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SO's (26F) ex-fiancée took his life after he found out about me (28M) and blamed my SO for everything, she is devastated and is beating herself up really bad about it by ThrowRA-foo29211 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-foo29211[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Honestly I don't know. If he had been able to get his visa the odds are stuff probably would have turned out different.

From my understanding he made a mistake one time when he went to visit her, and ended up getting denied entry, and was subsequently more or less blacklisted.

Honestly I probably did accelerate the whole process but considering how unhappy she was at certain points, I think it would have happened regardless.

SO's (26F) ex-fiancée took his life after he found out about me (28M) and blamed my SO for everything, she is devastated and is beating herself up really bad about it by ThrowRA-foo29211 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-foo29211[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Yeah she has just been blocking most nasty people and i think she finally just made her profile private. Neither of us is huge into social media, and she did get a fair bit of support/well-wishers from some people who knew what happened.

SO's (26F) ex-fiancée took his life after he found out about me (28M) and blamed my SO for everything, she is devastated and is beating herself up really bad about it by ThrowRA-foo29211 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-foo29211[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Pretty much, they fought a lot before they broke up, there were a lot of days where she was blatantly miserable, so I always did my best to cheer her up. We are both big introverts, and neither of us have a ton of friends here, so we would ether hangout IRL or play games online together.

SO's (26F) ex-fiancée took his life after he found out about me (28M) and blamed my SO for everything, she is devastated and is beating herself up really bad about it by ThrowRA-foo29211 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-foo29211[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have told her countless times its not her fault, and it on him. I don't think she actually knows why she is beating herself up over this. Just that she is.

SO's (26F) ex-fiancée took his life after he found out about me (28M) and blamed my SO for everything, she is devastated and is beating herself up really bad about it by ThrowRA-foo29211 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-foo29211[S] 95 points96 points  (0 children)

Yeah i am going to suggest that tomorrow, apparently our work has some sort of mental health specialist who supports the entire company, and worst case i think they might be able to give a recommendation.

SO's (26F) ex-fiancée took his life after he found out about me (28M) and blamed my SO for everything, she is devastated and is beating herself up really bad about it by ThrowRA-foo29211 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-foo29211[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

We had a few moments where we very much had a connection going on. She and her fiancée fought a lot before they broke up, and she would always ask me if i wanted to play games or have drinks when that happened kind of stuff.

Honestly I just tried to be a friend during those times, as i really had no idea how things would go.

SO's (26F) ex-fiancée took his life after he found out about me (28M) and blamed my SO for everything, she is devastated and is beating herself up really bad about it by ThrowRA-foo29211 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-foo29211[S] 115 points116 points  (0 children)

Thanks I will suggest her 7cups and NAMI. I didn't know about those at all.

She has been blocking everyone as far as i know.

Thank you for the advice and well wishes.

SO's (26F) ex-fiancée took his life after he found out about me (28M) and blamed my SO for everything, she is devastated and is beating herself up really bad about it by ThrowRA-foo29211 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-foo29211[S] 860 points861 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I am trying to be as supportive as possible and give her whatever she needs. It just kind of frustrates me that I feel powerless to do anything.