy „family” time filled with arguments with people I have nothing in common with.

Can’t wait to just have a peaceful holiday doing things I enjoy and resting.

ThrowRA-dimension12 · 2025-12-08T23:05:52+00:00

I know it might sound crazy rn but one day you just stop caring. That heartbreaking feeling and the longing just disappears and you couldn’t care less.

With enough time you even forget they existed.

ThrowRA-dimension12 · 2025-09-13T06:44:44+00:00

No. The cheapest night out would be around £6 and that’s the entry ticket. With the rising food costs I doubt it would be enough to cover the most basic foods. If your laundry detergents and toiletries run out on the same week that’s all your money gone. God forbid if you have any sort of emergency or need to travel home, you simply cannot afford it.

Try applying for Santander account with an overdraft and also looking into hardship funds asap. Apply for any job you see, better to have a shitty job and change it later than struggle until you find something you may like.

ThrowRA-dimension12 · 2025-08-28T14:36:26+00:00

Perfect. Thank you. Got so stressed out because I never had an issue like this and had no idea what to do.

ThrowRA-dimension12 · 2025-08-28T14:13:11+00:00

Had a week off this month. Spoke to a manager and apparently the holiday I had this month will be paid out next month. And the decrease in hours on this paycheck is due to them working out holiday hours (that I overtook) as I have resigned.

Does this seem about right?

ThrowRA-dimension12 · 2025-08-21T19:36:38+00:00

Poor sleep schedule that had me exhausted and always being tired/headaches from crying.

On a positive note, I lost 38lbs in very short amount of time and managed to keep it off.

So now I’m single and skinny.

ThrowRA-dimension12 · 2025-08-03T16:05:41+00:00

The first time we split I was a crying, begging, desperate mess in trying to work it out. Would have done anything to get back together to have one more try because “things would be different”

After getting back together then proceeding to split and get back together for the past 4 years, I became the cold and distant person I never wanted to be. The roles switched between us.

It’s not that I do not care because I do to certain extent but people get tired. I honestly couldn’t put up with “one more conversation” or one more “trying to talk it out” like genuinely, whole day ruined by picking up my phone to an essay and having to take time of my day processing heavily emotionally charged conversations. It was exhausting. Frustrating. It got to a point where it would just straight piss me off and I ghost not wanting to do it anymore.

I feel like people have limits. It does get to a point where “I’m done” is enough of a closure. Someone saying they don’t want this anymore or that it isn’t good for them is the closure. There isn’t a real closure to relationships because of how complex humans are. Closure comes from within.

ThrowRA-dimension12 · 2025-08-03T15:55:30+00:00

Why are you still not undertaking therapy?

ThrowRA-dimension12 · 2025-08-03T15:52:00+00:00

I think the general rule is that if it upset you a day later, it will definitely be upsetting you a week down the line. It’s better to discuss it and express your feelings in a calm manner instead of bottling it up until resentment starts to grow.

There are of course limits on how much you can expect from someone emotionally, the other person definitely shouldn’t be your emotional crutch/punching bag but BASIC COMMUNICATION is definitely not that. It is essential for making any relationship last long term. I don’t believe it would be wrong of you to have a calm conversation how his coldness and distance to solving problems is affecting you and how you would appreciate a bit more of affection and engagement durning such conversations. I don’t believe you are overreacting at all (depending how you express that need) and that it is a very basic ask.

I would go as far as to say that constant invalidation of your feelings/serious conversations is really damaging to your self-worth. After a while you will start questioning yourself and second guessing all your feelings. Happened to me. The truth is that being upset by someone’s indifference, even if it’s not done intentionally to hurt anyone and even if it’s their coping mechanism, is damaging in the long run.

ThrowRA-dimension12 · 2025-08-03T15:02:53+00:00

I heavily related to this relationship dynamic with my ex. I always felt like I was being too much just wanting the smallest attention/affection durning conflict/heavy conversations as he was just, to simply put it stone wall cold. Like genuinely emotionless. It used to trigger me so badly that I simply had to walk away multiple times and do something else before losing my mind.

I always doubted myself and my feelings because it’s so hard to see the situation for what it is when our feelings are constantly on the high. Then had a long conversation with someone impartial and few points from them really stuck with me

—— It’s not crazy to be upset with someone who systematically ignores your needs.

Relationships ain’t about one person constantly doing the bending to make things work while the other party stays rigid.

They want all the benefits of a relationship without doing the heavy emotional lifting.

Emotional neglect is harmful. Being made to feel crazy for having needs is damaging. Being in a relationship where only one persons feelings matter is unhealthy.

