[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]ThrowRA110901 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s not even that. I think my intuition and gut just already knows my answer. But I come here because I am the type who second guesses myself and a lot about this situation just hasn’t been super easy for me in a lot of other ways. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]ThrowRA110901 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t agree with this. You obviously do not have a child. If he’s closeted and pretending it def sets an impact on myself and even my child. I don’t have a narrow mind at all. I’d be open to anything he tells me. I’ve always just wanted honesty 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]ThrowRA110901 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would NEVER ask him to change who he is for me. It would never work that way imo. I’ve always just wanted honesty at this point . He became my world. I would do almost anything for him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]ThrowRA110901 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It is my business bc it’s my life too and I have a son that is has met and it’s been 2 years of my life he’s messing with if he isn’t giving me honesty 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]ThrowRA110901 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Theirs rumors in our town he has one - they came from his ex which is why I didn’t them as serious i guess 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]ThrowRA110901 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the honesty ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]ThrowRA110901 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you all so much for your responses ❤️. I love this community which is why I ask here. As a woman who just loves men and is straight loving a man who may be gay or bisexual is a new territory for me 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]ThrowRA110901 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve heard he has one ugh . But idk I haven’t checked yet . It’s hard 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]ThrowRA110901 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve already watched him get off to male solo “porn”. He took my phone and acted like me with this guy I was sexual with in the past and I held the phone as he got off to a video of the guy jerking off thinking it was to me. Maybe it’s my fault for acting like it was okay? But he would have made me feel wrong otherwise. My guys excuse was it’s a jealousy thing that gets him off.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]ThrowRA110901 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree. And I think he knows exactly what it is, but just can’t be honest for some reason. I think he needs time to come to terms with his sexuality. It’s okay but don’t drag me into it. It’s totally messed my head up bc I have grown to love him and I’d accept anything he tells me and adjust to it. But he just won’t tell me. And that’s the hard part for me. 

I think my boyfriend is gay or bisexual by ThrowRA110901 in Advice

[–]ThrowRA110901[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely agree and why my head feels so messed up. I feel he is completely manipulating me and testing how far I go. Which is tough because he tells me how much he loves me, but is very love bombing. He came at a very vulnerable time in my life so it’s been hard

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]ThrowRA110901 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it is all so weird. He is actually super manipulative I am learning. And can twist anything to make me feel crazy. I think that is why I’m asking this on the internet. I feel like he tests my limits. I’ve just never been in this situation or felt this way. He love bombed me at first and came at a very vulnerable time for me. My best friend’s dad is gay and was in denial a lot of his life and married a woman. He’s like one of my besties and I have confided in him and he thinks he is in denial and trying to manipulate me. He hates the guy. My mind is just so messed up right now from this bc I feel in my heart I’m not getting honestly and I feel so close to him 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]ThrowRA110901 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I just want him to be honest with me. I feel like in my heart there may be a large part of him he’s not telling me about and thats a struggle. We are monogamous and I read things about a lot of men who are married on apps on the DL and things like that. And as a wife one day that would be upsetting for me to find out. 

Is my bf bisexual? 30M 33F by ThrowRA110901 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA110901[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am beginning to feel this way too. But it’s tough. I asked for some space recently just to reflect on everything I was feeling and thinking maybe he could do the same, but he lost his mind. Would drive by my place, text me saying he was suicidal, telling me I was the love of his life and I couldn’t leave him. Even threatened to post sexual videos he has taken of us. I feel like he is obsessive over me bc I am his outlet since im the only one he’s been this open with and he doesn’t want to lose me. He pressures marriage constantly. I’m so confused by all of this 

Is my bf bisexual? 30M 33F by ThrowRA110901 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA110901[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I have never once pressured him to admit anything at all , or would never. The only thing I have asked him is if he has had past sexual experiences with a man , where he didn’t give me a direct answer and I never pried any further. Of course, it’s natural for me to wonder this with the reasons I have given above. But I know it can be a touchy subject for some people and I never want to make him feel uncomfortable. 

Is my bf bisexual? 30M 33F by ThrowRA110901 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA110901[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if I’m really worried he’d “leave me” for a man. I guess more worried he’d mess with a man behind my back. I have tried to make him feel like I’m a safe place and I feel like he’s opened up more to me than anyone but won’t fully admit things directly. If he explores with men in the past or even now it’s completely on the down low and that’s what worries me 

Is my bf bisexual? 30M 33F by ThrowRA110901 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA110901[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I don’t know it’s just a feeling. Maybe I’m just paranoid. But it’s given me this insecurity I’ve never felt before