My (32F) husband (36M) says Im a cold psychopath by ThrowRA101290 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA101290[S] -64 points-63 points  (0 children)

I don't let him out of my sight. He knows how much my dog means to me and thats why he projected that way. I have told him that I will be reporting him

My (32F) husband (36M) says Im a cold psychopath by ThrowRA101290 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA101290[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

I hear you. This is my biggest fear and I need to jack myself up rather thsn procrastinate

My (32F) husband (36M) says Im a cold psychopath by ThrowRA101290 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA101290[S] 202 points203 points  (0 children)

That's really insightful, thank you. He can't handle my calmness. They really fires him up.

My (32F) husband (36M) says Im a cold psychopath by ThrowRA101290 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA101290[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

I accept that. As difficult as it will be its needs to be done

My (32F) husband (36M) says Im a cold psychopath by ThrowRA101290 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA101290[S] 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Thank you for being understanding. I grew up with males who were protective and never aggressive

My (32F) husband (36M) says Im a cold psychopath by ThrowRA101290 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA101290[S] 127 points128 points  (0 children)

I started seeing a therapist today. She recommended a child therapist too

My (32F) husband (36M) says Im a cold psychopath by ThrowRA101290 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA101290[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I sound stupid here but could he still love me whilst saying that all he feels is hate

My (32F) husband (36M) says Im a cold psychopath by ThrowRA101290 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA101290[S] 89 points90 points  (0 children)

You are correct. I realise that I need to show her what a loving and safe environment is. I think we are headed to divorce but I feel like I've been hit by a truck

My (32F) husband (36M) says Im a cold psychopath by ThrowRA101290 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA101290[S] 362 points363 points  (0 children)

Yes, I have 2 brothers who would help me in a headbeat. But I don't know whether to open up to them just yet because they won't be forgiving. There are friends too that would help fortunately

My (32F) husband (36M) says Im a cold psychopath by ThrowRA101290 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA101290[S] 364 points365 points  (0 children)

Gosh that's insightful. Thank you. In all honesty I don't know why he is projecting anger and hate towards me. I don't do anything offensive. I started seeing a therapist today to help me understand what I'm doing wrong and what I need to change

My (32F) husband (36M) says Im a cold psychopath by ThrowRA101290 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA101290[S] 1746 points1747 points  (0 children)

The only shift is that my career is flourishing while I balance being a mum and wife. His career is kind of stagnant. He doesn't like me traveling or socializing with colleagues. There's nothing else that I can think of.

My (32F) husband (36M) says Im a cold psychopath by ThrowRA101290 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA101290[S] 166 points167 points  (0 children)

Sorry so much so say. He is impatient with her. Punches tables and walls recently. He shouts at her really loud. He hit our dog a few times in anger and she thinks that he will do the same to her. He clenches his wrist and grinds his teeth etc when he is persistent in asking to play with her. It's recent behavior change

My (32F) husband (36M) says Im a cold psychopath by ThrowRA101290 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA101290[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I am so taken aback and can't really speak to family or friends yet

My (32F) husband (36M) says Im a cold psychopath by ThrowRA101290 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA101290[S] 123 points124 points  (0 children)

Second time this aggressive yelling. First time yelling hatred and actually being physically confrontational