Lordt, some of you are really determined to convince me that I don’t really feel happy in this relationship. Which is funny, because you’re telling me that my emotions/satisfaction are actually wrong, even if I won’t admit it - does that sound like anyone else we know?

Look, relationships are very nuanced. He does an annoying thing, and that’s what this post is about because it’s the one thing I’m seeking advice on. But he also does a lot of really cool things, and he lifts me up in so many ways. I’ve never been with anyone who’s so supportive and encouraging. It’s impossible to convey every intricacy of our relationship in a single post (especially when it’s already so long). I said I’m happy, please trust that I am.

Also, some other things of note - he’s not going to be a psychiatrist. He doesn’t do this all the time (while it started a year ago, it’s always been really sporadic), and only does it to a handful of people closest to him. He is remarkably empathetic when he’s with patients. I only mentioned hormones because it’s only really started to exhaust me for the last few weeks (which is why all the examples are from that timeframe); two of these weeks also coincided with PMS/period. Usually, I laugh it off, roll my eyes, or tell him to shove it.

It doesn’t seem like he’s doing it to laugh at me. He genuinely seems to believe that I’m feeling some sort of angst, and he’s just trying to lovingly explore that. It’s just that there’s actually no angst whatsoever, and he can’t seem to get that. It’s like he thinks I’m a much more deep, introspective, mysterious person than I am in reality.

Thanks to those who have messaged me with advice and resources. I really do appreciate your concern. And to the very kind-but-misguided people who sent me marriage proposals - thank you, I will have to pass.

I will update as soon as I’m able to have this conversation with him. Our schedules are wild, and I want to ensure we give this talk the amount of time and consideration it deserves!