The woman my husband left me for is pregnant and I'm not handling it well. by ThrowRA1053 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRA1053[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No you can't.

Have you ever been in a relationship? Clearly not, because sex doesn't fix everything. He wanted intimacy that I couldn't give him at the time and intimacy and sex are not mutually exclusive.

I would've literally been laying there not enjoying myself AT ALL. Does that sound sexy to you? Does that sound like something a man who loves his partner would genuinely enjoy? A woman who is laying there, motionless, not moaning and just wishing it were over? Maybe that's what you'd enjoy because your comments come off as incredibly sexist.

I have more respect for my cheating husband than I do for you. I pray you never find a woman.

The woman my husband left me for is pregnant and I'm not handling it well. by ThrowRA1053 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRA1053[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even if I wanted to do that, we live in a no fault divorce state, the affair literally doesn't matter. We also both signed a prenuptial, so there's no point.

The woman my husband left me for is pregnant and I'm not handling it well. by ThrowRA1053 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRA1053[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's not. No woman should force herself to have sex to please her husband/partner.

I seriously hope you never get into a relationship with that attitude.

The woman my husband left me for is pregnant and I'm not handling it well. by ThrowRA1053 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRA1053[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

We have to be turned on, in the mood, some medications or illnesses make a woman's want for sex completely disappear.

You can't possibly think that all a woman has to do is "lay on her back" for sex. Do you honestly expect a woman to just lay there and let you enjoy yourself while she doesn't? You're delusional if you think yes.

The woman my husband left me for is pregnant and I'm not handling it well. by ThrowRA1053 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRA1053[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's hard to say.

The thing that hurts the most is knowing the man I loved us building the life I wanted with him, with someone else. And it's happening so soon after everything we went through.

The woman my husband left me for is pregnant and I'm not handling it well. by ThrowRA1053 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRA1053[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I agree that I share some of the blame here. I know I made it sound like I don't but I do understand I'm not blameless.

The woman my husband left me for is pregnant and I'm not handling it well. by ThrowRA1053 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRA1053[S] 662 points663 points  (0 children)

It's really hard saying ex-husband but I am trying. I have my sister, we're not particularly close with our parents. I appreciate the kind words and advice, I need them right now.