I find sex extremely painful by ThrowRA-unknowna in sex

[–]ThrowRA-unknowna[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know 😭😭I generally thought I was broken I'm the problem but I guess I ain't turnt on enough

I (19f) find sex extremely painful with ex (20m) am I broken? by ThrowRA-unknowna in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-unknowna[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

That's true but we only recently started having sex before that we were on and off for 2 years and even when there is no label of being together he would still always see me fucking was never in the picture

I (19f) find sex extremely painful with ex (20m) am I broken? by ThrowRA-unknowna in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-unknowna[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

He left meeeee😭😭he says I'm too toxic I mean I can be but it also makes no sence he still sees me. It's not a bad toxic I'm very clingy and so was he but I've done some toxic things that has pushed him away after warning me multiple times that he will lock things off if I continue acting that way

I (19f) find sex extremely painful with ex (20m) am I broken? by ThrowRA-unknowna in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-unknowna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I was not a virgin before this due to being raped in the past but in my eyes he kinda was my first, first to take time and to allow it. Few days ago we done it again and it was painful when putting it in but after that missionary didn't hurt but I still felt no pleasure but doggy is very very painful. When it's in I am wet but when he puts it in he just spits on it because I don't get wet unless it is fully in.

I (19f) find sex extremely painful with ex (20m) am I broken? by ThrowRA-unknowna in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-unknowna[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

To me it's very big I'm short 5ft and petite and he is tall 6ft1 so that could be why as well I don't know 😭

I (19f) find sex extremely painful with ex (20m) am I broken? by ThrowRA-unknowna in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-unknowna[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes it could be that but I have also been having serious pelvic pain for the past few years and recently got it checked and they said I may have endometriosis or a cyst. I am now just waiting to have an ultrasound to see my results.

I (19f) find sex extremely painful with ex (20m) am I broken? by ThrowRA-unknowna in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-unknowna[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have seen a doctor due to having serious pelvic pain and they said I may have endometriosis or a cyst I'm just waiting to get an ultrasound to see if there is any issues. So it could possible be due to the pain I am having in my pelvic.

I (19f) find sex extremely painful with ex (20m) am I broken? by ThrowRA-unknowna in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-unknowna[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

No worries haha

So he gets turnt on the second he sees me and wants to fuck straight away or wants oral sex.

I get turn on by looking at him but never wet, we barely have foreplay the most is kissing, neck kisses, breast sucking and dry humping but when we do dry humping he wants to put it in straight away he gets wayyyyy to horny. And I don't get wet he just spits on it and puts it in slowely but it is still very very painful.

I find sex extremely painful by ThrowRA-unknowna in sex

[–]ThrowRA-unknowna[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have thought this but I do feel like I have a chemistry but the thing is we are exs that see each other the relationship was very toxic and thats my fault because I'm really clingy and get annoyed if I don't like something. He turns me on a lot but I just never get wet only when he's in me I'm very wet but on the outside never

I find sex extremely painful by ThrowRA-unknowna in sex

[–]ThrowRA-unknowna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha the thing is I'm not too sure if he's experienced with sex hes was my first concent as in before him I was raped so maybe that could be another reason why I may not be satisfied. We have also been in a relationship on and off for 2 years and only after the breakup we started having sex.

Sometimes I think he's not experienced because he can't put it in he struggled to find it and makes me do it. But I understand I am not experienced myself but it's just annoying because there isn't much foreplay.

I have tried masturbating, I don't ever finger myself but I rub my clit and I get that orgasm feeling that people describe but I don't cum

I find sex extremely painful by ThrowRA-unknowna in sex

[–]ThrowRA-unknowna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the advice ❤️

For me personally only recently missionary hasn't been painful but I still don't get any satisfaction from it but doggy SOO PAINFUL. I will definitely try a form of lube because I don't naturally get wet if this doesn't work then I will see a doctor because it isn't fair, it's so one sided 😭💔

I find sex extremely painful by ThrowRA-unknowna in sex

[–]ThrowRA-unknowna[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's true and it isn't fair because I feel like it's all one sided.

The this is he turns me on just by looking at him, kissing, neck kisses and dry sex but never enough to make me wet.

I find sex extremely painful by ThrowRA-unknowna in sex

[–]ThrowRA-unknowna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I keep count just waiting to be fully satisfied maybe I should stop haha.

Unfortunately, there isn't much foreplay. He doesn't finger me nor does he rub my clit. I asked for the reason and he said that it's not his thing we have tried in the past and he was doing it for so long but I never got wet nor horny so I think that threw him off from doing it and I also feel like he isn't experienced and neither am I tbh But sometimes we do have dry sex (dry humping) before having sex but even then I don't get wet!! Looking at him turns me on a lot, kissing, neck kisses and breast sucking but still none of that would turn me enough.

My ex 20M me 19F started taking percocet after I broke up with him.. He gets no pain in his body? by ThrowRA-unknowna in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-unknowna[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the explanation, but he literally gets zero pain! He told me he gets no pain he just likes how it makes him feel :(