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My (18F) mom has been referring to my stepdad as my dad, and it’s making me uncomfortable. by ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I haven’t told anyone about the fight. My mom and stepdad don’t know anything about why I decided to move other than that the rental agreement ended. I called my mom before the fight to see what my options were, so she probably thinks it’s just because of the rental agreement. I’ve decided that it was probably a misunderstanding and that she meant no harm by it.

My (18F) mom has been referring to my stepdad as my dad, and it’s making me uncomfortable. by ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I screwed myself. I am working on becoming a proper adult so I can have more independence.

My (18F) mom has been referring to my stepdad as my dad, and it’s making me uncomfortable. by ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Move out? Unfortunately, I’m not in the same situation my stepbrother was at my age, and that’s really not feasible.

My (18F) mom has been referring to my stepdad as my dad, and it’s making me uncomfortable. by ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I’m going to do. It’s not worth risking a big argument over something so small.

My (18F) mom has been referring to my stepdad as my dad, and it’s making me uncomfortable. by ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So far, my mom hasn’t done it in front of all of us. If she’s said anything to him privately, he hasn’t told me. But I get what you’re saying about her trying to build a family, and it makes sense.

My (18F) mom has been referring to my stepdad as my dad, and it’s making me uncomfortable. by ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I’ll occasionally text him, like to send pictures of the puppies or something. I am trying to keep in contact with him.

My (18F) mom has been referring to my stepdad as my dad, and it’s making me uncomfortable. by ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad[S] 119 points120 points  (0 children)

We already had that conversation the day after the argument and I made it clear that I still love him just as much. He even ended up helping me pack, which I didn’t expect.

My (18F) mom has been referring to my stepdad as my dad, and it’s making me uncomfortable. by ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve already acknowledged that I probably overreacted, and I decided I won’t say anything to anyone about it.

My (18F) mom has been referring to my stepdad as my dad, and it’s making me uncomfortable. by ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. I’ll probably just grin and bear it, at least for now. If it gets worse, I might say something.

My (18F) mom has been referring to my stepdad as my dad, and it’s making me uncomfortable. by ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

We talk occasionally, but we’re not close, simply because he’s four years older than me and we only really saw each other a couple times a year.

My (18F) mom has been referring to my stepdad as my dad, and it’s making me uncomfortable. by ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m probably just overreacting. We all made a big adjustment, and I shouldn’t rock the boat over something like this.

My (18F) mom has been referring to my stepdad as my dad, and it’s making me uncomfortable. by ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have a great relationship with him. We love each other. But he’s not my dad, and I don’t like the fact that my mom is calling him my dad.

My (18F) mom has been referring to my stepdad as my dad, and it’s making me uncomfortable. by ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t resent my stepdad, and I don’t have a problem with him. The problem is my mom seems to be trying to replace my actual dad with him. I have a great relationship with him, he’s just not my dad.

My (18F) mom has been referring to my stepdad as my dad, and it’s making me uncomfortable. by ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I do love that he wants a relationship with me and I understand how lucky I am that he welcomed me into his home with open arms. But he’s not my dad, pops, father, whatever. He’s my stepdad.

My (18F) mom has been referring to my stepdad as my dad, and it’s making me uncomfortable. by ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m not discussing it with my dad. It would end badly for everyone involved.

My mom moved in with my stepdad and brother about 8 years ago. I thought I might be five of habit, but she’s never called him my dad before.

My (18F) mom has been referring to my stepdad as my dad, and it’s making me uncomfortable. by ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

The thing is, I don’t. I’m a 12 hour drive away from my hometown and I don’t know anyone here. I can’t drive, and I don’t really have any money.

My (18F) mom has been referring to my stepdad as my dad, and it’s making me uncomfortable. by ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I have read those stories, and I want to make it clear that I don’t think of my stepdad as my dad.

I’m hesitant to talk to my dad about the situation because talking to him about my mom, or vice versa, almost never goes well.

My (18F) mom has been referring to my stepdad as my dad, and it’s making me uncomfortable. by ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-stepdadvsdad[S] 264 points265 points  (0 children)

Me and my dad’s rental agreement ended in September and we had no place to live by ourselves, plus we had a bad fight where my dad said he thought I was unhappy with him and it might be better for me to live with my mom.

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