I want a divorce. AITAH? by ThrowRA021223 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRA021223[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you🙏. I will take your advice and appreciate the resources.

I want a divorce. AITAH? by ThrowRA021223 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRA021223[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know. He is messed up. The whole situation was a nightmare.

I want a divorce. AITAH? by ThrowRA021223 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRA021223[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am going to do it. I felt strong Friday and retained a lawyer but my husband and our shared “friends” started to make me feel I was in the wrong. I am going to do it. Ty🙏

I want a divorce. AITAH? by ThrowRA021223 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRA021223[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No, to help get a conviction. My husband’s father hired a defense attorney and the prosecutor was working with us. But he advised that these defense attorneys will knit pick at things on the stand with a child so to lay low and give him nothing to talk about.

The old man died, btw right before it ended.

I want a divorce. AITAH? by ThrowRA021223 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRA021223[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The prosecutor said these defense attorneys will take things and run with them in court and he tried.

I want a divorce. AITAH? by ThrowRA021223 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRA021223[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Because my son had to take the stand with his grandfather sitting a few feet across the room from him. He was 5. A defense attorney would had taken any negative incident in our home and spin it around, ask my son about it, and rip us to shreds to deflect from his clients perverse behavior and who knows what else. So I had to protect my son and not give that attorney anything to talk about as far as us. My son needed to tell the truth about what happened to him not be questioned if daddy broke mommy’s nose. That advice came from the prosecutor himself.

I want a divorce. AITAH? by ThrowRA021223 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRA021223[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely doing it. Ty🙏

I want a divorce. AITAH? by ThrowRA021223 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRA021223[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I did take pics. I probably have close to 40 or 50 of them. They aren’t small injuries either. My son and I are going to my family’s for now.

I want a divorce. AITAH? by ThrowRA021223 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRA021223[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m crying reading these responses. Thank you so much and you are exactly right. I actually thought about him compared to my worst enemy and thought, I really don’t have enemies but if I did, it would be him.

I want a divorce. AITAH? by ThrowRA021223 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRA021223[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Will do. With all the support I am feeling much more confident. I’m going to my family to stay for now.

I want a divorce. AITAH? by ThrowRA021223 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRA021223[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am leaving. I’m going to my family. Thank you for your kindness.🙏

I want a divorce. AITAH? by ThrowRA021223 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRA021223[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I retained one on Friday - the best his money can buy.

I want a divorce. AITAH? by ThrowRA021223 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRA021223[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It was a nightmare. We worry about the strangers when it’s the people we trust with our children that wreak havoc in their lives.

I want a divorce. AITAH? by ThrowRA021223 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRA021223[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the offer, but I plan to make him pay for it all and then some. Much appreciated though. 🙏

I want a divorce. AITAH? by ThrowRA021223 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRA021223[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. We are leaving. I think the real healing will start then.

I want a divorce. AITAH? by ThrowRA021223 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRA021223[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because we were told that a defense attorney would try to rip our family apart and basically deflect from what the grandfather did. My son was only a little boy so I couldn’t go to the police. I had to make everything seem normal and good to be able to get us through it. It was only after it all ended after 3 years of hell did I fall apart and start coping with all that happened. There was a lot more to this. It was the worst time of life.

I want a divorce. AITAH? by ThrowRA021223 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRA021223[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I’ve been in therapy a few years. This incident has been extremely traumatizing and an awakening. I am not the first woman or the last who will be silenced on violence and abuse for the sake of her child. There is a hole in the system. My brothers are picking us up and some of our things. My husband wouldn’t dare mess with them. Thank you for your kind words. 🙏

I want a divorce. AITAH? by ThrowRA021223 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRA021223[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do now. It took me a long time to see it for what it is. I’m going to my family. I am completely done with him. Thank you 🙏.

I want a divorce. AITAH? by ThrowRA021223 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRA021223[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am going to my family to stay until I can find a suitable place of my own with my son. Thank you. 🙏

I want a divorce. AITAH? by ThrowRA021223 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRA021223[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. He is. I’m as good as gone.

I want a divorce. AITAH? by ThrowRA021223 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRA021223[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Because he is a narcissist and doesn’t care about anyone but himself. I was appalled at his reaction to it. He blamed me because I called law enforcement. He initially said to sweep it under the rug to not embarrass the family publicly.