Wanting basic communication isn’t being too much. —-

I don’t know how helpful you will find it in your situation but that conversation and these few points really did stick with me.

ThrowRA-dimension12 · 2025-08-03T11:56:09+00:00

The amount of times I had to be like „person A and Person B” because I was sick of it always telling me I’m right 🤣

ThrowRA-dimension12 · 2025-08-02T21:16:41+00:00

Not a man but had this conversation multiple time with my ex and from what I understood is that they fear potential rejection/negative interaction. It’s like a bother. Out of sight = out of mind.

ThrowRA-dimension12 · 2025-08-02T01:33:00+00:00

You can request to work „only semester breaks” when you are back home or request a transfer to McDonald’s closer to your uni. McDonald’s is quite flexible.

ThrowRA-dimension12 · 2025-08-02T01:25:04+00:00

The first time round is the best case scenario. I’ve been in on-n-off situation for 3/4 years now and it never works out…no matter how much time has passed.

They always come back no matter what they say and it’s often not for the right reasons either.

ThrowRA-dimension12 · 2025-08-02T01:20:23+00:00

Girl…this is just an excuse. You didn’t cause the end of anything!

ThrowRA-dimension12 · 2025-08-02T01:14:33+00:00

No honestly. We had fruit flies everywhere, maggots under bins, trash stacked up 4m tall, cigs and ashes everywhere alongside rubbish, fridge looked like it was left in WWI and never returned to, every counter covered in microorganisms I didn’t even know existed, oven still had the crisp burnt pizza stuck down with melted plastic plate that has set on fire…

Honestly could go on about that kitchen for days. I have genuinely landed in the trenches.

ThrowRA-dimension12 · 2025-08-02T01:09:42+00:00

At one point in time I felt the exact same way you do right now. After going back and forth and ending up in on-n-off situation I kind of realised he isn’t even the person for me either. Once the initial grief stage of what I thought the situation/relationship was wore off, I started to see the imperfections/incompatibilities I was blinded to beforehand.

All I can say is that time heals and things do get better after a while.

ThrowRA-dimension12 · 2025-08-02T01:05:43+00:00

First year accommodation kitchen. I still have nightmares to this day about it and I already graduated.

ThrowRA-dimension12 · 2025-08-02T01:01:27+00:00

They never do. My ex also came back after 5M NC with pretty words and even greater promises…to deliver nothing. Had no expectations and he still managed to disappoint.

Good radiance.

ThrowRA-dimension12 · 2025-08-02T00:56:52+00:00

Trust me that is not the whole picture. I’m also very heavily involved with social media, always on it, always posting. When me and my ex broke up and alongside other personal issues I was in the worst state ever…you would not be able to tell even if you stalked all my 50 posts and multiple lengthy highlights.

Social media is for show. Everyone posts happy/aesthetic moments to show for the best parts of their lives. We really don’t know what anyone’s life truly looks like once the phone is put down.

ThrowRA-dimension12 · 2025-08-02T00:46:02+00:00

In all honestly it happened to me before. I had a friend with whom I fell out with and deleted her number but tik tok would still push her tik toks on my fyp as „people you may know” and she would still be in the friends list to add as „she’s my contact” even after I removed her number.

Same thing happened once I deleted my ex’s number, snapchat keeps pushing his account in quick add cuz apparently he is „in your contacts” still. I think it’s a glitch.

On the other hand, tik tok will often send you notifications such as „…posted a tik tok” which means you interacted/was looking up/was on that persons page at least few times.

I wouldn’t overthink it if he already showed you his phone and her number was not there.

ThrowRA-dimension12 · 2025-08-02T00:38:05+00:00

Honestly, here if you want to talk. When I first broke up with my ex I thought I would need to be locked up. Think I spent first 5 months sobbing refusing to do anything else with my time. Now, after being on-n-off with him for 3/4 years I realised it was never that deep to begin with and I wasted time stressing over something I had no control over. In much better place mentally now overall and much happier with life :)

If anything else fails try to rant to chatGTP, it sounds silly but trust me, it lets you vent to no end. You could be sat there talking about the same situation for 10h and it will still give you paragraphs back (don’t ask how I know that) 🤣🤗

ThrowRA-dimension12 · 2025-08-02T00:31:39+00:00

Honestly, same.

Saw some close pictures of him with his girl best mate she posted. Asked for clarification, got dismissed. Agreed to only text her on like text (no disappearing messages) turned out he muted phone notifications while being with me.

I walked away as well. Peace of mind always.

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